house husband

Hmmm ... I am wondering what your definition of "provider" is, because it does not sound like the men are being any less as providers now than they were before. In fact, they might be doing more providing now than they have in the past. Bringing money into a household is only one way of providing for a family. Keeping up on daily chores, teaching the children, being a nurturing and involved parent are also other ways of providing for a family. If a parent is only bringing money into the household but does not do anything else in the household, then he or she is not "providing" for the household as much as a parent that is very involved with the family in many different aspects of family life, in my opinion.

My husband goes to work and I stay at home and look after the home.My husband would not have it any other way,he insists on being the breadwinner although I have worked partime if I have wanted to.He is very old fashioned and beleaves in the man being the bread winner.It is like that mostly where we live.I do realise it is different for some people ,some women earn a lot more than there husbands so it makes sense to the woman to go to work.There is no right or wrong way to do things ,you do what suits you.

I don't think most of them are house-bands by choice. Most opportunities these days goes to the women, most especially jobs that entail a lot of personal 'care'. I guess it's not their fault that their opportunity for work is getting lesser. But I still think that no matter what, the husband should not stop looking for a job. Though I am not trying to generalize, households do better when the mom is home instead of working abroad. These days, even husbands go out of the country to work together with the moms. Sadly, the family these days are left fragile because the grandparents of other relatives take care of the baby. It's just sad that way because what's the point of having a family if you're not there? It's sad but it's the reality these days. I have a lot of friends whose wives are outside the country and they're left here to take care of the kids. It's not a great sight and I don't think that they enjoy the thought too. It seems like the men are forced to be domesticated, while it's not really their nature to be so. I do hope that house-bands could share their thoughts here as well, I would like to hear their side of the story. Have a great MyLot experience ahead!

I think that things are a lot more equal between men and women than they've ever been before in the past, and as a result of this there are more men choosing to stay and look after the family at home than ever before. In my house, my Mother is the person who earns the most money, and my Father is the one who will stay at home and do the majority of the cooking. As long as the arrangement works best for your family, then you should never worry about what other people do or think, as it is none of their business.