My first love broke up with me
By joevanosa
@joevanosa (303)
Philippines
June 26, 2012 10:43am CST
This is from my friend. Lets give him the advice.
"I am already in college when I fell in love. Because she was my first girlfriend, my life revolved around her. I'd write her letters, send her gifts, and call her every week. And yes, her parents are very strict - no boyfriends allowed while in school.
Then she suddenly broke up with me, citing two reasons: she wants to respect her parents' advice and concentrate on her studies. What will I do? I'm heartbroken."
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12 responses
@jorshelle (71)
• Philippines
27 Jun 12
My advice I should give to him: If he really love that girl he must respect the decision made by her girlfriend,, Although it really hurts. Follow the saying If you really meant time will let you be together, but if not there are reasons why it did not work out things, although you tried it harder.. In life, there are things, that hard to accept but yet we must.. It's a learning process in admitting the reality beyond the hurt.. And later if you move on already you tried to laugh those past situations you had..
@joevanosa (303)
• Philippines
27 Jun 12
Indeed! I like the way you have posted your comment. i have a lot of thoughts while reading your statements.
Yes, things meant to happen and what had happened really meant to happen that way. Maybe the pain is still fresh but as the moment and time go by, the wounds will heal. Whatever his decisions are, it doesn't matter any way because it is life and that's what makes him happy. And I am just here, as his friend supporting him through all the way!
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@joevanosa (303)
• Philippines
27 Jun 12
Yes you are right. Things happen for a reason and things happen in the right times and places. Maybe this is not the time for them
@joevanosa (303)
• Philippines
27 Jun 12
I dont believe it is early to be in love in school. Being inlove doesn't needs to consider the place.
Well, he just needs to accept it because the girl has something to do first in her to-do list.
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@joevanosa (303)
• Philippines
29 Jun 12
really should focus their studies. guess it wasn't the right time? not the place. the gal's decision is very much important though
@PageTurner (2825)
• United States
26 Jun 12
Hello joevanosa
I am so sorry to hear of the recent dumping of your friend by his girlfriend. Those are painful times, my friend.
However, as I have learned from similar experiences, it may very well be the best thing that ever happens to him. I am sure that he will meet other women and he will one day meet a woman who appreciates him and what an excellent boyfriend and person he is and they will be happy together.
Peace
@joevanosa (303)
• Philippines
27 Jun 12
I hope he will see things that way but how he see his life now is doomed. But of course, I am just here as a friend.
I really hope and pray that someone better would come into his life and would appreciate how great person he is.
thanks for always sharing your thoughts page turner.
God bless you always.
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@kamaeca (161)
• Philippines
2 Jul 12
i think the guy should respect her decision. in this case, he isn't the only one who got his heart broken. i think she's just trying to be honest to her parents and being obedient at that. Like me, lol. don't want love get the blame on bad grades. if there are bad grades. lol.
@joevanosa (303)
• Philippines
2 Jul 12
indeed! education for us is much more important than entertaining love. look at us! we are single! haha...am i just sour graping?! whatever it is, it doesn't matter! what matters most is that we are beautiful. chos!
@Suziecha (89)
• China
27 Jun 12
I think love is not the enemy of learning. If two people in love can handle the relationship of them very well, they would have the best result. Of course, everyone will sad in this situation. No matter what the result is, mutual respect is the most important. Best wishes!
@joevanosa (303)
• Philippines
27 Jun 12
Indeed, you are right but you know sometimes, being in love in school is not that as great as what you are thinking. It could be destructive! It steals time and attention. No one can serve two masters. however, mutual understanding is really really important thru frequent and constant communication.
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@joevanosa (303)
• Philippines
28 Jun 12
yes, this is and about life. This is a learning process for them; i hope so. being in the situation may gave them the knowledge of prioritizing things first. I know they wouldn't understand these things for now but i hope they will so soon.
thanks for the your thoughts.
@Suziecha (89)
• China
28 Jun 12
This is what life and life are. They are full of sweet, and also there are inevitable pain. This separation is really heart-wrenching, I am so sorry to hear that. But, I hope the one can have gentle and positive mind-set, getting better and better is the most things that should be done.
@Dassodils (2010)
• India
27 Jun 12
Ohh..Very sad to hear that..Love is not good at the study times..That will surely affect to their future..I am a girl..but I am agreeing that some girls are like that..they will be very close to you at first time..Then after some time,they will try to avoid the lover or try to make some gyap..most of them are saying the same reason that they have to look their parent's in future and their likes..Then I am asking that why didn't they remember about them before saying him a positive reply???I like to give him a advice that he have enough time to think..Now he have to concentrate on studies..After some years,he can go to her home straightly..and propose her..then she will not avoid him..Thank you
@joevanosa (303)
• Philippines
29 Jun 12
yeah right maybe entertaining love during studies is not that as good as it should be. it should be prioritized in different times.
thank you so much for sharing your own experience with regards to this. thank you for sharing your thoughts.
@jkct02 (2874)
• Kota Kinabalu, Malaysia
27 Jun 12
Respect her wishes if you really love her. Just wait for her to finish her studies. At the mean time, do better in your studies than her. Show her that you are a reliable guy and resolute in your determination that you will do good in your own studies and keep waiting for her.
@joevanosa (303)
• Philippines
27 Jun 12
Studies are very much important than everything. because when she will finish her studies, it would not just be beneficial for her but also to her family and to her own family in the future, perhaps.
Because if studies will be entertained with love, then it would be harder. You can not serve two masters. She needs to focus one at a time.
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@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
27 Jun 12
I know this a very hard for your friend, but I think he need to respect the decision of the girlfriend and wait for the right time. Better to finished their studies first before getting involved in a serious relationship. After they finished they studies if they really meant of each other no one can separate them. For the meantime always be with him to comfort him until he recovered from this break up.
@joevanosa (303)
• Philippines
29 Jun 12
maybe this not the right time. being in school, one should not entertain love but you know sometimes emotions can not be just taught to be let go.
best advices are given because we are all not in the situation.
@512771751 (1096)
• China
27 Jun 12
I am so sad to hear that. You are so unlucky that your lover will leave you. Try to talk with her honestly and let her know how much you love her. If she is so firmly to break up and ask her whether she will be with you after graduation.
Good luck to you
@joevanosa (303)
• Philippines
27 Jun 12
Thanks for your thoughts. Yes, communication is very much important in their relationship now. It is a matter of letting the other of how and what you feel abotu these happenings. i hope they will settle things.
Thanks!
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@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
2 Jul 12
Hi friend, sad to hear about this. But your gf is right. She must give concentration in her studies for her future. You have to wait. Education and studies is very important for our future, we can love at any time, but don't have the ability to go back to our college in our old age. So keep patience and wait for her, don't think your love is broken, it is paused temporarily
@joevanosa (303)
• Philippines
2 Jul 12
yes you are right that education really can not wait us unlike love. Because after all her future is about my future, too. if we are really destined for each other, then whatever circumstances would happen, we will be together forever. thanks for commenting here.
@JoanPauline (103)
• Philippines
5 Jul 12
Let the girl finish her studies, and then court her but in the Girl's house for the parents permission and to be able to know them. If he really loves the girl he will wait for her. And if they could be able to have relationship after her studies and with the parents approvals their relationship will be legal they can go anywhere without any worries that they may caught by the girl's parents. And they can show their love for each other freely.
