Bus monitor bullied
By ladygator
@ladygator (3465)
United States
June 21, 2012 8:00am CST
Posted to facebook, children were witnessed bullying a bus monitor. An ELDERLY woman at that! I learned today that she is also a widow, so she probably got the job on the bus thinking that it would help her make ends meet. This could not be more of an upsetting thing for me to hear and see today. The disrespect on so many levels. The children are middle school children so they are from 11-13ish? I am sad to that this is not a surprise to me non the less. I see how the children are and its like they have this evil in the pit of their stomachs. SO as soon as they hear of another kid dishing this out, they come out of the woodwork like a swarm of bees just out for an attack on anyone that is in front of them. So my question today is
what would you do if you were there? And what if one of those attackers where your child?
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5 responses
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
21 Jun 12
That is terrible. =( Kids are so cruel now a days. Those kids should be charged for their evil deed. That poor woman, I cannot even imagine...When I was in school things like that did not happen. Or maybe I just never saw it because I tried my best to stay away from the trouble makers. I was always the quiet and shy child.
If it was my child, I would have them put in Juvenile. Tough lesson but I bet they would learn after that to keep their damn hands to themselves. I think it starts at home though, not all parents teach their children about bullying or keeping their hands off someone else... I teach my children all the time their hands do not belong on anyone else unless their giving a hug.
That is an awful story. I feel so bad for this poor lady.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Jun 12
hi I did not see the video but am sure it would have made me ill to see it.yes putting them in juvy might just do the trick. I have seen
that cruelty is more now even in adults. I recently got a private message from a mylotter claiming mistakenly that she lost money by responding to one of my discussions,. but to begin with I had no discussions deleted. but she called me a f word old hag and told me she hated me. no matter how upset I was with a mylotter I would never use abusive terms like that. yes I am elderly but I am not an f word old hag,. I hated even reading this and she had deleted me from her friends list so I could not even respond to her private message. but now days I have had abuse thrown at me just for being
an elderly woman. a few years back most people treated me with the same respect I have always tried to treat others. but now this really shocked me.loving yes I also think it starts at home and often a bully will have a parent who mistreats him or her. girls can also be bullies too.
that cruelty is more now even in adults. I recently got a private message from a mylotter claiming mistakenly that she lost money by responding to one of my discussions,. but to begin with I had no discussions deleted. but she called me a f word old hag and told me she hated me. no matter how upset I was with a mylotter I would never use abusive terms like that. yes I am elderly but I am not an f word old hag,. I hated even reading this and she had deleted me from her friends list so I could not even respond to her private message. but now days I have had abuse thrown at me just for being
an elderly woman. a few years back most people treated me with the same respect I have always tried to treat others. but now this really shocked me.loving yes I also think it starts at home and often a bully will have a parent who mistreats him or her. girls can also be bullies too.1 person likes this
@ladygator (3465)
• United States
27 Jun 12
The lady endured a verbal attack. There wasnt any physical abuse. Neither is okay. But at least they didnt hit her
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
27 Jun 12
Oh lady I didn't realize it was a verbal attack. It is still wrong though and very disrespectful. But I am glad they did not hit her.
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@whatrow (792)
• United States
21 Jun 12
There is no excuse for bullying. The situation infuriates me. I wish I could catch my child in the act of bullying, especially if he is the ringleader. Because then I would be able to do something about it. The first step would be to humiliate him by hitting him in front of his "friends". Then I would force him to apologize, even though he doesn't mean it. Finally, since he thinks he is so "superior" to the child who is being taunted, he would have an obligation to help that child in some significant way. All of this would be followed up by a visit to the parents of the child to see how we can help.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Jun 12
whatrow hitting your child is going to teach him not to bully or
hiot other kids? no no thats what often leads to kids bullying others aS THEY WANT THAT POWER OF HITTING AND HURTING SOMEONE
you are angry and naturally you feel like hitting your bullying child but thats not whats need at all.yes this also infuriates me
too but I know that hitting is not the answer.I have never seen violence in kids stopped by hitting them , this just reinforces the idea its fine to hit someone if you do not like them or what they are doing and this is so wrong,
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@whatrow (792)
• United States
23 Jun 12
I would not hit hium to try to hurt him. I would do it to humiliate him in front of his friends. That will stop him the next time he wants to do it. Besides, how else could I get him to pay attention to me? What to do expect me to say? "I know you are a good boy, but you can't treat people like this."?
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@ladygator (3465)
• United States
27 Jun 12
I would not hit them even to humilate them. What I would do is make him apologize for sure. And then we got home take everything away for a day for each minute that he bullied her.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Jun 12
hio ladygator people and kids today have become more cruel. could it be we get inured to cruelties we see in movies and on the TV? I think its dreadful that a busful of mid teens could harrass and bully a middle aged bus driver and a woman too. thats horrible,'what are we teaching our kids that its okay to pick on people? I do not think all kids act like that but I too have seen some kids who are malicious and I wonder where this comes from,. what are we as parents doing wrong?what would I do if I were there? good question think I would start by stopping the first person to try to bully me, even if I had to paddle his or her butt. these are not ordinary kids to me. most children around here are well behaved where I live but these here in garden grove ca are Vietnamese children from little Saigon here in a 25 block area, the boat people who fled to California frin Vietnam years back. they are q uiet, well mannered people and the children are really well behaved too.
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@ladygator (3465)
• United States
27 Jun 12
I think that tv plays a huge part in how we respond to others. I think that between the shows and the video games our children have become de-sencitized. I personally am teaching my children to respect everyone no matter their age or position in life. I agree that they are not ordinary children and seem a bit more heartless. I think that parents are so busy that they value system is becoming lost
@Java09 (3075)
• United States
21 Jun 12
I've read about that this morning and find it disturbing to me. Kids are so cruel these days like they don't have feelings for other humans.It doesn't suprise me. I didn't watch the video because I can imagine how disturbing it would be to me.I can imagine what those children did to that poor elderly lady. I feel so bad for her. Children these days don't respect elders.I would be angry if one of those children were my child, they would be severely punished when I would hear about it.
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@ladygator (3465)
• United States
27 Jun 12
No the children these days dont respect their elders. This started to happen a long time ago. I am making sure that my children know how to treat their elders. I will not tolerate any of that out of them. Did you see the update on her?
The web sire raised some 560 thousand dollars for her!!
@iw1000 (13)
•
28 Jun 12
I would have been really angry and I would have raged, I don't know if I would react different if i was a eldery man, she probably didn't want to get in trouble and lost her job, the only good about it was that she got a lot of money in donations, I really hope she can take a long vacation and never have to work in some horrible work like that one.
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@ladygator (3465)
• United States
4 Jul 12
I know that I would not have been able to stay as calm as she did. But I heard her say that she thought that if she just didnt say anything that they would stop. Which they didnt. The verbal assult kept on for 20 minutes. I do think that is amazing how the people came together and raised all that money for her so that she could take a vacation. And then retire. She will now have a good life to live. Money will be no object for her any more and working wont either. I also read or hear an update on the kids, they are suspended for a year!
