My Best Friend Died Yesterday
By Graceekwenx
@Graceekwenx (3160)
Philippines
June 15, 2012 5:31pm CST
Friends... When i learned the news through FB, i immediately felt weak and sad but a part of me was relieved because my best friend has already gone to rest.
His diagnosis has been unclear. It only started out as osteomyelitis, then fracture then pneumonia, then coma! Even before this osteomyelitis came about, he has been acting weirdly, he had this blank stare, sometimes cruel glare, speechless and he doesnt seem to know me anymore. I am his best friend and yet when i asked him who i was, he said i am a "standby... primary." He can call me names and i dont really mind, i just wanted him cured! The day before his death, he was supposed to have his CTScan with contrast, and i was told that the family refused it even with the recommendations of the doctor so as to determine the cause of his mental state. Also, he was supposed to be transferred to another hospital so i volunteered to help in the coordination, but his folks said.. no need to transfer. So i shut my mouth and my heart, obviously his family had given up on him. I dont want to give him up!!!
I wanted still to do much to assist his family while he was still struggling in the hospital, even to the extent of getting a quack doctor fix him. The quack said that he has been bewitched so i asked for instructions on how to pray and other stuff. i kept holding on to the second alternative of treatment no matter how ridiculous it may seem. I am even compelled to face the barber who has cut his hair before all this happened as i think he was the witch who had put a spell on my best friend. Just imagine... me doing all these crazy things just to take this misery out from my friend. The night before he died, my mind was all reeling.. what else can i do for my best friend??? the following morning, he passed away...
I know i did what i can do... but my heart is still restless...
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10 responses
@rocketj1 (6955)
• United States
16 Jun 12
I am so very sorry to hear about the passing of your best friend. You can rest in knowing that you did everything that you could for him. I hope that you are able to try to live now in a way that will honor his memory. I'm sure he would want the best for you in the rest of your life. You will never forget him! May God give you peace and comfort....
@loveandpeace (470)
• Indonesia
16 Jun 12
Sometimes it was best for us to just pray if there's nothing we can do to help the one we love. I never underestimated the power of pray from anyone, every pray counts. You're a very good friend, your late best friend knew that.
@me123party (487)
• United States
16 Jun 12
dear
I am sorry for your loss .Be glad that your friend is at a better place now.maybe his folks gave up on him because they wanted him to go without hope.Alot of families do that to make the person in the middle of passing to make it easier and not to be dissapointed.Some things you just can't fix.However i do agree with you that they should have kept trying and they should have kept trying until the end.
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
16 Jun 12
Losing a friend is tough, I couldn't imagine losing a best friend. I could remember when one of my best friends got into an accident and had to have brain surgery. It was grueling emotionally and we can't do anything about it.
I'm sure that he appreciated every bit of effort you've done for him. But perhaps there are reasons why people pass on, perhaps his family was just too tight with budget and felt that more effort would only cause their son much pain instead of just helping him move on and rest.
You should move on. You've done your best.
Have a great myLot experience ahead!
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
15 Jun 12
I am sorry for your loss, just know he is no longer in pain and is at rest. You did what you could do under the circumstances and that is enough. Take solace in knowing he is in a better place now.
We are all here for you.
We are all here for you.
@surveychick4 (380)
• United States
16 Jun 12
I am very sorry for your loss because I do know it hurts. I have been in a similar situation like this. You want the person to fight as hard as they can, but we seem to loose sight of their suffering. You do not want them to suffer more believe me. I have seen suffering in my little brother's eyes when he was screaming in pain. I loved him so much, but there was no cure.
