Where to draw the line as far as discipline

@dansazz (1058)
United States
June 12, 2012 4:13pm CST
As a child my dad often would hit me, as a form of discipline. His methods were not right in my eyes. The results, however were not that bad. He instilled fear in me, and as a result, I never went against him. I always listened to what he said, and I never talked back to him. My question is where do you draw the line as a parent when it comes to discipline? I am not fond of the idea of hitting my child, not at all. I'm more of the sit in the corner and don't move. I think a lack of patents is no excuse for abusing a child. What do you do when a child needs discipline? what if they wont listen and do what you say, or they have attitude problems or authority problems?
2 responses
@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
12 Jun 12
hi dansazz, I know a lot of people agree with you about the discipline from your dad...But I just want to say that my mother discipline me the same way, and thats the way I discipline my children..I am proud to say I have no lasting results from the discipline except knowing right from wrong, when and when not, and I feel the respect of others...I was never abused with a broom or extention cord, or anything like that..neither was I ever hit in my face...I turned out alright and so did my chidren..no hang ups at all... See I am an older adult and we were raised to do as our parents and/or any older adult told us to do..No such thing as talking back getting attitudes....
@dansazz (1058)
• United States
12 Jun 12
Yah, well I think that a spanking is one thing but pulling hair our rapping your nuckles on a childs head is not right. Especialy if it isn't even serving a purpose. Most of the time the guy was just angry. A lot of the time I didn't do anything wrong, just annoy him. One time he told me he would knock my head off if I didn't put my pant legs over my boots instead of under. WTF?
• United States
7 Jul 12
There is certainly a difference between spanking and abusing. There is also such a thing as verbal abuse. And telling your child you will knock their head off is certainly verbal abuse. I have two little girls and each one of them need a different form of discipline. I am not a percent against spanking, I would be spanked as a child but only when I did something very bad such as lie, talk back, or just plain disrespect a parent. My parents lectured me and trust me, I wanted a spanking instead of listening to my Mom lecture me for 30 minutes that was punishment enough! I think that hitting is a bad choice of word when it comes to discipline. Spanking is a better choice of words. Hitting to me, sounds abusive. No parent should ever be angry when correcting a child. It teaches our children very bad characteristics.
@OYouness (87)
13 Jun 12
Hello dansazz, I have received the same form of discipline as yours and I don't deny that it helped me a lot. When I was a child, I used to do lot of bad things and bad behaviors that, thinking about them now, only needed that kind of discipline to be fixed. I don't reproach anything to my parents, it is totally the opposit, I thank them for all what they have done with me, and for the huge effort that they provided to correct my childish thoughts. Furthermore, I guess that I would apply the same method with my children too, simply because there are somethings that can't be corrected unless we use some violence!
@dansazz (1058)
• United States
13 Jun 12
I completely disagree with you. I don't thank my dad for abusing me. Yah, it helped me in ways, but it's still wrong. Nobody should hit their kids, and violence really doesn't solve anything. Fear is not something you want from your kids, you want love and admiration. There are other less lazy ways to raise children. I Don't condone hitting children for any reason.