Living together before marriage.

Well I think it's depend on the situation, relationship wont last forever if couple didn't exert effort on something that they find it out hard to deal/handle. Also maybe those couple are not really meant to each other that's why they got divorced. It's also the matter of partnership, trust, honesty, and feelings.

I don't believe in studies, at least not ones like this as they only gather info on a certain number of couples and base their studies on it. I've known couples whose marriage ended in divorce without living together first, as well as couples whose marriage has stood the test of time after living together first. When it comes down to it, it really just depends on the couple and their love and devotion for one another. Happy mylotting!

I think that there is less respect and more taking the other person for granted if you live with them before marriage. If you already have the eggs why by the hen? In the early days before the end of the first world war I think people had more respect for eachother. And they were interested in virtue and character. Now days that isn't the case. Virgins are laughed at now days where it used to be important to have morals. More STD's because of it. People just don't care anymore.

I think it all depends on the relationship. I've heard that those who lived together and then got married did have higher divorce rates because they placed less of a value on marriage. Whereas more "traditional, by the book" couples who got married and then lived together viewed marriage as something not to be broken. I do believe that to be true to some extent but I also think you can live with someone and then have a lasting marriage. It all just depends on the relationship.

Hi Lore, I personally don't have a boyfriend or fiance right now, but if I were to have one, I would actually like to live together before marriage. You don't really know a person until you live with them. I want to take my time with marriage while really getting to know my significant other in the meantime. I think it will be a good way to see how we get along in a place of our own.

yes,cos i feel that it's very important to ensure that both can accept each other's annoying habits before they finally settle down together.it's really different when 2 people are dating compared to when they settle down or even cohabit.. no,cos if pregnancies result then the situation may get complicated if the lady wants to leave the guy but sticks to him eventually just to ensure her child will have a father..then this would b marriage without love right?well at least not in the sense of love between a couple.. hmm,actually those who did not cohabit before jumping right in may not last till the end..:) i used to b one of those who objected strongly to living together before marriage.but now im all for it (despite the negative effects that may result..)it may seem harsh to end a relationship if things do not work out after living together..but at least it's better than realizing both of u r not right for each other after marriage right?u know what they say, "short term pain is much better than long term pain"..and i agree with it fully..well at least eventually,the good part is both parties get to pursue their own happiness w a better knowledge of what they need in future partners,no?

Each couple is different. Some prefer living together first, while others prefer to get married first. My husband and I lived together before we got married. I think that it was beneficial for us. I do think that it's a good idea to do so, but I do understand that it's not necessarily for everyone.

This choice is definitely a controversial one. On one hand you have the modern day trends of people doing this more and more to test the water so to speak. Then on the other hand, you have tradition and certain belief systems. I think that people should do whatever it is that makes them comfortable and happy. I have seen a lot of marriages go down the drain because of a rush in to them.

I do believe in love at first site. But for the majority I believe that they should live together before marriage. And these days I believe that they should not get married. Living together is the same exact thing. Once that marriage license comes into play, things seem to change. And you're locked in to it and it causes more problems then anything. I should know.

I think its a good idea, I dont think you really know anyone properly until you live with them on a permanent basis. Yes it may mean testing a relationship but if it is strong it should survive through all the arguments and struggles.

Not just one study. Every study I have ever seen on the subject and there have been many over the years show that couples who live together before marriage have a higher rate of divorce. If studies consistently show this to be the case why do people still believe that they should live together first to test to see if they're right for each other? Obviously living together before marriage is not the way to figure that out. If you're not sure before you live together you'll never be sure.

My husband and I lived together for a few years before we get married because when we met each other were both student and decided to save first for our wedding. I think we both agreed before that we lived together not to test the strength of our relationship but we live together to know each other better and to help each other to reached our dreams. Now our relationship more stronger than before.

Well im not sure what works..I married the first time. Then we lived together. That didnt work. The next time, I tried living together first. That didnt work. I tried long distance, that didnt work. So I dont know what works. But I guess it just means two things..Im supposed to be single and lonely for the rest of my life, or that I should wait on God and quit trying to do this on my own! Either way, if you dont really agree with a persons living conditions..its rarely a good idea.

Living together before marriage is a good idea. People who have multiple cohabiting relationships before marriage are more likely to experience more negative communication in marriage, lower levels of marital satisfaction, lower levels o male commitment to spouse,greater likelihood of divorce than people who do not cohabit before marriage. So, the best advise is to wait to get married after you finish college.

I lived with Randy before we got married, but that was because his mom had been terminally ill and I wanted to take care of her full-time instead of putting her in a nursing home (the one that was close by was horrible and treated their patients badly). If his mom had not been sick I would have waited until we got married before moving in together. The great thing about me living with randy and his mom was that it gave me and his mom a chance to bond and to share stories with each other. His mom and I were not only mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but she was also a dear friend to me who meant the world to me.

Hi Lore Many things work great under testing phases - same with this "Living Together" thing. The people know there are no responsibilities whatsoever and they can move away as easily as they can - so there is less of difference. But when you enter marriage, you find yourself more responsible and the circumstances are more demanding and challenging. Now because you have been accustomed to an easy way of living - when you lived together, you are definitely going to find this "responsible" thing uncomfortable. Those who really are in love, go on well and many others who are for other reasons opt for a breakup and find it uncomfortable.

I think it should always be better to get married first but of course you should be well prepared for that. I don't believe about testing the relationship before getting married becaus eif you are sure of loving each other and you are prepared emotionally, physically, mentally and financially to get married then you will likely to succeed in marriage. But I am not saying this for all but my own belief alone. You don't except to have an easy and always smooth sailing marriage because all the storms will pass through your home and how you get through after depends on you. There's no pattern about successful marriage but it is possible.

Religiously, it against the law of God.. But with others belief, it can still be applied for the reason of finding-out if a couple really meant for each other or not. Because nowadays, most people are assuring their future in order to know if they have found the right partner. But there must be limitations that a couple shouldnt do with what a married partners did, because testing of living together is different from the reality of marriage which has a big responsibility.. or simply just like a Filipino sayings "Marrying is not like swallowing food that when you get burned, you'll just simply spit it out"..

Based in my own experienced I go for yes! I believe that a couples should live together first before get into marriage. especially here in Philippines, divorce is not allow here, so once you get into it there's no way out of this.. i believe that you will only know one person if both of you live together in the same roof. it was happened to me and I'm so much thankful that at least I've never been married to the man who cannot love faithfully, at least I didn't suffer much burden..

couples often slide into living together without really thinking about it and then slide into marriage when the relationship gets into difficulties. They think that by formalising it, they can rescue the situation.