What is the right reason to get Married?
By Tiana
@kkaria309 (297)
United States
June 14, 2012 11:29am CST
In India, arranged marriage is still the most accepted way to get married. Parents choose a girl or a guy when they feel that their offsprings are of the 'right age'. The girl or guy has to simply interview the person chosen by their parents, get to know them just a little bit, and decide whether they would like to spend the rest of their lives together.
My parent are just waiting for my green signal to go ahead and look for the perfect groom for me. I am 21 years old, have completed my studies and I find myself thinking that I should get married now because that seems like the next logical step in life. I have done everything else that I wanted or needed to do. I have done my Masters, I am a good cook, I can manage my life fairly well.
Not because it is my age to get married, I can wait a few more years. But I feel like marriage is my next destiny on life, or the next phase that my life must embark upon. Is this really the right reason to get married? If not, then what is?
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5 responses
@safety69 (592)
• Taiwan
8 Jul 12
I think it shouldnt be your parent s desition , it should be your own and only desition. and you can do so many things in life , you dont have to marry before getting to your 30s . I think getting marry is a love disition , and you will know the time when you feel the necesity to have and manage your own family , its something inner from u. Time will say and if you find a guy and fall in love with him and you feel that is the right person for you , you will feel like you want to spend the rest of your life with him .. Good luck and I hope one day when you get marry you marry someone you choose and love.
@kkaria309 (297)
• United States
8 Jul 12
Thank you, I think I should wait a little too. Not 30s, but 2-3 years more. I have landed a great job recently and this should help me towards a new goal.
@taura2p (349)
• Romania
25 Jun 12
I think that everyone should decide for themselves when they are ready for marriage. Otherwise, the marriage will never be a success. I also believe that each person should be able to chose their spouses, and not to be obliged to marry someone. It is our life, in the end.
@urbandekay (18278)
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8 Jul 12
Personally I think 21 is very young to get married. Perhaps if you have to seek a right reason to get married then you should not be getting married. People talk of falling in love at first sight, which I think is nonsense but I did fall in 'what I might call knowledge' very quickly. I mean I knew almost at once that this was the person.
all the best urban
@mensab (4200)
• Philippines
14 Jun 12
there may be hundreds of reasons why people get married. but you are right in asking what the right reason is for marriage. i think age does not really measure up the right reason for marrying someone. age does not indicate readiness to stay and be with another person. i think the right motivation to marry is because one loves the other. i wish you the best.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
15 Jun 12
There are so many qonderful reasons to get married. I don't believe that you should get married if the feelings of commitment are not in your heart. you should not feel forced or bligated to marry someone. Marrying for financial gain may seem right in the beginning but it will not bring happiness that love and romance will bring. You should marry someone because you are in love and want so ahre your world with them.
@kkaria309 (297)
• United States
15 Jun 12
You are right. Let us hope everything goes as it should, and for all the right reasons.