" Let's renew our vows!"

Hi Sarah, When I was married, I definitly would not have been excited had my spouse asked me to renew our vows. I had a hard enough time with the whole wedding thing to begin with. I would not have wanted to repeat it and that would have had nothing at all to do with how much I loved him. I just did not get into the whole ceremony and the cost and so many people etc. I also would not have been worried. If he asked me in a time when our marriage was still good, I'd have just said..."no. We can't afford this, you know how I hate these kinds of things. NO!!" I loved him, trusted him and would have felt confident that he'd be ok with that. I think I would have thought it was cool that he asked but I'd have declined. Toward the end, when things were really bad, I would have just felt he was being desperate. I would not have been worried. Kind of like he fixed me a romantic lobster dinner and started sending me flowers and leaving me love notes when I was on my way out...too much, too late. Love is love whether you say those vows to each other legally or in private or not at all.

We have already planned to renew our vows when we first got married so neither of us have had to say it. It wouldn't worry me if my hubby said he wanted to renew our vows. I would be happy about it not like overly excited, but it would be nice to plan and work together and have our kids help us out in a wedding because this time it's not about just us but about what has happened since the last time we said our vows adding new family to our family because last time it was just the two of us now we have more and family to that list it's not about just our love but the love we have for a little ones. I know it sounds corny.

Oh my spouse would be thrilled to, except I wouldn't want the "Christian" wedding, but under a hoopa and of course when I mentioned "that" to him, like anything else that is not Christian, he immediately says "NO!" Funny how out of all life questions, the only time he is quick to say no to is anything Biblical, that is what the Bible really says and not what man "thinks" it says..

I'd wonder which vows he was talking about! Actually, I think it's a nice idea if you've been together for a long time. People and circumstances change over time, and I think it's nice to reaffirm that you still mean as much to each other as you once did.

If my husband said that to me I would be happy. For a few reasons... 1. He is still just as in love with me as the day we first said our vows, its a comfort I guess. 2. Our first wedding was not what either of us wanted. We had no money. We got married in our Church with 8 people there. No reception and No honeymoon. =( Not a good memory overall. 3. He would actually have the money to have a real wedding this time! Yay! LOL. I do believe renewing vows is a nice thing to do if you can afford it. I think it says we want to show the world we are just as in love as we were all of those years ago. It gives people the chance to do things better than the first time. And it proves to the people that never thought you would make it that far that yes we did make it and yes we are still so in love... There were plenty of people that thought my husband and I would be divorced by now, proved them wrong big time. Just my thoughts on it. =)

I think a lot of the vow renewal business started when they started having marriage enrichment type retreats and it was sort of a culmination to have a kind of group marriage vow renewal ceremony as part of it. Other people started doing it as something special to celebrate a 25th anniversary. Me? If it were important to my husband, I wouldn't object, but I doubt if he'd every ask. We are busy enough, and if anything I think we'd rather take that honeymoon we never had. Both of us hate dressing up. As someone already said, this can be a daily and private act in the heart. For those who want to use this as another excuse to throw a party, I have no objection. I just am not that fond of big parties. I'd rather go away somewhere just with my husband.

For me it's not about BIG, it's about PERSONAL. I'd take it as an opportunity to do something special that celebrates our live. If you ask me. one can never do that too many times! :) I think it's a fun way to celebrate a wonderful marriage. Like our first wedding celebration with family, we'd try and do something culturally significant to us. Danish-Canadian for me, Russian-American for him.

My husband and I had this discussion years ago. I have to say neither of us cared much for the idea. So if my husband was to say this to me now I'd think he went crazy! Don't get me wrong, I love my husband, but I'm not into renewing our vows. We already had a wedding. I certainly wouldn't be make plans for another one. The first one was nerve wrecking enough! LOL Happy mylotting!

My husband and I were actually planning to do this around our 5- or 10-year anniversary. Now that our 5-year is coming up in a couple years, we'll see if it actually happens lol. Doing so does not terrify me or anything because I view it more as a celebration, almost like a wedding reception several years later. We'd want to have family and friends there, but I don't think it would be more than 100 people or so. I'm not sure that gifts are really necessary either. I'd probably just want them there to share that special day with us. I don't view renewing of vows a necessity for couples to stay together. It's just something I'd like to do for us so we are reminded of why we chose one another and why we'll stay together forever! Couples who choose to renew their vows and couples who don't still have the same chance as far as I'm concerned, so I don't think marriage necessarily means you have to do this. Another reason I'd like to renew our vows is so that my parents and family will attend. If we were to renew our vows, I know my family would attend this time. It probably sounds a little strange after all they've put us through, but I'd still invite them and want them to be there. We'd then (finally) have marriage photos with them and us! My hubby and me have good intentions of doing this, but we'll see. I think our marriage will be just as strong either way!

Well in my case that would be an impossibility right now. And I would never, ever renew my vows with that evil one. But wit my girl now, if I were married to her, then I would love to renew my vows.