Reasons why I love being single: What is your relationship status?

United States
June 13, 2012 2:38pm CST
We all have certain goals that we'd like to acheive. Some people have a goal to change their relationship status. I was married for 25 years to a great man, and now I've been divorced for 7 years, so I'm single again. I love being single; here's why: I'm a little bit territorial and I enjoy living alone where I can decorate my home as I please. I am free to follow my heart at home where I'm not required to answer to anyone. I sleep when I sleep, I clean when I clean and I spend a lot of time on my computer. Being single means that I have the luxury of being socially diversified. I enjoy friendships with both, men and women. The friendships I experience are priceless. Each of my friends bring something different to the table and we limit our time with each other so we consistently experience best behavior. I don't have anyone in my life who has unreasonable expectations of me. I'm free to be who I am, do what I do and go where I go. That sense of freedom brings me a lot of joy! What is your relationship status? Would you change it if you could? If so, why?
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16 responses
• United States
14 Jun 12
hi sherrybelle! i am happy for you that you are content with your situation now! i am married and am blissfully happy! i married my soul mate and my best friend...we met when i was eighteen years old but unfortunately were mismatched with other people....we married twenty five years later and i am so overjoyed about it! i was married to someone else before we re-connected and i hated being married and i did not want people to know i was married and i never called him my husband! i felt trapped, miserable and imprisoned...now, being married to my soulmate, i am so happy to be married, and i call him my husband with great pride and honor that he chose me...i think it just makes a difference who you are married to!
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@ys1993 (10)
• China
14 Jun 12
Although single maight be more free, but if you don't have soul mate, you sure you will not fell lonely in the future? there have a kind of happy is: mutual tolerance.
@mohkanari (1957)
• India
14 Jun 12
I am unmarried. Marriage may bring some pleasurable moments by attachment of love. But, it brings chances to a lot of pains that always are hidden and attached with love. So my mind accepted the idea to give no room to pieces of happiness with chance of burden of sorrows. Besides, marriage brings considerable limitation to freedom which is the beauty of life. I am with that freedom to love and live in anyway that beautifies my life and even to die as well.
• Philippines
14 Jun 12
I haven't been single for a long time. But I don't have a problem of being one. It is also nice being single. You get to do your thing without taking to account to your anybody. You get to be with friends all the time. There's a sense of freedom which is really a good thing. It's like being independent. I am single now but I would say that my heart is already reserved. Well, for now I am good being single but I wouldn't mind being in a relationship either.
• Philippines
14 Jun 12
Well, in my case, I am still single and there are a lot of freedom that I enjoy because of this. I can keep my options open to a lot of girls in my neighborhood. hehehe. I am already 23 and I think I need to find someone and grow with my relationship with her. It's been about 3 years since I had a girlfriend. Maybe because it's not yet my priority as of the moment. But I wanted to have someone who can be with me other than my parents through thin and thick. Hopefully, someone is there waiting for me.
@IAmNena (178)
• Philippines
14 Jun 12
I'm single now and I'm not seeing anyone.I'm waiting for a specific guy which I haven't met yet (LOL) yes, It's crazy but I know someday we will meet and confess my feelings for him ^_^
• United States
13 Jun 12
I am married and have been for 7 yrs and with him for 12 yrs now. I absolutely love being married and wouldn't change it for the world. He is my rock, my best friend, someone I can be stupid and silly around, someone I can cry with, laugh with and so on. I love spending time with him because I work first shift and he works second shift so I don't see him a lot during the week.
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
14 Jun 12
Single and always been single is my relationship status! I love being single and never want to be married! I have been in relationships because I thought I needed one! I wanted to be like most people! It turns out I want to be single and it is for me! I have my privacy. I can come and go as I please. I don't have to argue with someone to pay their half of the bills! I am not getting smothered or totally ignored! Men are not for me! Yes I have some as friends but only as friends! Men are to much work! I am hard to put up with,alot of the time! So many men don't or can't understand me! I always thought relationships you never had to work on! I had so many stupid expectations of men and relationships! I didin't want to date losers but alot were! if I would ever have a relationship again,he'd have to be perfect! No exceptions! So this is why I am single!
• Delhi, India
13 Jun 12
I am also single and i also love to be single as i have been in affair with 3 different girls and had physical relations too but i never got happiness and mental piece from those as we were never been made for each other. like you i am also a little bit territorial and enjoy living alone in my bedroom. i am free to do what i want to do and also think freely about what i need for myself. So being single is also good for mental health.
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
14 Jun 12
Currently i am in the relationship. Honestly i really don't like to be single more...Being single you can get more freedom, no one blames you do this do that...but we still have freedom and get more happiness in relationship or marriage life...it is a reason why many people wanna being single for a while and then they still wanna to get in the relationship later. I have a friend, he is 49 now he told me he is ready for marriage life now...i was surprised with his thinking because he used to love to be single a lots ...
@samson1 (738)
• Jamaica
13 Jun 12
I have been in almost all forms of relationship statuses: single, married, divorced, in a relationship, and the list goes on. Anyway, perhaps over time, I may consider getting married again; if the condition is right, and I decide which woman to choose as my wife. In my case, being single is always 'pressurizing' to me, as I am constantly being 'bombarded' by so many beautiful prospective women, who are doing things that seek to ensure that I remember each of them in my deliberations! Yikes!
• United States
13 Jun 12
I am all with you. I am married and I love my husband immensely but I feel like as soon as they know they have you they start taking you for granted. If I knew then what I know now twenty years ago, I would never have gotten married. You are so so right in all of your observations. You go girl enjoy your singleness, ha ha.
@PageTurner (2825)
• United States
13 Jun 12
Hello sherrybelle My relationship status is married to the most wonderful woman in the world. I love my relationship because I am free to follow my heart at home and am free to be me. My wife is very supportive of me, and I of her. We love each other and encourage one another to meet our respective dreams. I was married before, for a dreadfully long time, and this was not the case, so I am grateful for the relationship that we share. I love being able to have an intellectually stimulating conversation with my wife, as well as sharing many of the same passions and goals in life. I love her adventurous spirit, and her kindness to all creatures. I also admit that I love that she is gorgeous, and am amazed that she has anything to do with me, a simple country bumpkin. I love not feeling alone in the world,because I know that she has my back / best interests at heart. I trust her to love me for me, and not for other expectations. I love that she is real and that she shares her life with me. I love exploring the world with her. I love waking up with her beside me every morning, smiling at me. I love holding her in my arms every evening, and falling to sleep together. As I said, I was married a dreadfully long time -- 25 years. And I was a lonely man. I love being married to my beautiful, lovely, wonderful, witty, compassionate wife who genuinely cares for me as I am. I love not being / feeling alone in the world.
• Philippines
14 Jun 12
Single and free!!!!!!!!!! hahaha!! I love being single because I dont have to account my doings to a guy who's sole purpose is to hinder me from being me. And also, I love being single, lots of checks for all the things you mentioned, because I cant imagine myself being forced to stay at one side because the guy doesnt want me to.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
13 Jun 12
I love being single too. I married last december but me and my husband live in an other part of the world. I don't think there is a way for him to come to my country. How it will be in the future I can't tell. For me it was not important to get married so did this for him (although I don't see the benefit of it). So I am still single and I like it this way.
@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
13 Jun 12
Hi sherry, I might would change my relationship status eventually but honestly right now I so totally agree with your post, it not funny. I Love being single for each and every one of the reason you stated...It sounds like I made this post. I love being able to 'do what I want', 'when I want', and most of all 'if I want'...