I miss being a wife to my husband

Hi Jureathome, how are you? It is great to know that you missed being the wife to your husband. Take solace in the fact that your wifely role to your husband has never been lost.., only some of the roles are temporarily been shifted (or delayed) for good reason- to accommodate the birth of your child! It is even sweeter to know that your husband understands, and is expressing the patience that both of you need at this time. I know that when the right time comes, both of you will enjoy the moments that both of you are accustomed to; so continue to build on your plans to 'give it to him fully' and without reservation, and enjoy! (Smile)

I can relate to your story mate! But I think husbands would be proud if we can attend to the needs of their child. Just don't rant at him all the time about the deprivations you experienced while tending the baby (that's what I'm trying to minimize right now).

I hear that in a year things gets easier, and even better that the first 6 months are the roughest. I'm sure you'll have plenny of time. I hear many moms say they miss their kid when they were babies, that they grow up fast. Maybe if you foccus only in this joy that won't come back it could become more fun But boy, would I miss dating? I really would, I know how you feel. Just maybe try to foccus more in the other thing like having fun watching your baby growing and all and time will pass faster. Sometimes when the baby is older enough to have a nannie or you to leave with your parents then you can go date and have lots of fun!

When my daughter was first born we would take her every where with us. You will not ever be completely okay leaving your kids with someone else but you got to try to relax and take your time. If your not ready to leave her just bring her with. I know its not complete alone time with your husband but it's better then nothing. I think I'm more comfortable with my second on the way to leave him with family then I was with my first. Yes your world revolves around that baby and it's going to be that way for a while but it is about finding that balance. Spend time together when she is sleep and even spend time with yourself like taking a hot bath for or shower for 5 minutes. A newborn can be stressful. Its okay to feel guilty, tired or even upset. During the first 6 months at least and some times even after that.

this is supposed to happen with every couple when they become parents.And being the mother you are supposed to experience this kind of guilty and embarrassment at this point of time in life.But all you need is to spent some time everyday with him no matter how much you are busy and engrossed with baby.The main concern should be you should not make him neglected and left alone. This is very crucial time when most of the husband feel detached and left alone and they seek outside company, so make it a point that the communication between you two is intact no matter how much you can give him and make it a point to spend some time with him everyday and try to discuss with him and even get intimate and make it a point that that you have taken care of the baby issues and everything is settled. this is very important as well as crucial stage of life where you enjoy your motherhood and at the same time you suffer from guilty due to lack of time you devote to your partner.

Hello and congratulation on the birth of your newborn! Hopefully your husband is very understanding when it comes to getting used to having your baby as a part of your everyday lives. I'm pretty sure once things get situated to a point, both of you will be able to enjoy datenights as well as caring for your daughter.

Hi... I'm not married, but I can understand it. It happens in almost every family. When the first baby arrives, the intimacy vanishes for a little while. But that is natural. And I'm sure your husband understands it. When he took you out, it was only his attempt to tell you that he too loves you and needs you... Lady, try and maintain a balance. It'll be tough as the baby is too young, but you can work on it. Good Luck!

I think that that's how it normally is with newborns. All us mothers can really think about is thebaby. I thought husbands did the same thing but i guess it just depends on how the male feels. It should get better as the child gets older. Until then just spend the time with the baby together. These times are precious because they grow up so fast.

you will never be 'just a wife' anymore. even when your kids are older (mine are 15 and 19) you will always now be a wife and a mother. you just have adjust and make special 'couple time' with each other. it will be a bit of a juggle bit it is so worth it.

It is perfectly normal to be like that, and couples go through the same thing all the time when they have a new child. You've both just been through a huge change in your life, and of course your child needs to come first for at least the first few months. It is busy, and you must both be exhausted. That's not to say that you can't get any time alone though. Try to make sure that you have a night or an afternoon once each week where somebody else, perhaps a family member, could look after your child and you could go out for dinner or something. That means that you would still be able to have time together without having to look after your child at the same time.

Been there in the same situation before. It's really hard to get back to your normal scheme when you have a new baby. You could try to have a time management, so like for example if your husband is working, try to make sure all your chores are done when he got home so you can still have even just a little time with him. If you don;t want to leave your baby or if you are always worrying about her, try to cook and have an intimate dinner at home instead of going out so you don; need to worry a lot. you can also have a movie night at home while your baby is sleeping.

Surely your husband understands. You are not only the parent here but both of you are. I was lucky that my husband was so involve in raising our son. We took turns in waking up every night to feed our son. We bathed him together, changed his diapers together. We had our bonding moment with our son then and both us shared the burden and joys of being a parent.

Your husband can give you a hand, since he is not only husband anymore either also a father. Well now you know what it means to be a parent. If you want to be a wife as well and your husband a husband you both have to make quality time for yourself (get dressed nicely, pamper yourself) and make quality time for eachother (dating again find a baby sitter). It's the only way.

Your husband should understand, he helped make the baby he should be helping take care of her. If he isnt i would be worried and he should have known when you have a baby things change and the attention always goes to the baby.

Congrats for the newborn jureathome, I was in similar situation as you are seven months ago taking care of baby is 24/7 job so I totally understand how you feel now. It's good that you have a very kind husband who can understand you and I think communication and taking part of caring the baby will surely help you be a wife again.

Well he also has fatherly duties. It shouldn't be all on you. I have had a new baby at home as well, and at first it put a strain on our relationship, but we got through it. She is the most important thing, and we both agree on that. We both help in taking care of her.

Planning, allocation of duties, that is key.