Alright, now I'm REALLY starting to hate being around them

I know how you feel about living with your parents because Randy and I moved in with my parents back in October and things have been worse. Randt has a serious foot condition (called Charcot's Foot) where his arch is completely gone and the bones in his foot are breaking. After several months of arguing and getting all the necesary paperwork Randy is able to collect Social Security and Disability, however the payments will not be coming until August. What my parents do not know yet is that once we get his money we will be looking for an apartment (section 8) for a little while so we can catch up on bills. I am not working because of Randy's health and the fact that he has a lot of doctor's appointments and I want to be there for him. My mother keeps on saying, "well, a good wife would be working full-time and hire a nurse to take care of her husband". The other night I had a dream where his mom came down from heaven and told me that I am doing the right thing by taking care of my husband. My mother thinks she can run my life and now she tells me that she needs help paying bills because she is behind. I told her that if you can show me your budget and show me how your income and dad's income do not pay for everything I will help out. I know that most of their paychecks goes towards credit card debt and buying things for my niece and nephews (they spoil them). Since you are in school can you live on campus or maybe find a roommate?

Have you already think of your future if you're going to live alone? you think you can handle things with your own? I'am always get pissed living with my family and sometimes go to the point where i also want to live on my own. You may live on your own, but the real question will be, will you be satisfied? I came to this part that i realize that no matter how i live alone without them, things will come out different even i get pissed to them sometimes, i'll miss it since it became a part of me. For me, if you're going to live your own, your just running away with your problem instead of facing it.

since you can't move out just yet, why not sit down with your parents and explain how you feel? since you're not a teenager anymore, it's time to reevaluate the rules. show them how you are an adult now and that you deserve right to privacy and the dreams/goals that you want for yourself. my daughter, who is 18, just recently graduated and we sat down to reevaluate the rules for her.

I completely understand how you feel. We just moved out of my parents house 6 months ago. I know how difficult it is. We also have 3 children (who they thought belonged to them while living there), it was really HARD! My parents are not crazy about my husband and my husband feels the same way about them in return. Trust me it was hell for me. I felt trapped between them and it was a terrible experience. They are very controlling, judgemental people. I truly hope somehow you find a way to be on your own soon. I can totally sympathize with you!

It's a hard reality that if we want to earn a living, we have to do what people want to pay us for, and that sometimes means we have to work at jobs we don't especially love. I wanted to be a librarian in a small branch library where I did everything -- reference, acquisitions, children's, the works. Unfortunately, there was not a library school where we had to move to for my husband's grad school and I had to get a teaching credential instead and teach for a few years. This is not what I wanted to do, and I quit as soon as I could. My husband wanted to be a research physicist, but wasn't wise about listening to advice from people who understood the system better than he did. As a result, he didn't get the PhD he needed to get into fulltime research because he didn't dare to think he could do it at UCLA, even though a professor there was willing to accept him into the program. Especially in this economy, people are lucky to get any job at all. Sometimes we have to go where they need us rather than where we'd rather be. A lot of people who need counseling can't afford to pay for it and they may not have anyone who will help them pay for it. I would imagine there is also a lot of competition in the field you want to go into. Speech pathology would probably pay better. Speech therapists are probably also in demand, since so many people suffer strokes and need them. The world and those who hire won't ask what you want to do. They will ask what you can give them that they want.

Hello courtknee525 Why don't you seek employment that will pay you what you need to move out of your parents house and live on your own? Also, why let them interfere with your life no matter where you live?

If you don't like speech pathology, then you should switch. I know when I was your age, I took some education classes I wasn't sure about. I wish I would have changed my major because I didn't really enjoy teaching. I listened to my parents and family who said I had a talent for this field. My heart kept telling me to switch to something in the medical field which is something I am more passionate about. I ended up as an unemployed teacher. Bottom line, listen to your heart. You will be more successful if you do something you at least half way enjoy. If you love psychology, have you considered social work or counseling? These are fields that only require masters degrees and allow you to work. Just a suggestion.