Do you have friends giving you emotional and moral support for decades?

Philippines
June 18, 2012 9:13pm CST
Are you among those blessed with long-time friends who have been part of the ups and downs of your life for 10, 15, or 20 years? I'm lucky to have a few such long-time friends, and we started out as acquaintances at work and school. Just how do you gauge if a friend will be there for the long haul? Is is a leap of faith? Or plain luck? I think some people gravitate to "bad" friends who take advantage of the camaraderie & friendship, while others have great luck bumping into friends who can lend moral and emotional support for many, many years. Care to share some of your experiences?
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9 responses
• United States
19 Jun 12
hi jcordova! i am happy and blessed to say that my husband is my best friend and has been emotionally and morally supportive of me since we met when i was eighteen years old...(many many years ago) also, i am a christian and have felt the strengthening power of christ in my life as i have grown and matured and feel very thankful for that...my parents have also been a constant and unfailing form of support and friendship...this is a good discussion....i agree that a lot of people have bad false friends in their lives, but this is a good time to reflect on the blessings of friends and family as well!
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@PageTurner (2825)
• United States
19 Jun 12
Hello jcordova888 I have been quite blessed with a couple of long friendships. I am still very close to a friend I made in 1981, when we were in 9th grade. We have been available to each other for emotional and moral support all these years, even though we have not lived close to each other for most of that time. After high school, the closest we lived to each other was about 150 miles, and we made it a point to see each other at least once a month during that 8 year period. I have another friend who I've known since 1984. We met in our first year in college, and we are still very close. We talk to each other regularly, and he has done more for me than I can relay to you here. Both of these people are the kind of friends who, no matter in what sort of trouble I may find myself, or where ever I may find myself, I know that if I can reach them, they will reach back to me in whatever supportive ways they can. And I, for them. I have some other friends like this, but I just haven't been friends with them as long; say, 10 to 12 years. I think that one of the keys to having good friends is being a good friend.
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@GemmaR (8517)
19 Jun 12
I have a small group of friends who have always been there for me since we were at school together, and I don't know what I would have done without them over the course of the past decade or so. I just always know that they're going to be there for me if I ever need their help, and I hope that they know that I am always going to be there for them as well. Our friends are the most important people in our lives, and it is very important that we are able to understand this so that we don't go through our lives taking our friends for granted.
• Philippines
19 Jun 12
Yes, it's not good to take faithful and true friends for granted, or to get in touch with them only during when things are rosy. True friends are there for you through thick and thin, though of course some friends of ours may go through a crisis every now and then and can't be there for us... In like manner, we can be there for them during their crisis moments. Anyone here who has experienced being around to lend a hand to a friend during a personal crisis?
• Indonesia
20 Jun 12
I can say that I'm among the lucky people. I have 2 friends that care for me like they do with their own brother or sister. We've been best friend for more than 15 years. I remember they supported me when my ex boyfriend left me and married someone else, when my thesis was rejected, and many more I can't write them all here . I don't know maybe it's a good faith that I have them around. I was gratefully happy.
@taura2p (349)
• Romania
19 Jun 12
I've been knowing my best friend for about 10 years. We weren't so close at first, we were just classmates. But then something happened. After we finished college, most of our friends went to different cities for studies. And my best friend and I remained in the same city. We started hanging out, telling secrets to each other, doing more and more things together. After a year, she went to another city, too, but we still remained best friends. And I know I can count on her any time, and I don't think she will ever disappoint me. Though we do not spend much time together, we love each other a lot and we can talk about absolutely anything. I consider myself very lucky for this, and I am very thankful. It is such a pitty that not everyone has true friends.
• Philippines
19 Jun 12
You're right. True friends are hard to find, but once one or two genuine friends come into your life, it's like you're blessed a thousand times over.
• India
20 Jun 12
Hi friend, good to hear that you have some good supporting friends, i have only one trusted long term friend. He is always supporting me in my ups and downs apart from him my wife is my best friend, philosopher and guide who always with me in all my life events
@sukumar794 (5040)
• Thiruvananthapuram, India
19 Jun 12
Such friends whom you could accept as your kith and kin are only a drop on the ocean nowadays.People are becoming more and more self centered finding little time to care for their fellowmen.
@shylade (3132)
• Philippines
20 Jun 12
Yes, I am lucky that for over 20 years now I have my best friend with me. He's my husband now for almost 4 years. I also have friends over 10 years who are always there for us even we are miles apart. I have just few friends but I see to it they are worth to keep.
• Bangladesh
19 Jun 12
Friend is a nonsense to me.