What should I do?
By Fushigi_Doll
@Fushigi_Doll (74)
Philippines
June 20, 2012 12:24am CST
In my school, i have a foreign classmate. So, we really have to speak in english when talking to her. My other classmates wanted me to talk to her since I could speak fluent english, as they explained when i asked. They were telling me that they don't know english that's why i agreed to talk for them. I know that they meant that they don't know how to speak straight english or is too shy to do so when they told me that they "don't know". That time, they wanted me to get her phone number so, i did what they asked. My foreign classmate gave it and eyed my other classmates curiously.
I took the initiative to explain to her in this way, "They are shy talking to you because they said they don't know english"
Later that time,one of my classmates approached me and slapped me in the arm. Although that didn't hurt much, i was taken aback. She told me that why did I tell our foreign classmate that they don't know how to speak english when they are just beginners.And then, she called me something that i couldn't remember already due to the things that were playing back in my head. I remembered them telling me that they don't know and i remember telling my foreign classmate "they said". I wasn't able to explain myself to my classmate due to the shock that gave me. First, the slap in the arm and second, the words she told me. Sorry for the length of this discussion but i just wanted to know what i should do because ever since that time, her attitude changed towards me.
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8 responses
@SinfulRose (3527)
• Davao, Philippines
20 Jun 12
Nothing!
It's not your fault if the girl didn't heard you right or misinterpreted what you said. And besides, in the real world, it's either you know things or you don't know anything at all. And they know little, I mean little as in little to nothing then it's NOTHING! But if they really know then it means that they really know something.
You shouldn't feel bad. Think of it that it's really how the real world works. There are many who are ignorant, judgmental and even those that tend to misunderstand. And there is nothing you can do about it, it's something that you cannot control easily.
Let me give you an example: Some time ago we went to Abreeza--it's a mall--just a few days after it's opening so it's still new. I was talking to our brother about why the Philippines won't be able to get out where it is now--in a dump--and one of the reasons I've pointed out is that people don't have discipline. I've given an example that the people, entering Abreeza, don't know how to form a single line to hasten the process of entering because people are pushing. You see, upon the doorway, there's a scanner for a single person, it's the same scanner you see around airports.
When I finished my talking, one girl, who heard me said, "Ay! Maglinya diay?" translated as "Oh! Is there really a need to form a line?" or "Oh! Are we really going to form a line?" in a surprised way. I wasn't able to talk back in shock. If I wasn't I would have said, "Oh, go ahead and fit 2 or three people on that scanner and let's see if you would all fit!"
Some people are really ignorants. That you can't take away in a society as big as ours. You'll just have to be wise enough, patient enough with creatures like these since you're more knowledgeable than they are. Don't feel like you're guilty for making a mistake when you never committed any at all.
Hope this enlightens you, sis. Have a nice day and Happy MyLotting!
@SinfulRose (3527)
• Davao, Philippines
20 Jun 12
I know. I really hope you're feeling okay now.
Thanks for the BR too! Happy MyLotting!
@Fushigi_Doll (74)
• Philippines
20 Jun 12
Thanks, sis! :D I know you've told me this already. I just need something to lift the remaining depression
@dfollin (25347)
• United States
20 Jun 12
In my opinion you should start trying to teach her your language.If she is your country then she should learn your language. ......When in Rome!.......
Those other people that slapped you and talked rudely to you,I would talk to them and explain to them what is going on and that you are trying to teach her your language.
@Fushigi_Doll (74)
• Philippines
20 Jun 12
Thank you, that is what I am going to do. I'll try to explain to her clearly what was going on.
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@berting600 (3453)
• Philippines
20 Jun 12
I admire your efforts to try accommodating your foreign classmate as well as pleasing
your other classmates in terms of what they wanted to know,yet it turns out that you are misinterpreted by your foreign classmate and is misunderstood by your other classmates.Try to convince your classmates that you have to slowly teach your foreign
classmate how to talk in your local dialect.You also explain to your classmates that you have difficulty in trying to please anyone because you are not perfect in all aspects but try to do what is important that they must understand your situation or they are the ones to convey with the foreign classmate so they may know how to say it in good English.I know you could soon arrange an agreement to solve your situation
so that your companionship would not be finish by a simple misunderstanding.
@Fushigi_Doll (74)
• Philippines
20 Jun 12
Let me confirm something first. The foreigner didn't misunderstand me but just the other classmate alone. But, thank you for that. I should really be careful of my choice of words next time.
@hora_fugit (5862)
• India
21 Jun 12
I too don't think it was your fault. They felt embarrassed and couldn't handle it, so they accused you. Though it will be better if things come back to normal in your class. There are some suggestions already...
I envy you... My English is not bad, but never got a chance to interact firsthand with a foreigner or such. My sisters had so many of them, I wished I did too.
So, have a high spirit! You are talented (as someone mentioned somewhere) and you have got opportunities!! Don't let a slap on arm stop you.
@Fushigi_Doll (74)
• Philippines
22 Jun 12
lol...yeah, thanks. And a slap on the arm isn't so bad. It made me awake the whole afternoon session. XD
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@Dassodils (2010)
• India
20 Jun 12
Oh...Very sad to hear about your experience..You have to think that all the things will have any reason...First of all,you should try to make a talk with all of your friends who included in this incident..Then try to solve the problem slowly..Then say sorry to them for your mistake..I think that will help you to solve this problem smoothly..Try to solve it suddenly..Otherwise,It will lead to a big problem...All the best dear... :)
@Fushigi_Doll (74)
• Philippines
22 Jun 12
Yes, I was considering in apologizing to them for the wrong choice of words i had said.
@syramoon (654)
• United States
20 Jun 12
I'm sorry that your classmates are treating you so poorly. It is really rude of them to act like that after you agreed to help them. They may have felt embarrassed about it, but still there is no reason to act like that, but students can sometimes be really cruel to one another. I hope this situation gets better. Maybe you can tell them - to talk to her, even if they are just beginning to learn English, because she and you can help them learn English and you and your classmates can help her learn your language. Best Wishes!
@Fushigi_Doll (74)
• Philippines
22 Jun 12
thank you :) I will do my best in making them understand me better
@Harold_ks (1673)
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20 Jun 12
Aw, it seems like your generosity turns out bad. Then maybe you better asked them what really they wanted to say to your foreign classmate. So that you can change the perception of your foreign classmate to them. I hope you can bring back your friendship.
@Fushigi_Doll (74)
• Philippines
20 Jun 12
Thank you for the suggestion. Yes, I would do that the next time they ask me...if there is a next time. I just hope the same as you do that our acquaintance will turn out fine.
@Mashnn (4501)
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20 Jun 12
I think there is nothing much you can do or explain to your friend that can change her attitude. I think your friend is just becoming bothersome in some way. I do not see anything wrong with the way you behaved or answered to the foreigner. You were just been frank.
@Fushigi_Doll (74)
• Philippines
20 Jun 12
I see. Thank you, My sister told me the same thing when I relayed this to her. She said that there are only two options: You know english or you don't know. There is nothing more or less. She said when one knows a bit of it or is a beginner, it still is considered as not knowing. She also said it wasn't my fault so I shouldn't be guilty about my classmate's approach.