taking care of hubby
@angelwithkids (1256)
United States
June 11, 2012 7:50pm CST
he had his little procedure done today. dr was a little concerned about the fact that she had to cut deeper into his arm. they sent the core to be biopsied. so now we wait for the results. i'm praying that it doesn't come back positive for any cancer cells. now we wait for his appt to do a colonoscopy to make sure what they saw last month isn't cancerous too. maybe i should go ahead and quit my job so i can take care of him.
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@ladygator (3465)
• United States
12 Jun 12
Angelwithkids,
I am sorry to hear about your concerns with your husband. It is very scary to see your husband hurting and afraid. My hubby got really sick with the flu about 6 years ago. I was worried since it seemed to be getting worse. Then one day while I was at work, his sister came over to check on him and he was doing really bad. She rushed him right to the hospitol. Its a good thing too, because he was stubborn when I tried to get him to go. His kindeys had shut down. His body was basically quiting. When I went to see him in the hospitol I was so so so sad to see him in that state. My strong healthy husband was so weak and frail there in that bed. When I left later that night I broke down and felt like the worst wife there was ever. But he got better and the doc told us that is was exasperated by him taking Nyquil without food. With that happening to us I completely understand the necessity to take care of him. So what will work best for your family is what you should do. But I would only recommend quiting your job if you guys will be okay financially because that will add a ton of stressors.
@angelwithkids (1256)
• United States
13 Jun 12
that's what i'm trying to figure out. especially if the roommate moves out this month. i want to make sure we can still take care of everything. my daughter is now into college and has a job. my son will be a senior so all the expenses we had for her, i'll have again for him.
@ladygator (3465)
• United States
13 Jun 12
Yeah thats good that you are giving this consideration to help hubby. But its also smart to fist figure out your budget. I am not sure where you live, but for us the job economy is tough as nails. So going any time without employment can last a long time since it seems to be easier to get a job when you already have one.
Can you get a new roomate if this one moves out?
Best to you and yur family.
@angelwithkids (1256)
• United States
5 Aug 12
the biopsy came out negative. they still don't know what it was but i'm just happy to know that all the tests came out negative. we're happy about that!
@randylovesdar (4932)
• United States
12 Jun 12
I know how it feels to have a sick husband because Randy has been sick as well. Randy has a serious foot condition which has resulted him in not being able to work at all. I am currently not working because I want to take care of him instead of hiring a nurse (although my parents want me to)and it has been a struggle. Randy and I are in college (both online) and we get financial aid money and Randy will be getting Social Security and Disability in August. I would have a heart-to-heart talk with your husband and ask him for his opinion and also check your budget to see if you can afford to not work for a little while. I know that once things settle down with Randy and he has fewer doctor's appointments. He has five appointments this month and my brother is nice to come with us.
@angelwithkids (1256)
• United States
13 Jun 12
he's been qanting me to quit due to other issues. i'd been resisting as i wasn't quite ready to to loose the extra income. but now, i'm giving it more serious thought. still not quite ready to loose the money, but i don't want to go through the hassle of getting a day off when he has to go to the va hospital.
@Kashidanga1971 (1354)
• Bangladesh
12 Jun 12
Each and every hubby should treat their hubby as like you are treating at the moment. You perhapes invested all of your love to get the profit like peace and prosperity of your family. You all stay good. Thanks
@lucindaluna (20)
• United States
12 Jun 12
Be strong, I quit my job to take care of my hubby and children on a normal daily basis I couldn't imagine it with a sick or injured hubby. You will feel what is right if you have the opportunity to change things in your current situation.
