What do you think about friends who make you wait for them?

Honestly i don't want to go late for meeting but i am not good in calculating time for going and i drive a motorbike slowly...the result is i am always late...However my friends understand it..since they know i drive a bike very slow in here...streets are very crowd anytime in a day, i am afraid anytime i go out now..

I also hate to wait for friends and others as well. people do not value their and others time. there can be many reason of being late like traffic jam as you said, other work, new and urgent work, forgetting other things like ironing, forgetting the meeting.. etc

yes, I agree and I am sure you do not want to go late in meetings and hangouts and make your friends wait. I also cannot do calculations and I get late sometimes that is why I call my friends, whenever I would be completely ready and all other works are done. riding bike slowly is nice habit and I think you should try to get ready before time and do not ride bike fast.

yes, we get crazy when we need to wait and specially when meeting was fixed and we still need to wait for those people who knew the time and location. it would be very hard to wait for long time to meet our girl friend or boy friend because we miss them and when time come we need to wait more than we think and worse thing is that we need to calm and tell them calmly it is ok and try to come early in a polite way but because we love them. you said He in first experience and then about your girlfriend, is that a mistake, or you had BF and GF as well. lucky, you had both.

yes, we get crazy when we need to wait and specially when meeting was fixed and we still need to wait for those people who knew the time and location. it would be very hard to wait for long time to meet our girl friend or boy friend because we miss them and when time come we need to wait more than we think and worse thing is that we need to calm and tell them calmly it is ok and try to come early in a polite way but because we love them. you said He in first experience and then about your girlfriend, is that a mistake, or you had BF and GF as well. lucky, you had both.

Yes, my BFF is my girlfriend. Best Friend Forever. My ex is my ex husband.

not only our friends and other people make us waiting but we also make others wait and I think that is no fair and we should expect their time as we respect others and we should tell them exact time which we would require and we how much time we are going to take to come or get to occasion. we cannot leave people or friends because they come late we need to understand weather have any genuine reason to come late and make them understand these things do not matter because of professionalism.

I agree that we have to be forgiving to other people's mistakes. You are right. We are only humans. We make mistakes. I would forgive someone if he/she has apologized. But some people wouldn't even apologize and keep on doing it. It just shows how unimportant the meeting is to them.

we can wait for minutes and 1/2 an hour but more than 1/2 an hour no one likes to wait and cannot tolerate it and they get irritated while waiting. yes, we can feel that they are wasting our time because they do not value it and take us lightly that is why we should tell them and make them understand importance of time and time saving. if we are doing things which are good an have benefits then we cannot consider it as waste. we thanks for sharing your experience. we should apologize whenever someone waits for us and if we say sorry they would feel good and we should tell them why we were late and what was the reason. in your example or experience that girl should be in hurry and apologize you for being late. we need to forget and tolerate people behavior because we are human being and we are social animal and that is why we cannot live without people. we should respect others time and apologize for being late.

yes, if they always do it then we would feel bad and frustrated and it i natural because we can spend that time somewhere else where we can enjoy and do not feel bore. waiting on boring and crowded place make us really irritating because everything would be boring and we need to wait for our friends and people give weird glances. everyone has a limit where he or she cannot tolerate and I think you would not tolerate your late comers friends.

@mecringles I need to wait because I do not like to be rude with others and we decide work and further things to do after meeting when we have free time and that is why I cannot tell them "I have work that is why I cannot wait". my friends say I am on my way, I will be there with 15 minutes and when I call them after 15 minutes (which I usually do not do because I know they liar) they say I will be there in 5 minutes. I do not feel bad when I have free time but if I have any work and they are wasting my time and I will face its circumstances then it irritates me. I should try your 30 minutes race, I hope that make them realize that I am not going to wait for them further. @lefredricktaylor my friends are also same and I always need to wait for them, I think we should also try 30 minutes ultimatum to our friends, hope that will make them come on time and do not waste other time. we are human being that is why mistakes happen and we do not do it deliberately but if someone do same thing again and again it is not mistake it would consider his or her habit or disability. going late is not good for them as well, because in some cases like interview and job they need to be on time and they should be punctual and as friend it is our duty to tell them or make them realize time is important.

I am with you on this one. I have friends that totally take time for granted. I am not the most prompt person in the world myself but I will call and let you know if I am late. I have friends that will say they are on the way and never show up. But i had to put a stop to that because it really aint the right thing to do, and alot of time, i inconvience myself waiting around for those who I know for a fact will be late. So you have pick your battles..some people it aint even worth saying anything too.

I think everyone has at least a friend who make us wait for them. I call my friends when I get ready and when I depart from the home and tell them I will be there in xyz minutes but I think my friends do not do that they just call me and tell me I am coming and after that they prepare to come then do other things then they depart to come on the location I think that is wrong thing because it will make them late and we need to suffer because of it. they should be ready to come or depart whenever both of us are ready and tell each other you should leave because I am also coming.

everyone hate it but if our friends are making us wait then we need to wait because they are our friends and we need to accept them as they are and no one is perfect in this world and if we cannot forget and forgive other and their mistakes then we will be alone in this world and we cannot live alone.

yes, it is disrespectful because everyone has right to spend his or her time the way they want and if they are sharing their precious time with us then we should respect it and go on time and if we go late tell sorry to them as respect. no one likes to wait, except for opportunities?

everyone hates it, i do not think there would be anyone who loves to wait for others. thanks for sharing your experience, but I think you should forgive him and you did not ask him for clarification and took your own decision that is wrong and you should gave him chance to clarify the reasons. is that was first time he came late or he was habitual to it and you had have waited for him before?

coming or going before time is a good habit, I appreciate that you are one of those people who comes and goes before time. yes, some friends take us seriously and some do not but we should not leave them because they just come late we try to make them understand the importance of time and if they come late one or twice that does not mean they always come late. we are human being that is why mistakes happen and we should try to minimize our mistakes. sometime we anything like any urgent work, public transport etc that is why we get late.

I guess no one likes to get late or makes others late but unfortunately we get late and make others wait for us as well but most of the people do not take casuals and hangouts seriously and that is why this things happen. telling them false time and calling them before our time is good idea and my friends and I have also tried it and yes, it works and we can use it rarely because they would come to know trick and which will make situation more worse.

yes, it is not a big deal because we are habitual of being late and wait for people but 5 to 15 minutes are ok and we can understand anyone can be late because of any reason but more than 15 minutes is not good because we should respect and value others and their time.

my friends and I also meet in mall to hangout because we like to spend time there and we can have food and buy things over there but most of the time we just have a food and do not bu anything just roam there and i enjoy the ambiance and happenings. we sometime meet in mall directly, usually we meet first then we decide where should we go and most of the time decision would be mall because we do not need to spend money just because it is not very far and we can have good time over there and there are lot of things to pass our time without spending money. my friends make me wait and i hate it because it is very irritating and I do not like it and as I am quiet punctual I always try to get on time or before the time.

you are accepting your mistake is good for you because if you know then you can avoid it in future. you should try to manage thing and try to be ready as soon as possible because if you make your self ready in last minutes then it is not good. organize and make a time table which can make you realize that you need to finish this work by this time and you will not rush to get on time, i know things do not go the way we want but we should try. if your friend and boss are good that does not mean they feel nothing when you come late but may not be telling you but you should respect their politeness and time. tell them sorry whenever you make mistake and try to get on time.

me too, I have been suffering because I get on the time and people (friends) do not come on time and that is why I waste my time and it really irritates us. asking them to come on destination is good idea but I think my friends would make me wait there as well. whenever I call them they say I am coming in 2 minutes and they come in 1/2 an hour, in that 1/2 an hour I do not understand what to do and when people look at you suspiciously that movement we feel embarrassing.

yes, time is everything in life and we should make out of it whatever we time we have in life, there is not late in doing right things. if we understand the importance of timing then we can be successful in life and that is why we should not ignore time importance.

ohh.. so he is your best friend with whom you share everything and you have good chemistry with him. it would be not easy to wait or it would be so easy to wait for him than others because he is your best friend. if your friend is unenthusiastic in you talk and you, then you need to analyze your friendship and check - are you burden on him or you are the only one who is serious and want friendship and he is not interested and does not bother about you and your friendship? as you said, he is your best friend and that is his nature, then you should not try to change him and DO NOT expect what is not part of his nature. he can be introvert person and that is why do not show his feelings and emotions towards you. try to understand,is it his nature or he is depressed or tensed about anything because people cannot be unenthusiastic and uninterested every-time. as a friend to make him comfortable and solve his problem. if he comes late then you should tell him in way he would understand and does not feel embarrassing.