i wrote these discussions to take away my anger
@SIMPLYD (90722)
Philippines
June 13, 2012 6:24pm CST
As I have mentioned in my first 2 posts, I am so angry with my husband about an hour ago at 5:00 am . He is sleeping while I am here at the side of our bed typing at my laptop to write my anger and post some other discussions.
As I type, I am slowly feeling okay already. The Daily scripture that I have just read and meditated on and typing these discussions at Mylot helped me to loosen from my anger.
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@changjiangzhibin89 (16763)
• China
19 Jun 12
For one thing,You diverted your attention from what you were anger at when you were typing on mylot;for another thing,You coudn't help calming your anger and were in a cheerful state of mind when you were talking with mylotters.Small wonder we have a saying:"take one step back,you will see the boundless sea."
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@changjiangzhibin89 (16763)
• China
20 Jun 12
Mylot is really a great place where we can exchange our ideas and share our happiness, anger, grief and joy.
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@jugsjugs (12967)
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16 Jun 12
Strange, as this is also why I am on here.I have no one that I can talk to about how I feel and how angry I am, so that is why I am on here.I think that there are other times that I have come on here also to relieve all the stress and anger.Some nights I sit here with the music on load in my ear phones, its a way to escape from every thing, even if it is only shortly lived.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
19 Jun 12
hi jugsjugs and simplyD yes I sure do agree. we find a shoulder to c ry on, someone to listen to us, and I do it too when I get stressed
out. I also feel better when I have ranted about something and so often we get help and advice that does help us. hurray for mylot
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
16 Jun 12
That's true , jugsjugs.
Mylot has become an escape to most of us. It helps us alleviate whatever bad feelings we may be having.
After having been responding or starting a discussion or even a rant, we feel that a part of the hurt is taken away.
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
14 Jun 12
Thanks you are calm now.
Can I proceed with my response then
I have observed that we mellowed as we get older.
Yes, we become temperamental at times, but we knows how to handle much better compared when we are younger.
Reading the Scripture is indeed one of the best solution
@ybong007 (6643)
• Philippines
14 Jun 12
Now that would make him feel guilty. I wish my wife is like that but that's wishful thinking that's why I don't get drunk since I know i can't rely on her to do things like what you just did to your hubby, maybe just the rant. That's why when she and the kids are on vacation, i party like crazy to make up for lost time
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
16 Jun 12
Actually ybong, for the almost 22 years of our marriage, there wasn't any time, where i have to attend to my husband when when he comes home drunk. That's because , when he arrives i am already sleeping and he is seldom so drunk.
But when he comes home so drunk and he knows i am already asleep, he will not come into our bedroom, until he has vomited at the bathroom, and have cleansed himself. Besides, he doesn't want to wake me up, so i won't know, what time did he arrive.
He will just go into the bedroom, when he is done.
Thus, it's in the next morning that i would attend to him.
Your wife is lucky that you avoid getting drunk, ybong.
SO, you feel like a bird freed from its cage when she and the kids are out.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
14 Jun 12
You made me laugh with that Ybong. He is snoring so i can't do that and i haven't done that ever. He isn't always that drunk, except last night, because i saw the remnants of his vomit in the toilet bowl.
At any rate, i gave him coffee when he awakened. And i attended to his breakfast.
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@triplejazzm51 (1373)
• Philippines
16 Jun 12
Yes, SimplyD, what you did was the right thing, we need to ventilate especially when we are angry. Airing out our anger helps us unload the heavy feeling inside us. It also helps us think things over objectively. Writing about it is just like telling it to someone already. Someone who is very good at listening. It is unloading and after that you feel okay already and you can think about it more objectively and analyze the situation and the cause of the anger and maybe you could talk it out already with your husband more calmly. Mylot helps afterall.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
26 Jun 12
Yes, there are times I am sure that all of us have come here angry and upset about something, and come here either starting it as a Discussion or just to post in here and notice our anger subsiding to where it seems like a small thing, and everything often becoming OK. To me that is the Beauty of this site, and one of the many reasons for me continuing to want to be here.
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
25 Jun 12
I think what you're doing is better than nagging him. I think this is a good venue for you to rant but of course there should also be some communication with the two of you.
It's good that you've found a way to express yourself instead of fighting over something over a hot head. However, remember to talk about these issues once your head is already cool enough and him willing enough to listen.
Have a great MyLot experience ahead!
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
25 Jun 12
Actually my friend i have already ranted on him, when he arrived drunk. Not that i am preventing him from drinking, but for the past weeks he has already drank more than 3x.
He was explaining while i rant but i didn't listen. After hearing my rants , he went to sleep. So i typed my discussions until i calmed down.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
14 Jun 12
I agree liltan, that it is but natural for men to drink. But when it becomes too often it might give him problems in his health. And also backriding in the motorcycle of his staff , when both of them are tipsy or drunk is very dangerous.
That's why i already got angry. But before he left for work at 9am, we are already okay.
I thank God for helping me take away my anger, as well as Mylot for giving me an avenue to express what i felt.
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