Career vs Children

That is down to a family choice if a woman wants to stay at home and give her children a good home life and education they should be praised not looked down upon.

Now a days lot of women's are going to their job after marriage. There is nothing wrong in this thing. But after giving birth to the kid, they must stay with their new born and take a lot of care about it. Surely a women is blessed to give birth to her own child. Not every women's are blessed to have their kid, some women's are struggling a lot to give birth to their kids. If you have a kid, really you are lucky to be a mum. It is your duty to take care of your own kid. Most of the office going mum's don't have time to take care of their kids and appoint some other person to care about their kid. There is no substitute for real mother and her affection. This kind of baby sitters don't have the ability to give the real love and affection to the baby like the real mother. A child surely needs full care of its mother in the childhood days. Surely all the mother's must give up their job for a certain period of time to grow up their kid in a good manner. A working couples is living in One of my neighborhood place, recently they give birth to their kid. The mother take maternity leave from her office, after giving birth to her baby, she stayed with it for 3 months. After that she appointed a lady to take care of the kid and go for her job. The baby really longed a lot for its mother. It is suffered with fever frequently, they take the baby to various places for treatment. Finally the doctors find that missing the mother is the reason for the sickness and it will be solved if the mother stay near to the baby for a long. After doctor's advice she give up the job. Now the baby is living healthy. She planned to go to her job again after admitting the kid in to the school. It is the correct decision for a mother. As we know mother is important for every babies, so mother must take a lot of care about the newbies and grow it up around 3 to4 years with her full care. A mother can continue her job after sending the baby to the play school.

Its quite obvious that when a mother is confined to her home looking after her children and family, the maximum appreciation that she will be getting could be from her family itself, but if a woman is getting out of her home working and all, then she will get respect of others. About which is the important role, as a mother her priority will be children, but as an individual, she can prioritize making money because in our society its not love that feeds the stomach, its money :-)

hi jsae29! this has been a controversial topic here in america for my entire adult life...i hear that both working mothers and homebound mothers state they feel like people are critical of them and their situation...sometimes in this country you hear people encourage all mothers to just be understanding of and supportive of each other in whatever they are doing...i have been both kind of mother...i was very happy and privileged to spend my son's first year at home with him and i have always been thankful for that...it is one of the happiest times of my life and i think we are very close because of that...but then afterward i had to work to take care of my son and the family and did not really have a choice..my son is grown and in university now and i am regretful of how fast the years have gone by and wish i had been home with him more during his growing up times...i was very blessed to have my parents to help me care for my son when i was not there and that is good because they have a really close bond now and are very attached to each other...i know it is frustrating when you are a mother if you feel that people do not appreciate you or respect who you are...but the most important person to you is your child and and the most important thing is how well you love your child...

Well... Some mother thinks tht it is more important to raise their kids at home rather than going to work all that because no matter what, kids will always be more important to them. They think if they decided to be a mother in the first place, they should be a mother all the way! However, some mother thinks in order to raise a child and give them the best, they need to give them all the luxuries in the world and that requires money. So every mother thinks differently and all methods have their own benefits and disadvantages.

Children of course! They are more important! working mothers have no connection with their children, everything has a price, if you work hard you earn more money, but you do not know what is favorite food your children and what his dreams. I care for my child, but when hi started two years will work becouse we need more money, but will look for job with good hours, so I can spend time and my son! So, mothers, raising your childrens!!!

How about I respect more the woman who can do both things at once. The mother who has the ability to make money without having to leave her child to strangers...I am sure there are women out there who seems like they're not making money at all and is just staying at home and being looked down by others yet they maintained their humility and grace...

Well I do both. I do freelance jobs when I can and help people with what I am currently going to school for while taking care of my home and children. Is this really hard to do? Yes and I get a lot of crap for it. My mother in law who didn't get a job until her youngest was at least 10 years old thinks I am not a decent mother because I am going to school for my bachelor's degree, doing freelance work, taking care of my children, and I have a schedule with my husband in which I can do work and/or school work during the day since he works night shifts. My own mother isn't much better. I am a working, stay at home mom and college student. I do in fact do freelance as a way to get practice in my chosen college profession and I did wait until both my 4 and 5 year olds were in school as well. They will be in preschool and kindergarten respectively in the fall and I go to school all year round. I think both are equally important and I don't think that stay at home moms should be looked down upon. It isn't easy spending your entire day taking care of a child or children. People think it is easy because you don't have to go out and work, but there is more than enough work at home unless you are one of those parents who keeps their kids in a room or doesn't let them eat anything that might be considered "messy food". There are a lot of stay at home moms who are entirely responsible for making sure the bills are paid, there is food in the house, cleaning products and more. Not to mention when potty training starts there are messes and so much more you have to do. Then school time with homework, needing to take the children to extra-curriculars that look good on their college apps and so much more. People look down on it because the job doesn't make money but the fact of the matter is that being a stay at home mom is sometimes harder than having a job that you go sit in an office for or have a working vacation. Most stay at home moms don't even get a break that other people would be upset or complain about at their jobs.

Hi jsae29, I am married for almost 7 years and yet still don't have a child maybe because I am very busy with my work. At first I dont want to have child because I am afraid that I might cant do my role as a mother and cant work anymore because I will be able to take care of my child. But now I realized I am willing to give up my choosen career when I get pregnant and wanted to become a full time mother as much as possible. Sometimes living in a luxurious home and having a nice car is not enough when you dont see your child growing and when your not able to guide them just because of your choosen career. I think those full time mother who stayed at home are still well praised and respected because being a mother was the best role and very hard career in this world.