I just want to be happy and contented to my career and life.

Parents are there to guide as along the way to success. But they should not tell us what to do and what should we do. You will never be successful if you do not want what you are doing. True success is about gaining in your field of career. Disobeying our parents from what they want us to do is not a big crime. As a parent, they should know also their responsibilities towards us -- the dos and the donts. Try to explain to them what you want and what if you will do what they say. Perhaps a good communication with your parents is the best thing to do first.

hello aira, Another saying goes "the greatest frustration is when we quit before starting" It doesn't matter if you fail following what you want, than regretting your whole life for not trying to do what you want. Maybe your family may get hurt for disobeying and not listening to them- but, not all advice from elders is good for us. It doesn't mean that they are older and they are always right. Yes, they are your parents- but disobeying them doesn't always means being disobedient and a bad child. We can always voice out our opinion in a good manner, and hurting them is a part of it.

I don't think that there is anything wrong with obeying your parents if they're giving you good advice, however one of the things that you have to remember is that parents don't always know best, so if you really think that the thing you're choosing to do would be in your own best interests then you should just go ahead and do it. You don't have to obey their every rule for you to be a good daughter, and I am sure that they know that you have your reasons for having to make your own decisions, and they will always be there for you if you ever happen to make the wrong choice.

As for me, it is good to obey your parents there is nothing wrong about it, but making your parents decide of what you wanted is a different story. You are making your own life, living your own dreams and decisions to risk. Parents do listen and support in a way they are looking up for there family members own good. I cannot tell whether you are mature enough in making your wise and good decisions, but i rather tell you to stand for what you truly love and willing to give in for yourself. I don't want you to rebel, but keep on sharing you dreams or plans for yourself, soon they will able to listen for what you wanted to do. Just be patient and kind in doing it. And always remember whatever you decide and plan pray and abide in GOD.

Own life own decisions,I think if you like you can do the best,as long as you continue to hold.your parents will understang you,support you! come on!

There comes a point when you have to realize that you are an adult and have to make your own decisions. It doesn't make you a bad daughter to not always do what your parents say. It just means you have a mind or your own. I completely understand not wanting to disobey/disappoint your parents. I am 27 years old married and have a child of my own and still seek the approval of my mom and dad sometimes :)

You have to do what makes you happy and follow YOUR dreams not anyone else's. If you are doing something you don't want to be doing for the sake of your parents, you won't be happy. I'm lucky to be in position where my parents do not try to live vicariously through me... Or set any big goals for me. Sometimes being in that situation stinks, too, though, because I wish my parents did have high expectations for me. But whatever. Do what makes you happy!

As a daughter who has always done the opposite of what her parents tell her, sometimes it works out and sometimes it does not. I was told not to marry my first husband, I did and had a wonderful son, but soon found out that the hubby was a controlling 'insert bad word'. I was told to divorce him and look for true love, did so and found my wonderful second husband and he gave me a very sweet little girl. They have told me not to do a lot of things and for the most part they were only half right. Yeah sometimes what they said would happen, but I also had very good things happen due to my choices. As long as you can still look yourself in the mirror at the end of the day after making your choices, then who is to say you made the wrong one. As a parent to two wonderful children I can see how I want their lives to go, but in the end they have to make their own choices and live with them, because some day I will not be around to tell them that I think they are wrong. You could always do what I do, thank them for their opinion and tell them that you will weigh what they think with how you think and feel, because in the end it is your life and only you can lead it.