Happiness - is it really a choice -

hi, yes,happiness is really a choice and its up to you if how will you handle your life to be happy,if you want to be happy that will be your choice,and in your situation its your choice but in every choice we made we suddenly feel sometimes the regrets in our life.

Our happiness is in our hands. No one have the ability to spoil our happiness without our permission. Happiness is really a choice, if you think you are happy, surely you will become happy at that moment. Some persons are searching for happiness, really it lies every where. We will get happiness from simple things to big things. Different kind of people is having their happiness with different things. For a little baby, mother will give more happiness than any other things. Kids always needs their mother's affection and get more satisfaction with it. For a grown up baby, toys will give a lot of happiness. In this way our happiness will be change in different stages based on our needs and necessities. Every one wish to live a happy with full of happiness, but it is impossible. Since happiness and sad events are quite common in every one's life. Both happiness and sorrow are like day and night. If we face day time surely we must face the night time. In the same way, if we are happy in our life, surely we must face some sorrows in our life even though we are not willing to face it. We must know how to deal with the sad time and convert our sorrows in to happiness with our efforts. If we deal with our problems in the correct way, and solve it with our efforts we will get more happiness after solving the problem. By this way our problems also have the ability to give happiness to us.

I don't think that we can directly choose to be happy, because there are so many things that might have an influence in that, but I do think that we can make choices which might have an effect on whether we're happy or not. For example if we choose to stay in a relationship that we know we're not happy with, this means that we won't be happy, but we could always choose to leave that relationship because it would make us feel happier with the things that we have in our lives. There is a lot of potential for us to be happy in our lives but we have to make the right choices along the way.

Are you going to allow others to define your happiness for you?? If you are in a room with everyone complaining at you, aren't they the ones who have the problem??? OK. Listen to the advice of others but walk your own path. Make your own decisions. Live your own life. God gave life to YOU for you to make your own decisions. You will learn and grow much more deciding for yourself. As for all those cranky people around you, Smile. Give them Unconditional Love and kindness. It's hard hating someone loving you. In time, they will grow accustomed to you deciding for yourself. Be Firm. You could never be happy allowing others to make your choices. So now,think wonderful thoughts, positive and happy. See the goodness in people and things around you. Yes, It's not so hard to choose Happiness when you are the one choosing. It doesn't matter what everyone does around you. It's what you do that counts!!!

In my opinion, happiness is a choice. Have you ever tried to talk to them about why they treated you that way? Being happy is a state of mind. In every condition there are always things that make us unhappy. It is our reactions of what happens surround us that make us happy or unhappy. There are always options in your life.

For me, I believe that there are short-term and long-term happiness. If you want to have a short-term happiness, you can easily get it because it will only take a little or no sacrifice at all. While if you want to have a long-term happiness, then it will take hard works and sacrifices before you achieve the happiness, but once you get it, it will give you a long life of happiness, it will be worth it. In your case, since your happiness is to be with your family, then maybe you are now walking the path of having a long-term happiness. So just continue what you're doing, and later on, they will also realize how much important you are to them, and they will eventually wanted to be with you always. Just take some sacrifices and you will surely reach your dreams. Good luck and may you really find the true happiness. God bless!

There is little choice left for anyone to be happy and cheerful all the time in one's life. Happiness is in fact relative. It is also what you make it!.

airsheila we cannot control what happends to us but we sure can control how we react to it.I a m a diabetic in a retirement center and getting stressed 'causes my blood sugar t o shoot sky high.So I choose not to be stressed at all.Let it roll off me.I can make myself be happy where I am even if I do n t particularly like this place its a roof over my head and the only home I have now. My son comes to see me often and so does my best friend. These are happy things and i am happy as I hate the alternatives.It is a choice but you have to make it nobody can make you happy it has to come from inside yourself.Don't tell me oh but I have so many troubles as I have had many too and still choose to be happy.

hello aira, Basing from what you wrote here, so your family seems happier when you are not around. Therefore, why not do the same thing. If they prefer it that way, feel the same. Be happy for them- you want their happiness right? I know it hurts you being away from them. You want them to be near you, you want to be with them -but they are not comfortable when you are around. And all your aim is to make them happy- then do not force yourself to be with them. That is a choice. Do not stress yourself for things that you know will give you worries and sadness. Focus on things that make you happy and what makes your loved ones happy. The more you are pushing yourself to be near and be with your family, the more they are not happy and also making you sad. So let go- Not everyone that you love needs you, and not everyone that you need loves you.

For me happiness is a choice, too. We are the one who is making our life complicated because we desire more and when we don't get that we often lead to frustrations. I think your happiness is not with them and you are expecting too much from them. If you don't get the happiness you want from them then let it be. If they are pushing you away, let it be. Nothing can change the fact that they are your family and for whatever will happen they will always be there. Maybe there's a reason why they are pushing you away.

Sounds like it is your families rejection which is the thing that is making you unhappy. You can not make someone love you or want you around. If I sense I am not welcome somewhere I leave, simple as that. However, this is not always the case all the time in most situations. Family and friends can be occupied with other activities or need some time alone. Then in another place and time do welcome me, so I accept that since I can be that way too. Maybe you need to find out what is going on with your family and make some kind of adjustment. Also consider having outside your family activities besides work that will make you happy. Having a hobby or a diversion of some kind is a healthy balanced way to live. If you are happy (be honest) anyone will want to be with you. Try that and see?

Creating or giving happiness to others is ones choice. A person can make others to put a smile on them if he is good at his talk. A person becomes good at talking only when he has more experiences and thoughts to share in his life. Sometimes your activities can also a reason to put a smile on others face. So talk and go through the way which suits for you and which do not hurt others. This will surely help you to create happiness.

Well,i totally agree with that "Hapiness is a choice",if we choose to be happy,we will be happy.maybe you can have a good conversation with your family members,you need to understand what the problem appear between you and them,and then to solve the problem one by one,this process also can make you happy,May you live happily together.