My friend is inlove. Is she really inlove?
By joevanosa
@joevanosa (303)
Philippines
June 18, 2012 11:04pm CST
This is a story of my friend:
I am 23, a nurse on a jobhunt, and never had a boyfriend. Not long ago, I met this cute taxi driver. As we talked, we noticed we have a lot in common. Our first date ended in hugs and kisses too hard to resist.
On our next date three months later, the hugs and kisses because more assertive and prolonged. He promised to visit me at home. But he hasn't showed up since then. i miss him a lot, but has avoided calling him up. I don;t want him to think I'm dying for him.
Am I inlove with him? Is he serious about me? help!
5 responses
@BabyCheetah (1911)
• Australia
19 Jun 12
Why did it take 3 months for a 2nd date? To me that seems strange, if you like someone and would consider being with them then you would want to see them more. How long has it been now? If it's been a while then IMO he can't be that crazy about you.
Are you in love? No one can answer for sure but if you have never had a boyfriend I would only be assuming that it's just an infatuation. It's the first time with my first I thought the same thing, I think everyone does :(
@joevanosa (303)
• Philippines
29 Jun 12
yes everyone does it because we are so uncontrollable with our emotions. we are so impulsive of our actions.
Me, i just do things right away because i do not want to lose sight of the privilege but almost always, the end is hatred and hurt. but who can blame me?
@BabyCheetah (1911)
• Australia
29 Jun 12
You must be able to sometiems control your emotions. It really isn't an easy thing to do though. I can't talk I just got frustrated at someone HAHA :)
@joevanosa (303)
• Philippines
1 Jul 12
im so sorry hearing your frustrations now.
it really is not as easy as ABC..but i know with the right time, i can learn things.
@mecringles (11)
• Philippines
24 Jun 12
i guess his not that serious. having a feeling for someone you have met for a short period of time is not love. You aren't even sure if his married or not. and what's his reason not to show up if he really is sincere.
@joevanosa (303)
• Philippines
24 Jun 12
hello thanks for giving an effort answering this post. if you are saying that meeting someone in a short period of time is not love. How short is short? How long is long? Should be time be the basis of love? Wouldn't be the emotions felt? I don't want to argue. I just want to know your thoughts. So what if he's married? Should love be stopped?
@simonelee (2715)
• China
19 Jun 12
No, he's not serious and i think he's in a relationship or married.He take advantage because he sense you're innocence and weakness. If you give in that easily on a first date then he'll expect something more on a second date. The reason he didn't show up because he already have you. Most men are like that. So, next time play the "hard to get game".
@joevanosa (303)
• Philippines
21 Jun 12
Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us.
I was in awe with your post that you have already pretended that the guy is already married or in relationship. Perhaps. I do not know. I just do not want to conclude things.
What do you mean "hard to get" game?
@joevanosa (303)
• Philippines
21 Jun 12
Hello there. Honestly, this is not my story. This is of my friend's. So, I really was not able to get the thorough information though but, she told me the guy was just busy with his work. I hope she could build the trust to him though distance was a hindrance to their growing relationship; it's hard.
Thanks for giving an extra effort to answer this post. Thanks!
@kagome20 (14)
• Philippines
19 Jun 12
well i guess, you aren't. love has a greater and deeper meaning than most of us actually thinks we knew it all. that feeling is called "infatuation". you cannot fully say you love someone unless you have experienced a lot of things together like sharing laughters and pains and whatsoever. but in that case i think you are just infatuated with him the reason why you want to call but you just can't. actually love is giving and giving and not expecting anything from return (you just really want the best for him even if sometimes it means letting go).
@joevanosa (303)
• Philippines
29 Jun 12
yes i agree with you. maybe, it was not love at all, it was just infatuation. who will love in just one meet up right? i mean if not when would you say you are inlove? it takes time to be fully sure that you are inlove, right?
honestly, i hate letting go :(
