What do you do if you were in her shoes?

If she loves him she should stay with him nowdays they have all kinds of things they can do. if they dont want to adopt they could have a surogate mother, all kinds of other options to. I think if your in love you should stay there besides everything happens for a reason.

Sorry to hear about your friend. If they are willing to adopt a child, they can do that option.

I guess if she really loves the guy, she will stay with her. I think, they have to talk about it. They can still have a baby thru adoption but it is really different when the baby comes from her. Do they already checked with the doctors about his condition? Perhaps there are other ways to do it.

ohhh that's very sad to hear.. it is a really tough decision for her at list she was informed about this earlier but if he really love the guy and they are really comfortable with each other i think she should give it a try. now a days nothing is impossible with our technology and they have a lot of options but it really needs a lot of money.

There are some natural medicines outside us which most people have no idea. If I was in her position I would just make him to take those till last try. It will give him some positive thoughts as he will be alright sooner. If any methods wont cured him, there are many children outside the world who did not have parents or love to share. Adopting them gives pleasure to all.

This is a very hard situation which need more time to think and the guy was really brave because he admitted it to your friend that he cant have a baby. Anyway most of girls want to have a baby but there are cases like this that even though we want we cant have it. I think you friend should think twice or thrice to choose what she really wants, having a baby with other man or live with the man she love without a baby. That's was an option, in other hard she can still have a baby if they both agree to adopt or undergo in vitro fertilization and look for a donor so that your friend can get pregnant and they can have a baby. But based on you statement that you friend she loves much to have a baby after married than to her boyfriend I think she needed to set the boyfriend free that prolonging the pain and confusion that she feel. After that she can start a new life and have a baby with someone she likes someday.

The question itself makes me confused either.But there is only one thing came up in my thought.If he really love the guy then he need to sacrifice her happiness to have a babies in the future.They can adopt a baby or either what arrangement they could make as couple. Love is acceptance,if she think she would still be happy without having a child then she will be able to continue with the guy or otherwise... If I were in her situation,truly if I love my boyfriend I will learn to accept the truth that my desire of having a child will never fulfilled.It sad to choose between the two but "Love" can give a final answer..

If i was the role of your friend i will continue the affair and later i will marry him. I believe that it is not his fault not to become a father. I think it is good to adopt a child from orphan. So that all the problem gets solved.

Well, it doesnt matter. They can adopt a baby if they like. Unless, they can still do something about it like getting his boyfriend for checkups and medication so that they can cure the mumps.

I would say if she has a strong love for him, she can marry him. Having children is a wonderful thing and the time you spend with your children is most precious. Yet I think love for partner is more important. Because for babies you have a lot of options like adoption, artificial insemination etc, but for love of life what can you do to replace it.

If I truely loved the guy I would stay with him and marry him. There is always the option of adoption later. And even if I really wanted children I couldn't see giving up the man I loved because he was infertile. And it's not like it's his fault that he got ill when he was younger. Did he try to keep this information from her? That might annoy me but at the same time I think I would understand that he was afraid of rejection, because lets face it a lot of men keep their self confidence in their pants, and something like that has to be a huge blow to his ego. I would stay with him and still have a happy life, and if I was able to I would adopt a baby.

Can you explain what does heavy mumps means?

It is so sad, so sad knowing that your friend is in that situation. Maybe, if I am in the girl's situation, I would first assess if I truly and extremely love the guy that I can't live without him because if I can still be happy with my life without him, then I can go and look for another guy who can give me babies. But I do hope that if she would choose leaving the guy, I hope she'll find a better replacement because it is hard to find a good guy today.

Hi friend, sorry to hear about this. But what to do, if she is in sincere and real love with him, she don't have the ability to marry another person, she can adopt a baby and consider it as her own one, i will do the same if i am in her sort

hi ryanong I think perhaps they could adopt a baby as there are many babies needing homes or perhaps an older child. its not his fault that the measles as a kid made him unable to have children. if they truly love each other and wish a family why not adopt? there are many children needing parents too.

I want children, so I think that I would be very shocked if the person who I wanted to be with suddenly told me that he was unable to do so. However, there are ways around it, and I would just have to accept that he could not be the Father of my child. I would have to get somebody else to donate sperm so that we could have a child and bring it up as our own, but he would just not be the biological Father. That doesn't mean that he wouldn't love the child, and that the child wouldn't be his, because it is the fact that he would be there for it that would be important rather than the fact that he might not be able to have children that actually shared his DNA.

There are plenty of orphans she could choose an infant-or-two from. If she really wants to have her own, there are ways they could get around to it.

i dont know..i would probably do all that i can to still have a baby. with todays' technology in the dr. office it might still be possible to have a baby with this man she is with but there might or might now be complication, i just want everyone to be aware of that. Im very sorry to hear that tho and i will pray for them