How can i help them?
By yimsiupang
@yimsiupang (237)
June 12, 2012 2:39am CST
Hi friends and mylotters,yesterday one of my good friends talking a lot with me,she and her husband have been married for 5 years,and now they have a lovely daughter,she's only 4 years old,she is 5 months pregnant,but she found her hunsband fall in love with another woman,and he uauslly date the woman,she said her husband do not recognize,but she has conclusive evidence,so her husband is not happy,and now they want to divorce,i think they could change the situation ,as a friend,i don't know how to help them,my friends and mylotters,do you have any good suggestions?very anxious,because they really want to divorce,give me somg suggestions,thank you!
6 responses
@ForSouls1234 (720)
• United States
12 Jun 12
You don't want them to divorce? Why? I would be happy for my friend that she is getting rid of him. Don't you think she deserves better? Don't you think she deserves a husband who doesn't cheat on her?
I know I would not want my husband at all if I found out he not only cheated on my but he is in love with her. If she is such a good friend you might want a better life for her. Even if she doesn't find someone else right away, it will still be better than living with him.
@yimsiupang (237)
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12 Jun 12
Well,maybe you are right,but they have a daughter,hhh~~she love her husband very much,if they divorce,she will be mad,maybe i could chat with her,thank you for your suggestion.
@ForSouls1234 (720)
• United States
12 Jun 12
Well sure it's always sad for the kids and I am sure she loves him but he doesn't love her or else he wouldn't have been able to do what he did and he confessed he is in love with the other woman so that is doubly horrible. He couldn't even keep his mouth shut to spare her feelings. He should have just left her then. That would have been a knife to my heart.
I would tell her to be happy she is getting rid of him, tell her she deserves better. And it is worse for kids to be raised in a household like this, as it will never be normal again. What is done cannot be undone.
@yimsiupang (237)
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13 Jun 12
Well,thanks again,i will try to comfort her,encourage her,maybe it's right for her to leave her husband,she will find a better one,but can spend this threshold depends on her own,god bless her.
@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
19 Jun 12
I really understand, how your friends feel. Because, I also experienced the same thing. But, I do not get divorced. I'm still with my husband. If it's your friend's husband, was not going with your friend, and wanted a divorce. Maybe, divorce would be better. Because, if forced to be together, it would be not good to your friends. I'm still sticking with my husband. Because, my husband will not divorce me.
@yimsiupang (237)
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20 Jun 12
Thank you indahfth,you are a nice woman,i hope you and your husband do not divorce ,and live happily forever,i will comfort my friend with my sincere heart,i will accompany her through the sad and difficult time,thank you again.
@marguicha (223053)
• Chile
16 Jun 12
From what I have read in your comments to the answers, your friend`s husband is not worth the trouble of making any effort to save the marriage. Children don`t live happily in a household where parents don`t love or respect erach other. So it`ds better for them that their parents get a divorce too.
@yimsiupang (237)
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16 Jun 12
Well,thank you for your response,i also think that's better for them to get a divorce.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
12 Jun 12
If there is no more love and respect what's the use of living together?
The husband can always support the kids anyway.
I know you don't want your friend to get divorced because of the kids- but that is their choice.
Besides, I am sure your friend was hurt so badly and insulted that is why she decided to have a divorce and get rid of from her cheating husband.
If her husband loves her and their kids- he will never cheat on her.
The kids will surely be confused for the meantime- but somehow will understand the situation as they grow older.
@yimsiupang (237)
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12 Jun 12
Well,thanks very much jaiho,yes,i don't want they divorced because of their daughter,i really hope that they can live happily together,but~```now take them come naturally,bless all of them.
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
13 Jun 12
Oh, If the husband felt guilty of what he did, and he apologized his wife and does promise that he won't do it again, then ok, your friend can forgive him and they still live in marriage life.
That husband doesn't feel guilty of what he did...he is so bad husband...then why you want they still live together?
@yimsiupang (237)
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13 Jun 12
Thank you ryanong,you are right,her husband doesn't feel guilty of what he did.now i really hope my friend can leave her husband,what i can do is to comfort her,get together with her,to go out of the unhappy marriage.
@samar54 (2454)
• Egypt
16 Jun 12
I think she should forgive him for this error in its own right, and tell him that and live together to raise their daughter ..However, if he wants a divorce because he wanted to marry the woman × Ri is what he will let him go and he possibly can to raise her daughter alone and the time let her forget of this man selfish .
@yimsiupang (237)
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20 Jun 12
Thank you samar54,my friend said she can forgive him if he admit the error,but her husband doesn't admit the error at all,i think she has been hopeless......
