my take on bedsharing

I do not have a kid yet but I think sharing bed with your baby until toddler age is just okay. It also depends on your culture since here, majority of parents allow their kids to sleep with them until they would want to have a separate bed. Personally I think 5 years above could be a good age for them to have their own bed although they can still share bed with us if they would have nightmares.:P

We have our niece sleeping beside us, her mom and me. sometimes it's just us her aunties who sleep with her. Well, first of all, we just live in a home where there are two bedrooms. Meaning, one is for our parents and the other is for us, their children and our niece. My niece is now five years old and she is still sleeping beside us. It is because we don't like her sleeping alone, of course! and she is our little one, and our only baby in the house. How old are your girls now? Of course, they would be scared at first when they have to sleep alone. But then, in time they will learn to sleep alone. Well, my niece sleeps alone in the afternoon even without someone beside her. But during night, we have to sleep besdie her still...after all we don't have other places to sleep either...

I think it really just depends on the child. We sometimes have our son sleep in our bed, but he usually sleeps in his own bed. I have friends who cosleep, and others who wouldn't even consider it. I just do what works for us.

I would say that for the most part my kids did not sleep with me. I'd heard too much about suffocating and all and did not want to take any risks. I did have a baby monitor by their beds so that I could hear them although I imagine that I would have anyway. That being said, I can't tell you how many times we snuggled on the couch while nursing in the middle of the night and fell asleep together. The sleeping together happened but it wasn't deliberate. When the got a bit older, they were allowed to on occasions but it wasn't a normal routine for us. We usually went to bed much later than them. I also think it is important for a husband and wife to focus on each other and find time for their relationship which is pretty hard to do when you have kids.

with my daughter (who is the oldest) her crib was in our room and that's where she slept. when her brother came along, he slept in the bassinet in our room. when he outgrew the bassinet, we got her a toddler bed and he took the crib. they shared a bedroom together till they were preteens. now, they each have their own room.

My children had been sharing the bed with me until they were 3 or more years old. My first son had slept with me until he was 3 years old because by the time he was 4, he already lived with my parents until he finished the elementary grades. I can't remember when my second son shared our bed because our home is just a very little house and all of us slept in the same bed. My youngest daughter has been with me until the present when she's already a teener.

My daughter when she was still a baby sleeps on our pull out bed while my husband and i on the connecting bed. I would always let her sleep first, before i crawl to our bed. And when she cries at night , i would attend go down to her bed to attend to her. That happened until she was already i think in Grade 2 since no other baby came after her anymore. But should a new baby would have come, they would be transferred to next room. Then we had her sleep in the next room, when my niece came to live with us while she studies where my daughter goes to school too. Now that we transferred to my parents in-law house to accompany them in this big house, whenever our daughter is vacation from school in the far metropolis, she sleeps in our room, in a separate bed. My husband and i liked it that way, than letting her go alone in another room, which she doesn't like either. That way, we get to bond specially at night when we watch DVD or nice shows on TV before sleeping.