can't decide on my own...

I hope someone can help you. Everyone has a fear or something but you can take comfort in that. Mistakes don't have to be a bad thing. Not if you learn from them. Most people find themselves in mistakes and become better people for it. So failure is ok in the sense that you made a decision and it worked for you..or it didn't. No one can predict the future, the most important thing is doing what you want to do. Where is your heart? What do you love? The truth is, your scared to make a decision but eventually you will make a decision, even if it's to make no decision...It's nothing to be scared of. If you want help, tell us what choices you have and I promise you someone will help you because if no one does then I certainly will. I'm in a similar situation but I don't feel that way about work - in my case. So I don't know what I want to do. I know what I want. The good thing for you, is that you know the reasons why you're having a difficult time but believe me you will look back on it in years to come and realize it's ok....really. It's ok to be imperfect. It's ok to make mistakes. It's ok to make choices that may be wrong for you, but at least you'll know and you'll emotionally grow with that. But if you need help, feel free.

They say that growing old is mandatory but growing up is optional. My dear,making choices is part of growing up because you will be able to discern what is right from wrong. You will be able to deal with responsibility and learn to face consequences. And if you failed for the first time or second time or even for the hundredth time, don't worry! Failures are part of our lives. Without them, you cannot appreciate success. It's easier said than done, right? How about this, I was once like you before. I was even scared of rejection so I prefer to always stay on the safe side. But where did that get me? Nowhere. Did I gain anything? None. It's because I was limiting my chances to grow! I missed a lot of opportunities because of that fear. I was dependent by my mother's ideas and what most of my friends tell me. But the time came when I really got confused because they had different suggestions so who will I follow? Who has a better plan? Now, I sat back and thought about my life. I think I prefer to call it my life because I'm suppose to live it (not just by yourself, you need others too) and appreciate it. Yes, that's right. Start with appreciating yourself. Understand your strengths and weakness. They say that other people knows you better because they can see what you're blinded to see. I believe that's somewhat true but I believe more that WE, You and Me, knows ourselves more than others do because we are the one who feels every joy, pain, fear, and everything in this world. I don't believe that you can't decide on your own because life is actually about making choices. Even in simple things, you opt to decide. ~~

Since you are already at the legal age, I'm sure you can now decide what is right or wrong. You need to trust yourself. Self confident is very important. Don't be afraid of failure, from it you have learned.

You should be starting to engage in some organizations, clubs or groups in order for you to build you social skills and established self confidence and initiative. By doing so, you will obtain what I had mentioned and may eventually help you with the problems you had enumerated.

Hi friend, welcome to mylot. Don't think about the negatives, believe your self and continue your studies in your favorite field, always have self confidence, you can come out from the failures, down falls from your life using your will power and confidence, think in this way, surely you will face all the challenges without any fear. Be bold, don't confuse and take your correct decision. All the best

In my opinion,it is not good for all times to make a decision needs help others.If you take sugessions all time from others,it will be your habbit;and at any time of apsence of your decision makers,you might be feel difficulties.So,from today try to take some small decision only from you,and overcome the childhood habbit. I can't tell you do it all time.Some times needs help from your parents/aunts/uncle/others to make right decision.

By getting old enough to take decisions and make things practical it is for oneself to arrive at things in one's own accord. It is the sole decision of the one who bents upon sticking to a chosen path. The kith and kin come have little to exercise in the scheme of things.

Like Kenshin said, you should participate in groups and clubs. You should join the groups with the field that you are interested in. For example, you may like computer,but at the same time you like animals too, so you should join both computer and animal lover clubs. That way you get to experience both and you can be sure of what you want to persue! :) Good luck!