I am not a LESBIAN!!!

Even if you were a lesbian what difference would it make,you are who confused at the moment lots of young people go through this.You will sort yourself out and what ever you decide the people around you that matter will still love you.seems you listen to others to much.Not everyone wears high fashion or does girly things or fancies boys straight away.Relax and enjoy life .Remember you are the important one and listen to yourself and stay true to yourself.It might be an idea to find some new friends.Take carexx

"My friends and classmates thinks that I am lesbian since I am not fashionable and doesn't do stuff like what girls often do" Sister, don't let those comments bring you down. They're just judging you by your image, but they don't really know what your heart is. Believe in yourself, okay? Don't get discouraged by such comments. I've been there, but I didn't let it bring me down so you shouldn't too. Okay? Cheers!

Maybe you should try to put some make up on or a lipstick to look more girlish or at least do away with the more jeans and shirt and wear dresses more often. Maybe you'd be uncomfortable at first if you're not used to it but eventually you'll be able to adjust. You could claim that you're not what they think you are but you can't blame people for coming up with that idea because they are just basing that with your looks.

Don't listen what people says. You know what you are and the World is full of people that appreciate you for what you are. I think it's a value if you demonstrate your femininity in a different way from the other girls: it demostrates you have a personality and you are unique. I suggest you to keep yourself like this, don't change. If you demonstrate your being female and your preference in men little by little all the people will understand how you are.

I'm a rather simple girl myself, so I understand that part of your situation. I'm the girl who enjoys playing videogames rather than shopping, and although I hang out with my best friend I've also been seen as a lesbian. I'm also not into the latest fashion trends, I tend to stick with hoodies and sorts depending on the weather... As for advice,have you tried asking if they really think that about you?

i have experienced this for a million of times in my life. i hate to be fashionable. i don't do such stuffs like what girls often do but then everything has change when this guy came and i myself want to change. i experienced such kiligs or screaming out loud whenever this guy do something for me or what and then one day i just realized it's not me anymore. i'm not that lesbian type of girl i used to and then i changed and i love it. yeah/ haha

As a former tom boy, I know that it is hard to dress feminine and also feel guilty because you love action adventure movies. You do not have to dress fancy to make people think you are not a lesbian. Just change the way you look slowly. Stop wearing man jeans, but girl jeans instead. I do not know how you dress or what you like so cannot give more advise then that.

Well, you don't need to be fashionable to be considered a girl. Perhaps there's something about the manner of speaking or doing things that makes them think otherwise. You don't really need to do something drastic. Simple changes like preferring things that are more 'girly' or owning little stuffs like pens or notebooks with more 'feminine' styles could be an indicator. But seriously, I don't think you should change everything about you. Just keep calm and just do your things the way that you like to. Stop convincing them, they'll see sooner or later. I wasn't considered feminine too when I was still in school. But I have proven soon that I indeed am one. Have a great MyLot experience ahead!

Don't let others opinion affects you. You your self know much about the truth. No need to change the way you look because they said so. Being simple is not a reason being accused as lesbian. In reality there are fashionable girls who are lesbian, act as normal girls but deep inside they are flirting with girls too, they call it "lipstick" and they might be one of them that's why they teasing you. Just ignore them, aight?

good day juhrina029, honestly speaking, being fashionable is not a basis of ones gender. that you need not to be fashionable to prove that you are a certified lady. there are times, it is really the influence of the environment why such a behavior is occurring. thus being boyish in various ways and gestures but this does not mean that you are a lesbian. with regard to your issue, better not to mind them, just do whatever you think is right and proper. after all, you know yourself better than them. that deep in your heart, you know that you are a true lady.

People are so narrow-minded and so judgmental they should go to hell.

fine then have the crash as soon as possible.

My friends also thought I am a lesbian just because I have really low voice and I did not have as much boyfriend as they had. I know that I am not so I just laughed at them. You don't have to care what they say, just be real to yourself. Anyway you are not born to please them.

Even though people say not to care what others think, you have to. I am not saying its right, but it is programmed in the human brain to care about what other people think, unless you understand that person?s humor. How to stop it? I am not trying to convince you to go down the aggressive path, but have you tried insulting them? Proving that you have some dominance usually makes them go onto the defensive. It probably won't stop the rumors, but it will stop people from saying things to your face. I have had a problem with teasing, and I figured out that having rumors is way better than being insulted. If you have grown up in an environment that makes you someone that other people classifies as "lesbian" you can try to change out of it, but it will be very hard. I am not an expert on teenage behavior, but I have had my share of middle and high school, which has taught me these things. Note that personalities, and the way people react vary from place to place. Good Luck!

Well they sound like great friends, theres many different types of people in this world, if there was omly one type of person then there would only have to be one tv channel and one set of clothing. You cant choose what to like and what not to like, so just do what you enjoy. If they want to do what everyone else does then their boring, whats the point in copying when youve got your own mind to decide what you want from life.

Let them think what they wish, but you know yourself better than anyone else. You don't need to prove what you are, it is the psychology of your friends group, they will understand when the time will come.

Hey Juhrina, Dont stress on what others think, I too always was a tomboy. I didnt dress pretty or do my hair, or wear makeup. just a tshirt and jeans and boots. I hated anything pink and frilly. I usually got clothes from boys section, because the girls stuff was to girly. I always got along with the boys better than the girls, I hung out with boys as friends and we had a blast. but they usualy just saw me as one of the guys. I never really had any close girl friends. We just didnt have that much in common. But I am 38 now and have been married twice and had 4 kids. So just because we dont act like a girl doesnt mean that we are lesbian in any way. Dont worry about what anyone else says. Keep your chin up high and just be yourself. :)

I agree with other peoples.you are no need to do anything or change yourself for others. Just because you are not interested in fashion it does'nt mean you become a lesbian. you might be interested in other activities instead of deciding what to wear on friday night or just to attract guys.there may be a good possibility that you have high IQ level and you are always involved in doing the things you love and does'nt care about overall looks. my advice to you is just go easy on yourself and one day some guy will definitely fall for you just because of your simpleness so be happy and cheers. Thank you,