I don't get some people at all...

Maybe she has a cow or a horse or some goats and she wanted to let it grow and then to dry it and store the grass for the winter. Now the poor cow will die because of your husband.

I don't think your neighbour is rude at all.. old people can get very crabby in their old age, but she was probably raised in a generation were manners were very important, more important than they are today.. so i don't think she is rude. I think she probably did it out of embarrasment. I mean you think about it, look how long the grass was before your husband decided to cut it! Look how many neighbours didn't help when it got to one foot. look how many neighbours didn't help when it got to 2 feet. and then finally your husband helped. I honestly think it was embarrasment. That old woman cannot do things for herself that she used to be able to do.. and her children who she raised and looked after, do not offer her the same curtosy that your husband, a stranger offers. her pride is probably hurt.

Neighbors? I don't see any of them! Where I live I only know one of my neighbors , all the others? No! Back when I was a child , my mom Knew our neighbors. We lived in a apartment building and we knew our upstairs , downstairs and next door neighbors. fast forward many years and I am in a townhouse and on one side I know my neighbor and on the other side? I don't. It is sad. Tell Hubby Not to change! Just because this woman doesn't know the meaning of kindness and selflessness Does Not mean he Has to change! And tell him I am proud of him. Not everyone would go out of their way to help! He has a huge heart! Girl , you have great taste!

I don't have any rude neighbors, but I do have one that tries so hard to be independent that she hurts herself. The husband is confined to the bed, and wife can't start the mower. Across the street neighbor offers to cut the grass for her, but she said, "no". Since grandson doesn't feel like cutting the grass, she has to hire it cut. Neighbor would have cut it for free, but she didn't want to be obligated to him.

Hello LovingMyBabies That was nice of your husband to notice your neighbor and help out like that. Perhaps the woman was insulted / embarrassed because she doesn't have the money to pay your husband, and her dignity has been maligned unintentionally. I have done a lot of work for people who cannot afford to pay for things, and I always enter into a payment agreement of some sort so that dignity can be maintained by all parties involved. This is usually done in the manner of barter, and I always make sure that the person whom I'm helping sets the terms, such as giving me chickens or baking me a cake. I had one woman tell me that she would take on my worries for me for a whole month! That one was grand. Also, it could have just been painful for her because she may not have a good relationship with her children, and this all came crashing down on her in this moment, and she just reacted without thinking. Peace.

Hi friend, sorry to hear that you have rude neighbors, my neighbor is very friendly and i am lucky to have a good neighbor, as you helped your neighbor in her need, then why she is being rude to you? it is really hard to understand this kind of people

It sounds to me like she might have been embarrassed. If she gave him $5 before, she might have thought he was really doing it for the money even though he wouldn't admit it when she said she didn't have any. It's hard to get old and not have money for simple things like that, especially when your kids don't know or seem to care. It can make one angry, embarrassed and not know quite what to do.

Wow. That's pathetic. If her pride has been smarted she certainly didn't handle it well. There is no excuse for her rudeness, old or young.

Unfortunately, I see that type of stuff a lot. Not so much among my neighbors, but I work at a grocery store, and we have a lot of elderly customers (there's a senior community across the street). All the time, I see people who have obviously been all but forgotten by their children and when someone tries to help them or be kind to them they snap and treat them so rudely. Once, a younger woman offered to help an elderly woman and the woman said something like "You don't think my kids can help me if I want them to!" The younger one just said that her mother lives quite a distance away and she hopes that someone would help her mother out every now and then when she can't be there. The elderly one snapped about people being rude and nosy. It was really irritating. I wanted to smack the woman for being so nasty.

Som epoeple can be rude and it doesn't matter what their age is! Maybe this old woman was hoping her kids would come over to mow the lawn for her even though it sounds like they are rarely around! Anyway your husband was doing a nice thing and for whatever reason tha woman didn't appreciate it!

Maybe your husband should have offered her his help. She might have felt she was being impossed upon. I don´t thing her atticude was a rude one, but she might have been afraid or nervous. Yo tell you the truth, I wouldn´t like anyone to do anything in my house without my consent. He should have let her know.

What a shame. She is probably embarrassed about her kids not helping. Your husband did a good deed. I work a 2nd job in an upscale retirement community. The sad thing is that with all the money these people have - some do not get any visitors even though family lives close enough to drive. But as soon as they are dying then they swarm over the person like vultures. This one nice woman passed away during the week and I found out when I worked on Saturday. I saw all these people in her apartment and asked another worker who they were. Her brother and his kids. What a shame that in 4 years I never saw them there visiting her. Now they are all after her possessions and money. I just don't get it.

Mean! I do have insensitive neighbors. They put up a roof just next to our backyard without a gutter and every time it rains all the rain water would go right into my property and flooding the backyard. How insensitive could they be? And what's more, when they fight, they would shout at the top of their lungs so early in the morning like 4 or 5 am when everybody's sleeping. They're really awful neighbors.

My neighbor? She placed her garbage in front of our house... too rude!

I am lucky to have very good neighbors....we all help each other out though the guys that live around here really do more for me then I could do for them....they take very good care of me!

That has got to be frustrating for your husband! I suppose if he wasn't doing it for the money, then he should be content with a job well done. Even though the lady didn't appreciate what he did, he should be admired for doing the right thing! He saw a problem, and helped her out. He didn't need to do it, but he did it anyway. It's just frustrating when we take our own time and resources to help other people, and they get upset over it! If she didn't come out at all, I don't foresee any of this becoming an issue, but because she went out of her way to get annoyed with him, it's so frustrating! I don't understand people either. I've had that said to me sometimes. People will say, "You didn't have to help me. You shouldn't have helped me because I didn't ask for it." I don't like when people get mad when others help them, but I think it's a heart problem. I think for whatever reason this lady was bitter or bound up inside and just chose to take it out on your kind hubby that particular time. Good for him. You should be proud of him! But I don't know that he'll want to volunteer to go over there and mow her lawn ever again. And she should be very careful how she treats people, especially the next time she needs help. If she continues to push people away, there will be no one left to help her! I fear that this is the way she treats her family, too, which might be why no one has helped her... My husband and I have pretty nice neighbors. I've only met a couple of them, but I've really liked those who we've met. We don't hang out or anything, but we'll wave when we're out and about or driving by. We also walk our dogs now and then, so we get to see more and more of the neighbors when it's nice out. Our neighbor across the street and one house down scraps metal and other things for a living. I don't know if he's a hoarder, but sometimes it looks like it in his yard! However, our city has pretty strict standards for stuff like that, so it never gets too bad. He's probably in his 70s or so. He stopped by our house once to get a gallon milk jug filled with water because his water pipe broke, and his son was fixing it. He didn't want it for a shower or to wash clothes. He needed the water to make coffee, he said! I thought it was funny. He's very nice, though. I've really liked all of our neighbors we've met so far, and I hope we're good neighbors too!

Maybe your husband should have went to the door and told her he would like to cut her lawn and explain he didnt want payment before just going over there and start cutting.

I had a similar thing happen when my husband tried to be neighborly and cut the neighbor's grass. He was told not to do it again (and it was not that he did a bad job because he is an expert landscaper). The only thing I can think is that some people don't know how to accept help with no strings attached. They think there must be an ulterior motive and being that they don't know what it is, they are afraid to accept the help. For some people it is a pride thing, they get insulted that someone thinks they need help. Another thing is that since he started cutting it without her knowledge, she may have gotten frightened by the noise and wondering who was in her yard. Elderly people have to be careful of who they deal with because some people come as wolves in sheep's clothing. I am sure it was fear that made her react the way she did. Maybe if she get's to know your husband she will let him do it in the future.

[i]So, did your husband finish cutting off the grass? Or better yet, did her children cut it for her?![/i] I guess some people just get so jaded that when somebody does try to do something good for them (even without anything in return), they wouldn't recognize. Or get confused and resort to anger.