Honey, what's your name again?
By mikyung
@mikyung (2232)
Philippines
June 13, 2012 12:17pm CST
I found this an awkward incident. It happended many months ago and the thought of it makes me feel ashamed even now.
We have this family grand reunion - our parents, some cousins and nephews and nieces were there. While having dinner, we discussed a lot of things, we laughed and really enjoyed the dinner and our time together. Not until, I asked my wife -" Jeanny kindly pass the sauce please". My wife's name is Leanny. I silenced the crowd with that single word. Everybody in that event knows my ex-girlfriend's name is Jeanny. I know it is a slip of the tongue but still it is an embarassing moment. As the right thing to do, I apologize that those words were really unintentional. I love my wife. And I'm glad that she let that event passed.
Did you experience the same incident? Calling your wife or husband with another name, calling him or her using your ex-girlfiend's name or ex-boyfiend' name or maybe your officemates name. Any thoughts? Thanks very much for your time.
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10 responses
@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
14 Jun 12
Youre very funny..Hahaha. Seriously! You did that? Your lucky to have a wonderful wife because she has low temper and she let it passed that kind of incident. But next time be careful because she might not going to like it anymore,as they say; Once is enough, Twice is too much. :)
@Lauraleigh99 (4718)
• United States
13 Jun 12
You can't get mad at something like that it happens to everyone!! Just usually not in front of the whole family lol... All you can say is oops and move on quickly to another conversation!!! When my hubby and I were first dating I called him by one of my exboyfriends names already!! I just laughed and said oops you are way better looking then _______ what was I thinking calling you his name lol
@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
13 Jun 12
Totally this would be quite embarrasing. I have been married now for 13+ yrs. and there has never been a time I have accidently called my Husband anything else. I am surprized your wife did not get upset with you for a little bit. Better try and make sure this does not happen again.
@celticeagle (168307)
• Boise, Idaho
13 Jun 12
i think this sort of occurence comes from tension and being tired. These reunions are often nerve racking at best. Always someone that makes a person nervous and you get tense and forget names and other things too. hopefully your wife realized this. i think we have all done this at some time.
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
13 Jun 12
I have never called my husband the wrong name when I was talking to him, but sometimes when I was talking to my friends I mentioned the name of the ex-boyfriend instead of the name of my husband. That happened in the beginning of our relationship and I think that it happened because my ex-boyfriend were together for 6 years and it had become a habit to say his name. I am happy that is only happened when I was talking to my friends and not when I was talking to my husband. My husband is very jealous and he would have been extremely upset if I had called him the wrong name.
My husband called me the wrong name in the beginning of our relationship. We sent me a text message where he called me "Lene" instead of my name. He apologised over and over, but it is the kind of things that happens sometimes, I knew that from the conversations with my friends, so it didn't bother me much.
@sherrybelle (707)
• United States
13 Jun 12
Hello Mikyung,
We all make mistakes and the key is to laugh and move forward. It's okay.
You probably remember that incident where other people have moved on.
I don't very often call people by their names and it's something I'd like to change about myself because I feel...
when you call someone by their name you personalize your connection with them.
You get an A for effort and you apologized for the mistake.
We all do our best, and our best is always, good enough.
@verolop29 (1096)
• United States
13 Jun 12
Hi Mikyung..it happens! ..the slip of the tounge..ur new wife must be a gem to be ablt to let it slip by the way she did!
did it ever happen to me? yes it did and it still does. i have a friend who ehlps me around the house..i asked my husband if he would help me from time to time and he refuses so i my guy friend comes over alot and he helps me clean and we spend time together just talking and making fun of ourselves!! i love his company..anyways i called my husband by my friends name and he got realy mad and took it the hard way..he's not mad now but he was for days and he won't let it rest! he-once-called me by his crushs' name and that was durning our moment of ahhhhhhhhhh u know what i mean. ever since then 'its' not the same...
@billutheguy (179)
• India
13 Jun 12
The worst time to say the wrong name was portrayed the popular sitcom Friends , in the fifth season during his wedding ceremony Ross says "I Ross take the Rachel" instead of saying the name of the girl she was about marry he took her ex-girlfriends name , very similar to your case but your timing wasn't as bad .
Anyways, as for me I cannot remember if I've ever done that my self , I sometimes forget the names of people that I might be close friends with(seriously not good I'm not good with names) but never happened with a girlfriend . My mom does that to me all the time, she always mistakenly takes my brothers name to address to me , but I don't take that as a sign that she loves him more than me or anything , she does that to him to.
As for your thing nice to know that moment passed , such events can be a lot more awkward and can lead to awful consequences . As you said there were friends around that could have been a very negative factor it the situation all by itself . You actually got off easy . Just make sure it doesn't happen repeatedly or she might start assuming things , then again I don't know her so can't predict what exactly . This judgement is just based on my Idea of basic human nature.
Finally , I wish you a really long and happy married , and may you never have to face such hiccups ever again.
@shaina228 (119)
• Japan
13 Jun 12
Lol you made me laugh.You're lucky enough to have an understanding wife, not too hyper tension to get mad at you.
It also happen to me anyway, but not with my husband with my co-worker and sometimes with our patient. I used to call my husband hon or honey. Japanese don't do that, instead they used their real name at home with their families. For colleagues and friends they call them with their family name. Many times it happened with our patient I say "honey did you take your medicine?" And the most embarrassing moment is when I talk to our head nurse, he's a smart and handsome guy 5 yrs older than me, I said " honey how's my shift tomorrow"...silence...and he smile at me.
@Lorden (348)
• South Africa
13 Jun 12
That does sound very awkward! I'm so glad your wife didn't make a big thing out of it; that probably helps.
But this happens, especially when you have someone like a woman in your life which was "portrayed" by someone else before; you might think of all the women who played it as that one character.
But, as you said, it seems it's only you who is beating yourself up, not your wife. Guess you're off the hook :o)