Just a thought

Surely if we are really friends, in the true definition, then we already share our thoughts and interests and we would have already exchanged email adresses and even phone numbers? I certainly have exchanged contacts with many Lotters during the years since I joined. With those whom I am in close contact and we share things that cannot be shared in the open on the pages of myLot or elsewhere online. We have even been in phone contact and all that remains is to meet in person. Of course, 'friend' these days is sadly a loose definition...

I have not thought in exactly these lines but a similar thought has flitted across my mind once--"Suppose something happens to me, how will my lot friends know this" and my answer was to just write down my password and user name in a note book of mine so that people at home can access my account at least and inform the forum. Moreover, I have good friends from my lot with whom I have exchanged mail IDs and am certain that someone of them will get in touch sometime or the other[even if it is after a few months] and get to know about what happened. I have been a member for six years and this has become a part of my other routine activities. As for your idea of giving the address of a contact number, you will have to get the consent of the contact number first. I feel it would be better to give our own identity to a contact asking the person to inform my lot, if anything untoward has happened or something serious has prevented us from accessing the forum for extended periods of time.

It would be nice if we always knew where some of the people are that disappear from time to time here are. Some of the ones who used to be active here are now on my Facebook so that is a plus, but not all. I know in my case from time to time when I have disappeared it is usually because of Health, but there are a few who know how to contact me.

If two people has already became "friend" then they should already exchanged their email address, maybe via private message. Personally, I think we shouldn't put our email address on publicity here. I doubt people will use it to ask for current news or such. I think they mostly will use it for just spamming referral links..

I think I understand what you are saying? I used to watch a member here and now I don't see this person. I've caught myself wondering what happened and if they are ok. For some reason we begin to care about certain people we 'like' and I suspect you are saying, it would be nice not to worry. It is touching that someone would care about someone else. I think if I felt it was a colder enviroment for debate only (I've been to sites like that) I could accept it, only my comments now being placed into a discussion would change to a more structured post into a forum board debate. Just some thoughts too.

Yes sometimes it really awful that we forget how good friends we were and when somebody go like in other country we forget our contacts. I think that we really have to exchange our phones or e-mails when we leave somewhere for a long period. So it is good when somebody leave somewhere for long time of period to exchange phones e-mails with his friends!

I, think I for one know what you are saying; e.g. I give you my son's e-mail, so that if I am NOT responding, you can at least put your mind at ease, by contacting him...have I got it right? To use your word, I just recently took a self-induced "protracted" period of silence...and I do know, one or two of you--wondered? Your mind would have been put at ease if there would have been an alternate contact..right? This sorta relates to a discussion I had sometime ago.."The List"! There are times "silence is NOT golden" (of which I am guilty!).

It is true, some time some of the contacts just disappears and never come back. Seriously, if we get their mail ids also will be helpful. However, these days people have multiple mail ids and some of them were not at all active and if we contact them sometimes we never get a response as they never go back to their ids which are created with different service providers.

Yes,you are right.We can stay in touch.But we should also worry about all our emails being exposed.Tons of emails will be got from email directories from here and all of us will be receiving spams from various people.That is the problem of exposing our email.May be,some other method of staying in touch can be adopted.But I have no idea about it.Lets see someone comes up with it.

well if they are true friends then maybe you have already exchange phone numbers and emails with each other already. others wont give their information because some people are not true. but i hope they will communicate with you soon. :D

Actually Mylot is not a social networking site.It's a site for debates.A platform on which we share our views on various issues and our experiences with each other.We can hide our real names here and we may prefer not to disclose our countries,hometowns and other personal information.Perhaps that's why we can't locate or find out our missing friends here on Mylot.We have social networking sites like Facebook available for the purpose.

That is a good idea indeed. But some practical difficulties present. If it is mobile number or other contact numbers we could contact them easily to find what is happening there. As through mail, only when they open the mail they get to know about us, and we are searching for them. Whatever the media of communication present, it should be like our duty to inform friends before going off which I learned later.

why? no relationshipe. each other wll be strange

Everything has to go some day, there is nothing to stay forever, so accept the fact and enjoy what is there with you.