Being mother and father at the same time.....

First, congratulation for the hard work that you are doing for your kids. I always believe it is much better to be alone than having a man who disrespect and mistreat you. Furthermore, you do not want to raise your kids in such an violent environment. You made the right decision and you should not regret about it. Just keep on working hard and God will bless you.

yes, you did the right decision. He is not worth it, and you should have left him right away.

amazing, personally I'm proud of you and appreciate your effort to be independent. you're really strong woman and great mother for your two kids. I agree that it's not easy, but I know you have extra spirit, courage and motivation to keep on this right track. keeps going, mizzy, you have doing right!

I've been a single mom since the eighties and love it. My children are grown now and one lives with me in his own place and the other lives in America. I am astounded that your husband would slap you and you staying on. If you have left him you have done the right thing. Your children's survival will give you strength and it will also be better for them not to be in the middle of strife. You have absolutely done the right thing to leave. If you feel you need support, go online and read stories of other women to make yourself feel good.

You definitely made the right choice! You are putting your children and yourself first. Granted being a single parent isn't going to be easy, but neither had the life you had been living. Really, all your children want is to be loved and the money situation will fall into place that you can provide for them. I was a single parent for 14 years. I had 3 boys and thought since I was the female raising them they would end up "wussies", but they definitely did not! Best of wishes to you!

Yes you've made the right decision. Though it was very hard to make a decision that will not only change your life but the lives of your two young beautiful angels but it will be worth it in the long run. Maybe it took you 7 long years before you decided to end and wake up in a bad dream but things will change in the future. It may be hard at first to secure your children's future but try to do it in a manner that you are doing everything you can for the sake of unconditional love. It is really an obligation not only to your kids but also from God to protect, support, love and guide your kids to grow as a deserving human being that fits the society and hopefully may contribute to the world in the future. Kudos for you as well since you did not allow your kids to grow witnessing their parents fight right in front of their eyes. Believe me they may not tell you a story about what they've seen or heard, but it will have a long term effect to them psychologically. These physical fights and arguments may cause psychological damage to young ones even more if no one is there to explain why is it happening and why is it necessary to happen. Kids now a days are very smart. They are too advance for their age to conclude about the issues in their environment. It will be a big responsibility for you to guide them all throughout their journey until them become fit and mature for the issues surrounding them. I'm sure you have relatives and friends who can be your support system. Being a parent (regardless if you are a single parent or with partner) is a lifetime job. It is a job that never gives you monetary salary but a reward that unmatched any amount. Thanks for sharing your story.

Yes! Definitely made the right decision. God bless you for being strong and being both the mother and father of your kids. I hope they would be proud of you and would grow up as adults with your qualities. There are things we do that make us regret, but those regrets would be eliminated only by doing good. You are doing good trying hard to support those kids financially as well as emotionally. Good luck and God Bless mommy! Have a great MyLot experience ahead!

Yes, ou did make the right decision. Many females today have to be mom and dad. I did myself too. I raised a son and a daughter. I know how hard it is. I respect so much single parents. I especially respect single fathers who raise their kids alone.

Getting rid of a man who was abusive, unfaithful and did not provide for his children is the best thing you could have done for yourself and your children. He was setting a bad example for your children. If you continued to put up with that kind of behavior, your children would grow up thinking that was acceptable behavior. Is there a man in your life that could be a father figure for your children - your father, brother or an uncle, maybe?

Congratulations for standing up for yourself and your kids. It is best that they not grow up in the environment where you are being disrespected and harmed. It is hard being a single parent. I raised my oldest three boys by myself. My ex-husband forgot he had a family. Continue to make your way and raise your children well.

You did a right decision...and i believe that you will do well because that guy is bad.. I wish you and your kids all the best!!!

Congratulations! of course you did the right decision , the father didnt help at all in the raising of the kids , instead , he could ruin the personality of the kids. I know it must be so hard to deal with the kids and have to work and do all by yourself, but, you and your kids will be proud of you when they grow up , just dont spoil them too much so , they can be good adults and can help you . Good luck and keep going .

You certainly made the right choice to leave w ur kids. I'm living in thy same hell right now n tryn to save enough money to get out. I've made it hard bc I am a sahm. We agreed in the beginning. Now however I feel trapped. But not about me .... I am very glad u left n in my humble opinion u did the right thing for u n ur family. Good job!

Yes, you made the right decision. If their father is having such behavior, the kids will suffer. You could live a harmonious life without the father. But if you still live together, the father might wont change and it could affect your children.

You are a woman, and a great mother. I am very impressed with you. you are really very great. Could become father, and mother to your child. Hopefully, you will always given easy.

Yes that is the right thing you do leaving your husband behind. It is better to be a single parent if your partner being irresponsible. Just pray and im sure a lot of friends out there pray for you too. It's not easy being a single mom and i know the feeling coz i am one too. Just make your children your insperation in all you do im sure you will be guided by our Lord to the right thing. take care and God Bless!

I always admired those women who fight for their right and safety for the sake of their children. I admired you for being brave and taking good care of your kids.You made the right decision by leaving your husband because you gone through too much pain physically and emotionally. Your children was very lucky to have a very good mother like you because you work hard to support their needs.