Are you loved by your in-laws?

@mobhomeir (7558)
Philippines
June 22, 2012 3:02am CST
I was unlucky to have a father in law that has an attitude that can't be eaten by dog.Of all my life I've never known a man like my father-in-law that has a super doper bad attitude not just to us but to all of his siblings.He's 82 years old, a retiree and staying still with my mother-in-law. They (his brother and sisters)were known of their bad attitude and character ever since. My mother-in-law is the only one that cares for us on our momentarily stay from moving out from our former place. We decided to stay at their residence because we never found any house yet for us. Here are some of his attitudes and characters that would have trigger me to fight him. @ Whenever I pass him or he sees me, he will look straight at me sharply - not once but always, whenever i favorably at his view. @ Whenever he buys foods he would keep it from us and only good for him and to my mother-in-law. He is very selfish and suspicious to us. @ One worst time he did to us that I was not able to keep cool my self was when one morning, he approach us outside the house and told us in his loud voice "when we will get our things out telling us to vacate their place"..we were so ashamed with our neighbors who heard his loud and demanding voice. I followed him inside and answered back at him angrily. I shouldn't do it but I was so irritated and being hurt of what he did to us with some other people around. Do you have a father-in-law who has this kind of attitude? How did you managed to control your temper? Can you share it? Mobhomeir here 062212 1602
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@KrauseHome (36445)
• United States
29 Jun 12
Well, a lot of this sounds like my FIL. He is very spiteful to the point many times I do not even want to ever go around him. Everything is always my fault, and to him the reason I am Diabetic is I do not want to ever take care of myself. He is also Insulin Diabetic, but believes anything under 200 is too low, and why should he take insulin? He is also in his 80s and very stubborn, and even mean to his own son, which is my husband. Personally I could never live with him, and know it would never happen. I feel for you, and I think you would be Best off trying to find somewhere else to live. It sounds like it would be the Best for your marriage, life, etc all around.
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@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
1 Jul 12
Sorry for ourselves my friend, we have same fate and one thing in common - problem with our FIL. Yes, my FIL is very hard headed and stubborn I wish I would not be like this at this age (80) or better I would already be resting in peace if I would just be a problem when my older age comes. We are still trying to look for our new home up to this moment. Huh!!! It is really hard to suit a small budget for a new house... Thanks for responding my friend.. Mobhomeir here 070112 1026hrs
• Valdosta, Georgia
27 Jun 12
Honestly, for me my mother in law is the worse one but thank goodness she lives very far away! My father in law was a great person who loved me and I loved him. However, my own father is the one I never want to live with again. He says really rude things, he would hide food from us, he was never grateful for any money we gave he always wanted more. And he wanted us out from the day we moved in. It was the worst time in my life. He made our life a living Hell. He was very hard on our children as well, he thought he was their parent instead of us! I am sorry it sounds like your going through exactly what I went through living with my father. It is never fun. I really hope things get better for you soon, I know how tough it is. =(
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@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
28 Jun 12
We have same fate my friend but the sad thing is your own father doing this rude thing to you. There's nothing I can do except to be patient enough. I would just stay away from this crocked FIL of mine... Thanks for responding my friend..and nice day ahead.. Mobhomeir here 062812 0936hrs
@GemmaR (8517)
22 Jun 12
I have been with my partner for three years, and this might sound bad, but I have not yet met his Father. I have met his Mother, and get on with him relatively well, but his Father has never bothered to come and see me. I don't live a long way away from him or anything like that, it's just that I work full time during the week and he works at the weekends so we've never been able to get our paths to cross properly. I don't know when I am going to meet him, and the longer I leave it, the harder it's getting, but I have to meet him some day as we're obviously going to be family at some point.
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@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
28 Jun 12
Yes my friend..there would soon come a time you will meet finally your FIL. Hope you can get along easily with him same as your MIL..nice day ahead... Mobhomeir here 062812 0926hrs
• United States
22 Jun 12
I am sorry that you are having trouble with your in-laws. I really did not have much time with my mother-in-law. She passed away 10 weeks before we got married. I did take care of her when she had been terminally ill I took care of her (Randy worked two jobs in so I could take care of her full-time) and we did not want to put her in a nursing home. I never got to meet my father-in-law because he passed away in 1996. I am sorry that your father-in-law does not treat you nicely. I hope you cna find a place of your own soon.
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@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
22 Jun 12
I have two father in laws. One is my husbands biological father and the other is his step dad. Both are jerks in there own ways. I think one kind of loves me because I keep mine and my husbands little family going and I don't take crape from other people really not even him. He hates having women not scared of him that will speak there mind. He is about my height so I can take him out if need to. My step father in law. I really just don't like him no body does but my mother in law. He is just as he told me a jack a$$.
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• Philippines
22 Jun 12
As I'm staying at my husband house, And his family lives there with his parents, brothers and sisters.. At first my stay at there home is okay with me I don't feel being not welcomed. Later part one of her sisters have the attitude a unique one.. she has the attitude of jealousy and doesn't want others to be prosper in life... She just want to ruin life if she saw someone is having a progressive life. She just talk unpleasant things from the one she hates to others.. And others will believe to her what she's saying.. But I remained quiet If sometimes she back stabbing me And I knew it from her other sisters.. And I'm wishing that I could stay away from there home.. Now, at present we didn't live at there home,, we moved to our new home. And I'm happy for not being there anymore... All I can say avoid them.... Just done your own thing...
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@jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
22 Jun 12
dear Martin, Sorry to hear this, I know how hard it is since you are the man of the house- like your FIL. My brother and sister in laws are very lucky with our parents especially our mom. I can say that my father has some attitudes- but not as rude like your FIL. My father also has some bad habit when he is drunk,but once he is sane- he is well behave and a picture of a good father.- lols- at least he is not cursing any of his in-laws- just some hurtful words that he cannot say when he on his sane mind. Regarding my in-laws..I have stated already on your first topic how lucky I am to have them.
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@cloud31 (5808)
22 Jun 12
Hello friend, That was tough and its really annoying.I never tried being treated that way since I don't have my in-laws yet. There's nothing I can share.I just hope you can have another place to stay where you don't have to stay with your father in law and may God give you enough courage to get through all these burdens you have now. I hope you can have enough patient to deal with your father in-law and not to loss your temper to him again.I understand how hard for you to tolerate though. Take care always!
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