Terrified on Love
By babylove11
@babylove11 (70)
Philippines
June 8, 2012 6:42am CST
I have been through a few relationships yet I never gave up on love. I know someday there'll be that someone who will love me. My last relationship ended last January of this year. I was totally heart broken since she dumped me with another girl. But I am over it now and I am happy.
I met someone just this March. I never thought I'd fall in love this early. I told myself that I'd give it a rest but there are just circumstances that you can't control. At first, I was in denial. But eventually, I gave in. I just don't understand why all of a sudden I am terrified of being in love with her. Although we have this mutual understanding, I'm still scared. She makes me laugh without any reason. She gives me butterflies in my stomach. She is just everything I wanted but I'm just too terrified to jump into the next level. Maybe because of the distance between us.
But despite of it, I always make sure to communicate with her and vice-versa. We are not really a couple but we are happy just the way we are. There is no assurance or security but who has, right?! All I know is we make each other happy. I'd like to think I am as important as she is to me. There is a glimpse of hope that someday our love will grow into something more than what we have now.
3 responses
@babylove11 (70)
• Philippines
14 Jun 12
I appreciate your opinion. Thank you. I guess, I am the only one who can tell if I am ready to fall in love or not. Don't worry because I am taking things slow but surely when it comes to love. I believe that my past experiences made me a mature person.
@kenshin2143 (1880)
• Philippines
10 Jun 12
Do not make harsh decisions for you might regret it later. You mentioned that you are both HAPPY with each other. I emphasized happy because it is very easy to tell that you love a person when you are happy, relaxed and full of joys. But when time comes that there will be waves and problems, that will be the time that your affection for her will be tested. If you still love her after those waves, you might then move on to the next level. :)
@babylove11 (70)
• Philippines
14 Jun 12
I understand what you mean. Well, I've been through good times and bad times with her yet I still feel the same. I know for myself when I truly care for someone it doesn't fade that easily. When problem arise, those are just things that will make both of you strong. If you really love each other then those trials or problems won't matter. Thank you so much for sharing your opinion. Have a great day!
@JenAC1984 (233)
• United States
8 Jun 12
Hello babylove11,
I am so happy that you have found love. I too was afraid of love before I met my husband. Everyone else from my past had hurt and betrayed me. Yet, when I looked into his eyes, I seen trust, loyality and a very loving man that had also been through a few, very hard and sad relationships.
I would talk to her about these fears. I would tell her that your heart feels so much more than what the relationship consists of now, even though it sounds really loving so far. If you want more from her, take it in small amounts, as she too could be afraid. Have you asked her what you truely mean to her?
This is a new love and it takes awhile to build a trusting relationship; one that is strong and meant to stand through the good times and the bad. Love is so very powerful. It can be the best feeling in the world and at times, be the worst. Yet, if you allow yourself to be fearful, you may miss out on the good; the positive you know?
I would set back and write down things you wish to speak to her about. Remember them so you don't leave any detail out of the conversation. Tell her you are looking for more in the relationship, that is, if you feel you want to take it to the next level. I would say to just have fun, laugh with her even more and plan fun things to do together! I hope my advice helps! Have a wonderful day!
@babylove11 (70)
• Philippines
14 Jun 12
This is so nice of you. Thank you so much for taking time to respond on my discussion. I'm pretty sure you have a lovely relationship with your husband. I wish you more wonderful years together. I wish I have the same but I know in time I will be able to have that kind of relationship with the one I love. Thank you for the advice. I will surely take time to ask her. Have a great day to you!
