Life within a relationship? What does that look like?

You actually have a really good point. Most relationships do have the relationship itself as well as friends or even friends that are couples that you and your partner hang out with. I do have a few friends outside my relationship. But the weird thing is, I almost always would rather hang out with my boyfriend than a friend. I'm not sure if it's like that for everyone but that's how I feel. I love my friends don't get me wrong, but somehow I always think about my boyfriend even if I'm with my friends. He's my best friend and we can be relaxed and comfortable doing absolutely nothing. It's nice to have some time apart but I really do enjoy being around him all the time and there really isn't any other person I'd rather be with than him.

Same question also bothers me few years back when a friend of mine, my best buddy, my roommate, my classmate, my workmate get into relationship for the very first time. It hurts me much during that time because there comes a time that as if I do not exist, that the usual things we use to do together, such as going to mass, watch a movie, dine-out and also read pocket books and a lot more, has changed, It is already the two of them who did those stuff. That there was even a time that I felt jealous and cried out loud, though I fully understand her but I could not stop myself asking when will be the time that we could be together. Those were the days, both of us are married now and in separate ways but we still remain friends. Things like that really happens, especially so that the relationships already became there life. Though it is not wrong but I still believe It is only a matter of choice and time management. If she/he chooses to be with her man, well, it is her right but he/she should manage her time in a manner that she could not neglect to find time to be with her/his friends once in while.

Well Isha242,It really depends on you and your partner how you handle your relationship, for me I'm free to get out and hang around with my friends with out my partner and vice versa. we are allowing each other to grow as an individual, and a partner, It's just how you compromise.

hi isha242, this is an important and philosophical question....i have been in a horrible very very bad marriage to an evil sociopath and i did not want to spend any time with him at all or even to admit to people that i was married, then a miracle happened and now i am married to my best friend and soul mate and i want to spend all my time with him and hate being away from him and our sweet dog the princess...i am sublimely happy and content...so i think it depends on the relationship...we still have our friends and family, but our relationship is the most important one and we choose to be together, not forced to be together...in my other marriage i spent most of my time away from the home, in work, in university, with other friends, with my parents, even hours in libraries and bookstores, but i was always lonely and alone...now i am finally at home and feel rested and happy...

I still have my girlfriends outside of our marriage which I will see during the day for lunch or for a bit of shopping while my husband is at work. I don't like going out in the evening without him though. The rare occasions where I have gone to supper with my friends, even though I enjoyed it, I really missed him. On Friday evenings after work he will join his friends for a drink at a bar but he is always normally home at 7PM. We allow each other the freedom to go out separately but we hardly ever make use of the opportunity. I suppose we just want to be with each other and share things together. I definitely think it depends on what type of relationship you have with your partner.