Can you fall in love easily?
@jobfindonline (1744)
June 18, 2012 10:08am CST
Do it needs time to fall in love? How long is the time you need to fall in love? what if all things are happening so fast? would you dare to stop and think a while... I don't think it's wise to be carried away and it's better to take more time to know a person. Even if you think that the person has all the qualities you are looking for.
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@ifa225 (14460)
• Indonesia
20 Jun 12
If someone patient enough to face me, give me his emphaty to me..be there when i am lonely and when i need him
i could fall in love slowly
about the time...it is depend. .Maybe about 2-3 months in average
i could say i am easy to fall in love with my best friends
@jobfindonline (1744)
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21 Jun 12
sometimes if we are given the attention that we normally don't receive from others we get more attracted and close to the person. You are so right with this.
@512771751 (1096)
• China
21 Jun 12
you are right. I think friendship is much more important than loveship. Especially your close friend, so don't fall in love with friends, it's dangerous.
@tess_quinain (1149)
• Philippines
19 Jun 12
I miss falling in love! LOL. I don't get easily fall in love. I have to get to know the person very well. But sometimes we are fooled by our emotions that we make mistakes.
@jobfindonline (1744)
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19 Jun 12
That is what I'm careful about, I don't want to be fooled by my emotions. Heart could only feel emotions and often overlook the consequences. I don't want to make mistakes.
@jobfindonline (1744)
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19 Jun 12
I agree we became blind sometimes coz we don't want to leave the happy feeling of being in love. But why I feel this way, loving has also some burden in my heart. It's hard to decide..but I need more time. Mistakes are part of being in love but I don't want to commit serious mistake. We are always in control of our own lives, it depends on our decisions.
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
19 Jun 12
Well, all i do is listening to my heart, not based on the time. Sometime i like that guy so much in the first time but i feel he is not my type after some meetings. Sometime i have no good feeling with a guy in the first meeting, but my feeling is change after some meetings later.
Sometime love comes soon but sometime love comes so late later...I don't hide my feeling at all, when i know it is the love, i say out i love, if not i will say out i don't love yet...
Better we just do listen our heart..
@jobfindonline (1744)
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19 Jun 12
I see everyone has their own way of dealing ourselves when we are in love. I won't listen to my heart since heart is more treacherous. It is the one that making our eyes blind of the reality and consequences. But if you feel that way I have nothing against it.
@jobfindonline (1744)
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19 Jun 12
we tend to see all the good qualities when we are in love so taking more time to know a person will help us avoid a wrong decision in life.
@musicluv4life (1867)
• United States
18 Jun 12
I think it takes time to have love not necessarily fall in love. You can fall in love so quick when a person treats you right and is kind and all that. But, after the first few months when everything feels like a fairytale, if you are in a good relationship, Then little by little you get to see the real side of people. I think that when you start to truly fall in love or not because, you build trust in who you are with.
@jobfindonline (1744)
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19 Jun 12
yes sometimes it's so easy to think that we feel like falling in love to a person who treat us right. It seems everything is good in the beginning but if we let ourselves be carried away we might overlook some important things..
@musicluv4life (1867)
• United States
21 Jun 12
yup and we all do it, i think thats why people shouldnt rush so much into things because, people often show who they really are later in a relationship.
@kimtienthao2809 (47)
• Thailand
18 Jun 12
Sometimes in our life, we will fall in love with someone who make us have a strong impression , just a look, a smile, or a funny story with that guy ! I ever fall in love before and of course everything come to fast, will go too fast.
In my heart, just is memory !
@jobfindonline (1744)
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18 Jun 12
I think I am in that situation... everything moves so fast, evrything is good and I almost can't believe this is happening but I feel I need to stop and think very carefully.. I don't think love can develop in a very fast pace. thanks for sharing your experience.
@kimtienthao2809 (47)
• Thailand
19 Jun 12
I think maybe it is a good relationship which you ever want it before..so, you dont stop it immediatly, you keep in touch with that person but dont let your heart fall in love very much, you must thinking about ..." is that guy ok ? and (he or she ) will be my lover? " will (she or he) suit you ? just a funny story, a smile , a good looking ...it is not enough to deceive begin a new love ! thinking about this feeling careful and give you a chance to love someone if you make right decision !
@simonelee (2715)
• China
19 Jun 12
Not sure. But, there is possibility I'll fall easily to the person whom i look attractive and show extra sweetness and care. I'm not sure if that love will last long. Maybe it's just and infatuation, false feelings. Not sure though. Maybe to someone yes.
@jobfindonline (1744)
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21 Jun 12
Sweetness and care are nice qualities and attractive qualities but you know infatuation doesn't last long.
@sender621 (14893)
• United States
19 Jun 12
I have always been a true romantic at heart. Falling in love does come easily for me. yet so does the heartbreak com just as easily. It does seem yhst when love comes too fast and easily it does not last. The slower the build up of the relationship the the ddeper the love can become.
@jobfindonline (1744)
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19 Jun 12
I think you are really a romantic person to build those wonderful words you shared! You are so right, that is why I want to take everything slowly so we can get to know each other deeper and established a strong relationship.
@triplejazzm51 (1373)
• Philippines
19 Jun 12
I don't fall in love easily but i think i get attracted to a men with qualities i like easily. To fall in love in an instant is impossible for me because i should get to know him better first before i will fall in love. For me loving someone is loving everything in him including his faults.
@jobfindonline (1744)
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21 Jun 12
good qualities attract us more closer to a person but the question is to know whether the good qualities are real or not. There is only one way to do this and that is to take time in knowing a person.
@shylade (3132)
• Philippines
19 Jun 12
I think this depends on a person and the situation. I always believe in the right time and place. It does not always follow that when you find all the qualities of the man or woman you dream of you could fall in love easily. It depends of what you believe in. For me, I don't easily fall in love and for my entire life, I only fell in love once. I had many crushes before but it does lead to to falling in love.
@jobfindonline (1744)
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21 Jun 12
yes there is the right time for everything and we shouldn't hurry to get in any relationship. There are people like us who are so careful about when it comes to falling in love.
@jricky1 (6800)
• China
19 Jun 12
I'm easy to fall in love with someone.I love gentleman and also with chrisma.I suppose this is also attractive to every girl.However,the personality is always important and really care about family and friends.I think that's really the one that i'm looking for.
@coralguan (58)
• China
19 Jun 12
I fell in love easily when I was very young, it seems I was never tired whatever how many times I fail, just wanted to be colourful and exciting, though could be sad if lost one.
But of course, I still think that time my heart was pure, though fall in live easily but don`t consider too much, love just love, even if he has nothing.
Now I am not very young and think things like this more conservative, I am not saying the love now I am finding is not true anymore, just think there is some bread we need when we fall in love with other. And as jobfindonline said, we need time to think the person whether has all the qualities you are looking for.
About love of absolute definition, I think it is not relational to age, pure when we are young, placid when we are mature.
@jobfindonline (1744)
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19 Jun 12
I've been in and out of love but going back to my previous life, I am happy that I made the right decision. Now I think I'm falling in love again but I don't wanna rush. You are right I need more time. Any decision I will make now wil be a life changing one..why it's so hard to be in love. Yes, love needs a mature mind and it doesn't depend on age.
@jorshelle (71)
• Philippines
19 Jun 12
I can't be in love easily. Many factors in my mind that runs in talking about love. Love is a serious thing. It could not be played, but nowadays many are forgetting the word love. I can't be in love easily due to many cases: You are not sure., If the person you are in love with is not in love with you. Its better to know the person first before you decide to be in love with him/her, but love is a feeling and sometimes you cant control it., but in my case I just let my feelings be fade, I just told to myself that this person is not loving me. Or I'm trying to push away that person. I'm not confident that the feelings are mutual, its good to be prepared that everyone you love is not also the feelings youve got. And you cant teach how to love Its unconciously how you feel. You cant tell anybody whom supposed to love. I cant be in love easily. For I cant trust a person easily. For our world is full of trickery that any of us can be fooled if we are weakened by our feelings. I cant be in love easily: In my mind that all males have no satisfaction that as long as they are alive they try to seek another woman to love again
@jobfindonline (1744)
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19 Jun 12
It makes sense that we shouldn't trust what our hearts feel without considering our mind. Our emotions could weaken us and the next thing that could happen is to be fooled.
@BabyCheetah (1911)
• Australia
19 Jun 12
I wouldn't say I fall in love quickly and easily but I do get infatuated with some people and things quite easily. I get really smitten and it makes me feel good so I hold on to that feeling as long as I possible can. But I can't call it falling in love, that would probably be the next step.
You know now just thinking about it I feel all warm and fuzzy inside, which is good because it's winter here and cold! :D
@jobfindonline (1744)
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19 Jun 12
yeah it's a good feeling that we want to keep forever but we need to consider also the outcome of our decision. It's a once in a lifetime decision..
@jobfindonline (1744)
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19 Jun 12
I think we easily assume that it is falling in love..but that is not the real love for it requires more time to know a person.
@varier (5685)
• Indonesia
18 Jun 12
I think I don't fall in love easily. If I got a "feeling" through people easily, then I believe it's not love, it's more about affection.
And I don't really fill my head with those kind of confusion.
If I like a person, that would be just fine and there's nothing that should burden my thoughts
@jobfindonline (1744)
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18 Jun 12
I think you are right. I shouldn't be bothered about it. And just take more time, love takes time and it doesn't happen in a short time frame.. why love must be a burden to our hearts and thoughts.. I hate this feeling of being confused.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
18 Jun 12
If you fall in love you fall in love. This has nothing to do with being wise but with feelings. If you are able to fall in love on command this is not the real thing.
BTW it's proved that love is not only "blind" but it also makes "stupid" which means a part of the brains is not working right so you are not able to make the right decisions.
Seeing all the qualities you like to see at your partner doesn't mean you will fall in love as well. This feeling has mostly nothing to do with qualities or what you are looking for but with attraction and attraction is seldom based on the qualities you have on your list.
So again.. you never fall in love otherwise you would know falling has nothing to do with wise decisions or picking out the right moment and person.
@jobfindonline (1744)
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19 Jun 12
thanks for your honest respond. I understand your point, falling in love doesn't need to in command but if we let our emotions conquer our thoughts and the ability to think right we will end up more stupid. We must learn how to control our heart so as not to be dragged by wrong decisions in life.
@devansh0207 (86)
• India
18 Jun 12
i never fall in love easily because......i can't find girl or either you can say girls don't like me....because not so good looking....hehehehehe
@jobfindonline (1744)
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18 Jun 12
If someone suddenly sees the handsome side of you, do you think there is a possibility that you fall in love easily? I guess there is in your case coz to find someone who appreciate you as you are and see you different above all others will make your heart filled with love. But one must be very careful as love is not the product of a fast thinking...
@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
18 Jun 12
For me, fall in love has no matter of time, you just feel it and can't stop it but you can control it. I fall inlove easily but I learned how to control it and set some limitations to avoid any confusions. I admit that I fell inlove with my husband before even if where only friends but I control myself because I dont want to get hurt or anybody to get hurt just because I am inlove with him. Even when he courted me I know that he has all the qualities that I am looking for I waited the right time before I decided to be with him. Indeed, falling in love is quiet crucial yet very interesting and give us happiness.
@jobfindonline (1744)
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19 Jun 12
It's a nice feeling.. you feel like floating in the air and as if you can relate to all love songs.. but you are right, we can always control our feeling if we use our mind to think right.
@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
18 Jun 12
Love is a part of life. We must select a proper person as our lover based on the understanding. It is really easy to fall with some one, but this kind of falling is not consider as real one. Most of the times we will get crush and infatuation in this kind of instant sort and they don't have a long span. We can forget about this kind of crush and infatuation within a short period.
Now a days this kind of instant love are quite common. Youngsters easily fall in love with their beloved person without proper understanding. After come to know about the negatives of their beloved person they planned for break ups. Both of this activities are wrong. We must take proper time to select our beloved person as well as think a lot before breaking our relationship.
Real and sincere love always requires trust and understanding they are the real means for a love and help to keep our relationship for a long time. We must understand about our beloved persons as well as know about their characters and behaviors before making a serious relationship with them. This kind of love with proper understanding only make a stable relationship.
@jobfindonline (1744)
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18 Jun 12
[i][/i]Hi vid, thanks for dropping your comments. It is wonderful for me to learn from you that real and sincere love always requires trust and understanding they are the real means for a love and help to keep our relationship for a long time.
I want a stable relationship so I don't want to rush.. real love can wait. I must know the person very well.