me, tactless ?
@SIMPLYD (90722)
Philippines
June 13, 2012 6:36pm CST
Last night our daughter texted me. She told me she was disappointed that the dean that interviewed them seemed not impress with her. They were interviewed one by one so the foundation can choose who among the full scholars can be the 3 total scholars.
And I told her, it might be that he was “na-antipatikahan sayo”, (maybe found some arrogant attitude) . And my daughter said I was tacTless. 
Tactless? I am her mother , so I should speak honestly. Or is it just that she’s so sensitive. 
Tactless? I am her mother , so I should speak honestly. Or is it just that she’s so sensitive. 1 person likes this
10 responses
@changjiangzhibin89 (16756)
• China
19 Jun 12
I think you are not to blame.You are right,as a mother , you have no need of beating about the bush.It is for her own good.Maybe she felt sad and depressed at that point.She will get her thinking straightened out later on.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
19 Jun 12
Well, i realized she was indeed depressed, so i should have comforted her first.
But because i am her mother, i was honest to her, so i said that, because i know her.
Though, she followed that text immediately with a nice text for me. I guess, she regretted having told me that, because i didn't answer . 
Though, she followed that text immediately with a nice text for me. I guess, she regretted having told me that, because i didn't answer . @SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
21 Jun 12
Yes, she's that , but she's also tactless, right chang?
At least, i am her mother. But to say that to a mother, it's somewhat offending to the mother.
@changjiangzhibin89 (16756)
• China
20 Jun 12
She is really a sensible girl.She was aware of what you would think of ,so sent you another text to clear the air.
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
14 Jun 12
she is trying to fit into a different world, he is not treating her different than anyone else, except he might not find that is the best, and that is what she is saying,
Or maybe she is just nervous
it is very difficult to get those positions and they truly take the best, there may very well be many how are better than her.
Your daughter understands that, it is not anything personal.
My boyfriend's daughter was not accepted in McGill here in Montreal, and she is a straight A student. But everyone is who applies and they did not find her overall achievements were strong enough.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
14 Jun 12
That's nice to hear too, winterose that your boyfriend's daughter is a straight A student. That's enough even if others would say that her overall achievements weren't strong enough.
Yes, maybe my daughter has high expectations. So she was so disappointed when that happened.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
14 Jun 12
Oh, don't worry dear, kids are like that 
Sometimes kids forget that they are talking to their mom/parents.
Maybe she's still feeling down due to what happened or about her vibes.
So, don't take it seriously.
Sometimes kids forget that they are talking to their mom/parents.
Maybe she's still feeling down due to what happened or about her vibes.
So, don't take it seriously.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
14 Jun 12
I felt a tinge of pain the instance i have read her text, saying that, jaiho.
But i didn't answer back because i know what she has just undergone. Instead she texted right away an appeasing message.
Oh she's like her father, too proud to say sorry. But i do understand because i know she's still hurting from that interview.
Maybe i should haven't told her that anyway.
But i didn't answer back because i know what she has just undergone. Instead she texted right away an appeasing message.
Oh she's like her father, too proud to say sorry. But i do understand because i know she's still hurting from that interview.
Maybe i should haven't told her that anyway. 
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
14 Jun 12
I don't think you were tactless D! You're her mother and you could be honest to her. I think she was just being overly sensitive and a bit stressed with what she's going through. I think she didn't mean what she said to you.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
14 Jun 12
Thanks for saying so Toni. I understand that i should have comforted her, because she's still hurting.
And you are correct, i , being her mother should be honest to her.
And you are correct, i , being her mother should be honest to her.
@seriousnuts (508)
• Philippines
19 Jun 12
My mother is "tactless" as well. She would sometimes use insensitive words to describe me when disciplining me. She is one of the most direct person I know. She would also comment about my hair, skin, or clothes and not hesitate to say the word "ugly" when she thinks that way. Sometimes, I get hurt by her words, most of the times, I just shrug them off. She's just being honest, and I also find myself giving frank opinions about her as well. That's just how our relationship is, and I find nothing wrong with it.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
19 Jun 12
That's correct, seriousness. Nobody , except the two of us, should be honest enough to point out our flaws, so we could correct them. 
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
14 Jun 12
lol she might just be disturb right now at what happened and is sensitive yes..so just don't think about it.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
14 Jun 12
Yes, jazel that's right. So i didn't reprimand her for saying that. She's still hurting for not being one of the Total Scholar.
Actually she texted right away after texting that. She was appeasing me. 
@jobfindonline (1744)
•
14 Jun 12
Hi, maybe she is just so sensitive to hear the word you said. Just understand her now since she wanted to be among the 3 scholars but she failed and was a little bit emotional about it.. Sometimes daughter utter words that they don't really mean. Nevertheless, she shouldn't speak that way with you, you are her mother and deserve a respect from her. It's kinda rude to say that to any mother. She should take your advice so she could improve more her qualities.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
14 Jun 12
That's very true my friend. I am her mother and i know better than her, so she shouldn't take it against me if i say that.
What i would like is for her to improve whatever traits that may have made her interviewer feel that way.
At any rate, she texted right away after saying that to say some nice things , as if to appease me, for having said that.
@no_ming (137)
• Philippines
14 Jun 12
Maybe she is thinking that your reply will be a positive answer that can will make her feel better like "Don't worry everything will be alright just pray for it and if you can't get it then God's has a better plan for you" :D . Because we children shared what we feel to our parents because we want an advice from them to make us feel better...
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
14 Jun 12
You have your point there no-ming. I think what she wants are comforting words, not those words.
But i guess, i am just a disciplinarian, so i correct what i perceive is wrong in her. And our daughter is hard headed when it comes to some advices.
She has been independent since high school, that's why.
But i guess, i am just a disciplinarian, so i correct what i perceive is wrong in her. And our daughter is hard headed when it comes to some advices.
She has been independent since high school, that's why.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
14 Jun 12
Tactless, mean saying things without considering the feelings of others.
I guess, as her mother, i should be honest with what i feel about it. That way, she can change whatever it is in her that makes the interviewer seemingly not like her.
