A mother A wife or a helper?

that is normal for a housewife to feel sometimes, i can understand that it is really hard to do everything all by ourselves without any help..i can sometimes feel this too, like i want to give up, but i'm not really a housewife, i take care of my child..and do everything all by myself without the help of anyone, i'm like the father, mother, and like i also do the job of 2 nannies in one..24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year..without any salary to myself..it can be stressing sometimes, but i just had to be strong and positive for the sake of my daughter..

A mother is not the who needs to who do all the house hold in her house. She is the one who should take are of her family. Taking all your house hold work as a heavy load is the reason why you are feeling so. Try to find happiness in all your works. This lighter your works and you will be able to do them fast. If you are not able to do them alone get the use of your kids or husband's hand.

hello from another housewife,I don't work outside the home but do everything around the house.Once or twice a week I meet friends and do lunch or just a cuppa tea,we are all the same.Looking after the house and family is a massive task and sometimes really thankless.It is a worthwhile job looking after your family is so important and because you are getting in a state means you are doing a good job.It does get gutty sometimes but just think what would your family do without you.To answer your question yes I do feel like an unpaid slave sometimes,but I would not do anything else.You have a good shout we housewifes have to stick together.

Been there done that. Some days I feel more like the maid and less like a mother and wife. I run around all day long and no one says thank you. I remember one night I got so made at my husband that I started throwing ramen noodles at him, you know the square noodle packs. He was so mad at me and wanted to know what was wrong. I said when was the last time you asked me how my day was? He looked at me and asked what had happened and I gave him the run down for the past 4 days and he was like wow I did not know that things were that hard. He said he would try harder and he did for a few weeks and then it went back to ignoring what I was doing. Some days I just want to walk out and take a vacation and let him raise the kids for a week or two. I have just come to the realization that every so often I will have to yell at him and tell him how I feel and he gets better for a little while. As the kids get older it is getting easier, because they can help out in the house a little more. My 6 year old now asks me every day how I am doing and if there is anything she can help with. It is cute now, but in 10 years it will be, Mom I am on the phone!!! LOL you got to love family antics.

Hi shaina228, I understand how you feel, my cousin is living also in Japan and has the same problem like you. It really hard to become wife and a mother at the same time. Also household chores is a part of being a mother and a wife but you can only all of these with the help of your husband. I dont have yet a child but interms of household chores my husband always helping me and we share different works in the house to make it more faster and easy.