angry !
@SIMPLYD (90721)
Philippines
June 13, 2012 5:45pm CST
It is just 5:30 am. Thirty minutes ago , my husband just arrived . . . . from a drinking spree with his office mates as a birthday celebration of one of their officemates in the next town. He was drunk. 
I was awakened when he came in our bedroom and was instantly angry because it was early morning already! And to think that their drinking spree started 9:00 p.m. Worst is that he back rode with an office mate’s motorbike in going home! I told him not to drink anymore, because he has been having a drinking spree almost twice a week and yet this again!
I was so angry at him that I didn’t kiss him to greet, instead lambasted him with angry words and rant! He just let me spew him with angry words and rants and would explain every now and then and was sleeping in a few minutes after i was done!
I was awakened when he came in our bedroom and was instantly angry because it was early morning already! And to think that their drinking spree started 9:00 p.m. Worst is that he back rode with an office mate’s motorbike in going home! I told him not to drink anymore, because he has been having a drinking spree almost twice a week and yet this again!
I was so angry at him that I didn’t kiss him to greet, instead lambasted him with angry words and rant! He just let me spew him with angry words and rants and would explain every now and then and was sleeping in a few minutes after i was done!1 person likes this
11 responses
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
15 Jun 12
If he isn't going to listen to you when you are hurt and angry then it is up to you to decide what you want to do. Me? I would just disappear.He will stumble home one morning only to fine Only his stuff in the house. Or if you like the house he will be startled that his key doesn't fit the lock!
But that's me. You have to sit down and ask yourself if you Want to live like this . Good Luck.
But that's me. You have to sit down and ask yourself if you Want to live like this . Good Luck.@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
16 Jun 12
Actually, this kind of feeling is seldom, my friend.
Before, when he was not the team leader yet of their branches , he seldom drinks. He prefers to just be at home, resting and watching TV. I would even urge him to drink once in a while, because i know it's also good for his blood circulation.
But when he became the team leader , the drinking spree becomes often. Specially when they have a meeting, after that, they will surely have a drinking spree, because they are mostly men.
I understand that, because as the leader, he has to know what his staff has to say, maybe about the works and everything.
But i just worry for his health and safety, so when it was almost always, i exploded.
I am already calmer when he woke up. I even attended to his breakfast. 
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
17 Jun 12
Ok! You are better than I. But then again , I am no wife. I would only say it once , I don't like you when yo drink too much. Then it is up to him to change his ways or not. If he Has to drink , then I'm gone. I'm glad you are calmer. I hope everything works out.
@changjiangzhibin89 (16794)
• China
14 Jun 12
I can understand how you felt at that point.You worried about his health and were anxious for his safety.However I would like to speak for your husband.Sometimes he can't avoid spending one night boozing with his office mates.I am a person who has had experience in this respect.I used to feel that others' great kindness made me unable to decline,so I tended to drink till my tongue tripped.Happily I now have little opportunity to do that.Anyway it is necessary for you to have a curtain lecture in which let him take a good care of himself.
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
14 Jun 12
Thanks for understanding where my anger is coming from, chang. 
And yes, i just gave him a curtain lecture that moment. He just let me vent out and listened.
He is so docile when he is tipsy or drunk. 
And yes, i just gave him a curtain lecture that moment. He just let me vent out and listened.
He is so docile when he is tipsy or drunk. @SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
16 Jun 12
That's right chang. My husband is a kind and considerate man.
@changjiangzhibin89 (16794)
• China
16 Jun 12
Even though he was drunk,he had a clear head.He knew he was in the wrong and you did so for his own good.He is a person amenable to reason.
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
14 Jun 12
Well, i am very much okay already freymind. 
Actually , when my husband woke up at 8:00 am, i gave him coffee and we ate breakfast together. I have told him already what i wanted him to hear when i ranted at him.
I think that's enough to remind him that i am already pissed by his drinking spree often. I have already warned him about his health also.
Actually , when my husband woke up at 8:00 am, i gave him coffee and we ate breakfast together. I have told him already what i wanted him to hear when i ranted at him.
I think that's enough to remind him that i am already pissed by his drinking spree often. I have already warned him about his health also. 
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
14 Jun 12
After posting my discussions peter, i was a bit calm already.
When my husband woke up, he was hugging and teasing me, but never asked apology for making me so angry.
@toniganzon (72532)
• Philippines
14 Jun 12
Oh D, please don't be angry. Those wrinkles!
When my husband comes home late, I don't really get angry. We agreed that when we're out with friends we shouldn't send each other text messages, and we will both come home safe anytime we want. We just promise to come home safe and that's all.
When my husband comes home late, I don't really get angry. We agreed that when we're out with friends we shouldn't send each other text messages, and we will both come home safe anytime we want. We just promise to come home safe and that's all. @SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
14 Jun 12
Oh yes Toni, i have my wrinkles in mind, so i stopped being angry.
Actually, it's okay with me that he would have his drinking spree with his staff, because he needs that as team leader, so he may be able to know what their suggestions and concerns are, that they cannot admit when sober.
But when it comes so often, well, i can't help being angry.
I called him last night at 12am and told me he will be coming home already. But then, the one who will let him backride home, still likes to stay more.
But don't worry Toni, i stopped being angry before he went to work at 9 am.
Actually, it's okay with me that he would have his drinking spree with his staff, because he needs that as team leader, so he may be able to know what their suggestions and concerns are, that they cannot admit when sober.
But when it comes so often, well, i can't help being angry.
I called him last night at 12am and told me he will be coming home already. But then, the one who will let him backride home, still likes to stay more.
But don't worry Toni, i stopped being angry before he went to work at 9 am. 
@angelwithkids (1256)
• United States
14 Jun 12
its very annoying when they do that! i'm fortunate that my husband will stay home and drink. but the more he drinks, the louder he gets and i don't get any rest. then when you try to talk to them, you're "nagging". its hard to live with someone who likes to drink to pass out.
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
14 Jun 12
Lucky for you because your husband just drinks at home.
At least, you will not worry that he will meet an accident in going home drunk.
Well, what is good though with my husband is when he is drunk, he is jolly and very patient with me. So, i take the opportunity to rant on him. 
At least, you will not worry that he will meet an accident in going home drunk.
Well, what is good though with my husband is when he is drunk, he is jolly and very patient with me. So, i take the opportunity to rant on him. 
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
13 Jun 12
awww i know what you feel simplyd as my hubby also do this in somedays..( thank God not lately as i would also be really that pissed off)..
i do not have comforting words to say as i know how mad we can be during these times...but all i could say is just let it out, vent it out..and sooner or later that anger will still subside.. 
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
14 Jun 12
Correct Jazel! I was really mad , so i ranted on him.
But as usual, he didn't get angry nor answered me back in a high tone, because he knows i am right.
Well, it's a good thing that whenever he is drunk, he becomes so kind and tamed!
But as usual, he didn't get angry nor answered me back in a high tone, because he knows i am right.
Well, it's a good thing that whenever he is drunk, he becomes so kind and tamed!
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
14 Jun 12
Oh dear, keep cool.
I understand why you are angry, but see, he just snore - hehehe(smile)
Oh yeah, men will always be boys- they haven't had enough with scoldings from their mothers and needs more scoldings from their wives
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
14 Jun 12
You made me laugh jaiho!
And you are correct, he was snoring while i was still angry at his side.
Though before he slept, he listened to my rantings and when i am done, he said he's going to sleep already. And he snored. 
@lakerfanster (2577)
•
13 Jun 12
I can see you being a bit miffed that he came back drunk but I don't see it as such a big deal. Most couples should go out separately with their friends now and again. As long as he isn't violent when he comes home what is the big problem?.
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
14 Jun 12
I wouldn't be angry if he does it occasionally, my friend.
But it seems he does it twice a week , he will be coming home tipsy. And the fact that he rides with his office mate in his motorcycle , tipsy! What if they meet an accident?
Besides, he has a hyper acidity, yet he does that almost always.
@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
14 Jun 12
How I know how you feel, when my husband also came from his drinking season I am angry and let him sleep in the living room and as a punishment he cant enter to our room without my permission.
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
14 Jun 12
How i wish i could do that to my husband, bhebelen. He has a key to our room.
I think, it's a natural reaction of a wife, if her husband almost always have a drinking spree. One or two would be okay, but when it becomes often, that's too much!
I think, it's a natural reaction of a wife, if her husband almost always have a drinking spree. One or two would be okay, but when it becomes often, that's too much!