Illness & Loss
By natnickeep
@natnickeep (2336)
United States
June 19, 2012 10:02am CST
How do you deal?
I have trouble when the issue is close to home. I don't know what to say or how to just be there. I can give others advice, but when it comes to my life I just curl up inside. I freeze and don't know what to say or do. My uncle in Florida has cancer I can't be there but it's hard for me to even know what to say. When friends are sick or doing bad I feel like I am not there enough.
I guess maybe I have been taught to run from my problems, and as I am growing older I am trying to learn to face them.
What about you, how well do you deal with illness or loss with friends and family. Or other major problems?
4 responses
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
22 Jun 12
It is never something that is easy for me to deal with, but I'm not nearly as bad at dealing with illness and loss because it is something that has been a very real part of my life since I was a young child. I will admit that on the inside I am completely torn apart, but to everyone around me I try to hold myself together because I don't want things to be worse for those people that are around me.
I understand my own mortality and I think that is one of the things that makes it possible for me to deal with illness and loss.
@tajara2008 (81)
• Australia
20 Jun 12
Hi Natnickeep: This certainly shows that you are a kind and caring person.
Its hard to know what to do or say when someone close to you has passed away... I usually try to dwell on the fact that they are now out of pain and suffering... Its kinder that way than they be suffering. Its still hard I know...
As for someone being ill, I agree with you in that you enough for them... Even if it is just to sit with them while they sleep is a comfort to them knowing someone is near. They really appreciate it.
@advokatku (4033)
• Indonesia
20 Jun 12
in face of risks or problems, we have several options to: accept, avoid, control or transfer risks / issues/ problems.
I got used to transfer every risks or problems that I face. This does not mean I'm being irresponsible, but I have a principle that life is to be enjoyed
