When I was new here......
@allknowing (137748)
India
June 11, 2012 3:37am CST
When I was new here I felt as though I had entered the portals of a college with seniors waiting to gobble me up! Having not read the guidelines and faqs and yet venturing to participate meant that I had to pay a heavy price with seniors reprimanding me left, right and centre!.
Do share your experiences!
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15 responses
@redvakaurvaki (4216)
• Indonesia
12 Jun 12
when I was new, I thought that this is a stranger place. I don't know what to do, but then see others discuss their personal problem too. so I do the same, but then I meet someone whom he is my social network friend, he read that and ask me about that. OMG!! I'm so shy about that!!
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@allknowing (137748)
• India
12 Jun 12
That is why one is advised never to post one's picture nor give one's real name. Did you do that?
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@allknowing (137748)
• India
13 Jun 12
That's the point. No one knows my user ID not even my family. So if close to you or anyone else know your IDs it is as good as knowing your real name!
@redvakaurvaki (4216)
• Indonesia
13 Jun 12
I never use my real name in any forum, but I use one username as my default identity in forum. but still some people near me familiar with my username
@snam23 (3157)
• United States
12 Jun 12
It seems a lot of us had trouble getting settled, especially with reading the guidelines and such.
When I was new, all I could think about was the money. I tried to calculate how many posts per day it would take me to reach my payout but I was so frustrated because I couldn't find the earning rate! But then, a fellow mylotter and one of the first friends I made on mylot, mysdianait, taught me over time that there was more to mylot than the money. And I'm so glad I listed!
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@allknowing (137748)
• India
12 Jun 12
I is a good thing that veterans can now guide newbies without their responses being deleted which was not so in the past.
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@allknowing (137748)
• India
12 Jun 12
Very few here would have the kind of smooth sailing that you have enjoyed. But somehow it was not so for me. But that is hisotry now and perhaps I could teach them a thing or two!
@sacmom (14192)
• United States
13 Jun 12
I have no plans to leave either. If anything I plan to stick around for a long time!
@allknowing (137748)
• India
12 Jun 12
Some kind of complex sets in when one sees these veterans having a swell time while the newbies crawl. Soon that changes but not without some hurt feelings here and there. You have stuck and so have I and I have no plans to leave in a hurry!
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@viji_v2 (727)
• India
11 Jun 12
When I was new here three years before, it is like a world of aliens in mylot . I just got confused what to do and what not to do even after reading the questions. By repeated experience from here, and from other friends I learned a lot about mylot and even the other subjects too.
@allknowing (137748)
• India
12 Jun 12
You must be still learning, as a whole lifetime is not enough to understand this rather enigmatic site!
@pergammano (7682)
• Canada
11 Jun 12
This is the second of your discussions that HAVE NOT been anywhere in my mail! Running to work now, will check your profile...judy in case notifications have been turned off...I know I did not do it--!!~
Yes....Cranky grandparents, sometimes here...I nearly "packed up my tent and headed for higher ground" in my first year here! Will share more later!! Off to work!
@pergammano (7682)
• Canada
12 Jun 12
NOW, dearheart...I can see the humour in my behaviour, at being re-buffed and chagrined here! Once..after receiving a caustic and cerbic response, I sat in front of my computer with tears awash..and vowed to never return! And it was senior members! But, alas, one senior member whom had be-friended me (in the early stages) sent a PM..with urges to carry-on! That gave me "moxie"...and here I am! I am very thankful, for that...as I would have missed some of the other wonders of the world....LIKE YOU!
@allknowing (137748)
• India
12 Jun 12
You too perga...? Amazing that there are so many of us who had to wade through troubled waters to survive. But survive we did!
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@megamatt (14291)
• United States
11 Jun 12
Having been a new person on many websites in the past, many forums, I had a good idea what I could have been getting myself into. When you're new, you're swimming with the sharks. Either you appease them by playing by their rules or you get eaten up by them and become like the never ending stream of individuals who have tried to go against nature and pay.
Mistakes, I've made a few...dozen or so. Especially in that first month or so. I think the entire time during my first month where I had no idea of how this website truthfully worked and even after reading the guidelines, it took a while to find my feet. I think that if you can by with the first few months, you're likely in for the long battle more often than not.
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@allknowing (137748)
• India
12 Jun 12
Yes. Sharks is a better word. I felt it that way too in the beginning in that I almost gave up given my touchy nature. You are doing well. You are not just alive but kicking too!
@allknowing (137748)
• India
12 Jun 12
'still' did you say? You cannot be called a veteran yet with a mere 54 posts! You have a long way to go before anyone here stops point at guidelines to you. Welcome to myLot and start going through the guidelines yourself so that you don't have to have someone else showing them to you.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
11 Jun 12
When I was new here I felt like a fish that entered into a shark tank! I was worried because I had no idea what I was doing. Once I read everything and got more familiar with it all, I got addicted quick! =) Now you cannot get me to leave, lol.
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@allknowing (137748)
• India
12 Jun 12
So you are stuck like a leech - keep the tempo going. May be you too are on your way to becoming a shark? But there are kind sharks too you know that leave the tiny fish alone!
@Suebee (2013)
• Canada
12 Jun 12
When I was new here (and I say that loosely as I am still new, lol) I read the guidelines over and over again. This is the first, and so far the only, site that I go on where I make money. I didn't want to be in violation of any of the guidelines and I took them very seriously. As I started to get the hang of it more and more I am much more comfortable on here. I think I figured it out pretty quickly and know how to enjoy it now. I asked some questions of the veterans but I can't say that I felt like they were reprimanding me. In fact, I think they were quite gentle with me, lol. It was all a learning process.
@allknowing (137748)
• India
13 Jun 12
You belong to the new era that encourages users to guide others and Admin tolerates topics even though the answers are in the faqs and guidelines. But in the days that I was a newbie posting such topics where a no no and getting brick bats from veterans was a natural reaction. I have watched your participation and I see you are quite comfortable even though I would still say that you be called a newbie even now but performing like a veteran!
@allknowing (137748)
• India
13 Jun 12
There was a lot of flaming in those days and rude exchanges. There were syndicates and they would enmasse attack users. Hopefully that is history now. I too got my 10 stars quite fast but because of the 'syndicate' attack it went down and once it goes down it is difficult to get it back.
@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
12 Jun 12
When I was new here 2 months ago, I felt that I am in the middle of a big library with lots of open books around me where I can read all them anytime I want. But of course as a newbie I felt insecure because lots of people here are already established their reputations and has lots of friends while me just starting and trying hard to have friends and earn a reputations. Most of the seniors here give me chance to prove myself that I dont need to be insecure because all of them was also became a newbie before. They served as my inspirations in life that if you work hard you will get anything what you want and you can earn more if you have patient and decidication for what your doing. :)
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@allknowing (137748)
• India
12 Jun 12
Things have improved a lot here in that veterans are encouraged to help newbies unlike in those days each time a newbie posed a question it was deleted.
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@lafredricktaylor (256)
• United States
12 Jun 12
Well I am still fairly new myself. But i dont think i felt as if i was a freshman. I didnt know what was going on, so i just started out with the MyLot discussion boards and read the post of all the other questions that were answered. And the main import links that i had questions about Ms D had them already posted. So reading is fundemental!
@allknowing (137748)
• India
12 Jun 12
You got it all the right way and not many would be in that list. It is the excitement to start right away that some do not go through guidelines and get themselves into trouble!
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@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
23 Jun 12
When I was new I started everything in the general category..lol. I also didn't know anyone here so there were many time when my discussions went unanswered. I have just recently got answers to a them I remember being discouraged a couple of times and then I had a few wonderful myLotters take me under their wings. I remember rushing to the computer when I could just to see what they had started or if they had responded to me. Oh...I was reprimanded a few times too
@allknowing (137748)
• India
24 Jun 12
Your star and rating is enough testimony to the kind of peace you enjoy here!