I need someone who can stay with me no matter how hard it is being with me :)

I think at times we all feel like were not good enough. But that is far from the truth. There is someone out there who will love us for who we are. It just might take a long while to find them. I would rather wait for years and be myself, than pretend to be something I am not and have the wrong person by my side. True friends and true love will love us for who we really are. =)

No one is an isoland and that's all the way i'm convinced.But sometimes we indeed feel very lonely.So what we are gonna do? Yes,at least we have one good friend,and i think they are with us no matter the distance,so just be happy and there are people who really love us. Cheer up,have a nice day.

Hi di what I have done" ? -"am I too hard to please or get along - Sorry. When you are upset, thinking this is only going to make you more weak and more gloomy. All DO NOT have the same mental strength and 90% of people are weak in matters related to heartbreak. For all, the best thing to do is - LET GO of the Past - we all say that and still we all know that this is near to impossible. Have a Great day.

Actually when I reading your discussion I starting to think whom you referring to. when I end up I realized you are the one I'm talking and thinking about. To make sure I read some of the responses which from your own word ... its you. Sometimes most of us asking ourself why nobody loves me the way I'm? I'm so and so and so what is the problem. But did we realized that we are taking our own, we are seeing ourself but what others seen us, heard about, know about us - that's why sometimes others unable to please.. i know we cannot please other... think about his

THat's because when we love, we love unconditionally, Jaiho. No flaws can make you unlike or unlove the person, because it is already within the deepest part of your heart and mind.

hello jaiho actually what is happened with you that is called life its a common thing which every one feel in their life atleast once.dont worry time can make any thing perfect you just dont stop searching that specail one you will definately find him one day.thanks

I am sorry that you are feeling alone. I believe that everyone has the right to this. To have a few important people that are a rock in your life. I have a few of these people and unfortunatly you cant just find someone that will be this. The first thing that you need is to love and be a friend to yourself. Try not to focus so much on the level of alone that you are experiencing. I got some much needed time to take care of me and purposely take care of me and love who I am. I could go to the movies and feel comfortable. I could go out to dinner with myself. I could buy pretty flowers and put them on the table. It was nice. And then I met my husband and I tell you it was well worth the wait and the feelings of being lonely at times. I have my best friend from high school that is my real friend. I value her so much and she is very important to me. And my hubby is amazing. He has been with me through everything. And its been a tough go at times. And the best thing is that I know that they will both always be there for me. But to keep the bond strong I have to be thoughtful to them and cherish them and let them know this.

I never thought what did I do with friends but I did ask that with my ex. He just disappeared. But now I see it as a blessing. He left , my heart broke I , with help from my friend, I mended it and now I'm with the best guy. Like you said true friends and lovers love you for who you are!

This is true jai, my and hubby mighy still be early in this relationship but we have been through so many ups and so many downs there were times when i know he feel like he cannot accept who i am as i know i have attitudes which he dislike but i know he loves me that is why he is still with me no matter how hard i can be sometimes..and when i tell you i am quite hard sometimes, i am really that hard and stubborn.

What a beautiful and meaningful words~(^^) I am not in a good mood right now when people accusing me for something I didn't do. I feel like am I that bad and start to blame myself even deep in my heart its not my fault at all. But your words help me to think that we can't really please others even if we already did that with all our best. We can't understand others and others can understand us as well. I just hope they won't leave me like I always there with them even if I have did wrong to them.

A person who loves you truly is the answer to that. This is the perfect time to determine who really sticks with you no matter how moody(?) can you be. But, can you check your own self and try to reverse the situatio? I mean, can you try staying with a person who can be the hardest person to be with and perove your worth?

I really like your post. When you say 'No matter how hard it is being with YOU - True friends and true love stays', I supposed that it isn't something that we risk our own lives right? Because if being with the person we love means risking our own lives, then I guess, that should be taken into consideration. I was referring to someone who hurt and abuse you physically and mentally. Yes you are right that they should love us for what we really are. They say that it is easier to flatten a mountain than to change someone's character. We all have differences and each of us should respect that. I love my friends for loving me despite of my negative traits. And I am happy that they are honest enough to tell me that I am like this and that. That way, they are giving the chance to improve my behavior.

hi jai, In the past I always asked this you know that specially during the time when they are starting to avoid me (thats what i believed) for the reason I don't know. This is true if you find a true friend or true love even how imperfect you are they will stay by your side with any questions. i miss you

My daughter will cry when she reads this. Thank you for the remedy, I just could not find the right words to guide her. I will forward to her email. This is beautiful!

Personally this is the hardest thing, is we cannot and will not always please everyone, including ourselves. So when there is an issue where we are having with someone learning to be understand and learning to work thru them is the Best thing you can do. This is with any situation in life, whether married, friendship or in life and a valuable lesson in life.

Hi Jai! Very nice composition. It says all and it has very deep meaning. True friends are hard to find but if one is lucky to have true friends, then life becomes easier and one could rely on them and could confide in them.

That is the right. While a friend or a lover who makes you happy is important, it is also important to stick to them during the difficult times. A relationship is not always going to be on high clouds all the time and it takes real maturity to understand that even if you leave this friend/lover because you don't have enough fun together, a new relationship you form would also face difficulty so don't abandon your friends/lover!

I thought I'd just add a thought which I read over one of my local blog - Weibo, where a blogger wrote "Be yourself, don't change for anyone. If they don't like you at your worst, then they certainly don't deserve you at your best." Life is just where there will always be knocks to be taken and unfortunately most of these are actually from our so called friends. We will just have to take them into stride and be prepared to move on as each passing day. There's no point trying to keep them on the bus when their destination is different from yours.

True honest and sincere friends are becoming rare, one day they will vanish

That is pretty-much what a 'spouse' is supposed to be (especially a wife ... "with (man)" is pretty-much ALL THAT THE WORD MEANS )---an accompaniment to the other spouse; good or bad, 'for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health.' That's what confuses me about Christianity: I don't think the Bible has any wooing process in it longer than the first one---where Adam told Eve, 'Hey, you're my girl ... stay with me,' or something. (There was that 'working 7 years to marry one sister, then 7 more to marry the other' that Isaac did, but that was more 'dowry' than 'woo'). Today it's pretty-much the same, really; ask the girl to go to dinner or a movie, turn it into a 'steady' thing, settle-down and get married ... or something. Just that women are hypnotized into believing they're "equal partners" (rather than the "servants" we all appreciate more than we can say), thus turning the marriage from a "covenant" to a "trade." That's why you don't get many chances to find the companionship you need. Any woman will do, but women aren't taught that it's their "duty" to find a man (we need more 'Sadie Hawkins'-celebrations ... "Search the Web" to find out why)! Women are taught that they're just like men--or something--and that they're thus in this world to make something good of themselves without a man to help. Any man who is 'work to live with' (either 'hard to get along with' or 'disabled and thus in need of help' (like me) or some other difficulty) is "too much weight to take on and still hope to stay afloat."