do i or don't i have a second baby shower
By kristinad
@kristinad (185)
United States
June 26, 2012 4:46pm CST
i have a 6yr son and now i am 4 months pregnant. and i was not going to have a second baby show BUT my husbands cousin is pregnant and she has a 1 1/2 yr old daughter and i just got an invitation in the mail saying she is going to have twins and how she is having a baby shower. so she is going to have 2 showers in 2 yrs.
So now my husband said if they are having one so should we. then i spoke to my girl friend about it and she said we should have one too because the kids are going to be 7yr's apart and all the stuff that i have for my son might have been recalled because of safety always changes and how the rule of thumb is after 5 yr's you can have another one and it is not tacky if you do it before hand it is.
i have no clue what to do what do you think? do you think i should have one or not?
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6 responses
@PageTurner (2825)
• United States
26 Jun 12
Hello kristinad
If you need supplies for your new baby, and your friends and family are interested in helping you, then why not have another baby shower? That's what they are for.
I am curious as to what your husbands' cousin having a shower has to do with you having a shower?
Congratulations on your new baby.
@kristinad (185)
• United States
26 Jun 12
Hello page
we never even thought of having a baby shower in till we got his cousins invite and my husband and i both thought it was tacky that they are having a seconded shower so close to the first one that is why.
@PageTurner (2825)
• United States
26 Jun 12
I see. I wasn't aware that there were rules to these things.
Still, I stand by my original response -- if there is a need for your baby, and others would like to be involved in this fun time, then have a baby shower.
Even as someone who is not aware of the proper rules, it certainly seems like plenty of time has elapsed for you to have a baby shower.
Also, as the cousin is having twins, I can see why she may want to have a new baby shower.
Peace
@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
27 Jun 12
Of course you should have one. I don' tthink the rule is that one shower per mother, I think it's one shower per child.
@deebomb (15304)
• United States
26 Jun 12
Hello kristin and welcome to myLot. Years ago when I had my kids and when my grandkids were born we didn't give showers for ourselves. It was a close friend or a distant family member that gave the shower. Times have changed so much. Have
your friend give you a shower. Seven years is a long time to keep any baby item.
@wilsongoddard (7291)
• United States
27 Jun 12
You don't throw your own shower. A close friend or relative does it.
As to having a shower for a second child... Well, again, it is someone else choosing to throw a shower for you. Some people would choose to do this for a friend or relative. Others would see it as unnecessary.
If you really want a shower, drop a not-so-subtle hint to your best friend or a close family member.
@much2say (55601)
• Los Angeles, California
26 Jun 12
I know if it were my family, we'd be given the eye if we had a second shower (the unspoken family rule in our family is having a shower just for the first child). I don't recall anyone in our family have any other baby shower other than the first. My daughter and son are almost 5 years apart (so I guess that falls borderline of your friends 5 year rule), but most of the stuff I was able to use for my second child. The baby stuff was barely used for a year, so things were in great shape for my second one too (and it was mostly unisex - so it was no biggie). The only things that needed replacing were just some clothing and washcloths - I personally didn't feel I needed a shower. And if the baby did turn out to be a girl, I would have had everything I needed because we had saved everything.
That being said, I have been to baby showers for the 2nd - and thought nothing of it other than it being a joyous occasion. Our friends adopted their 2nd child (their first was a boy, the new baby was a girl) - and at first they were expecting a long wait because they requested a much older girl. Then they got news that they could adopt a newborn girl right away, if they chose to. They did - and they needed baby stuff FAST. And we were all only happy to help out!
@bhonti (1246)
• Philippines
27 Jun 12
first of all congratulations on your second baby. I am not really familiar with baby showers, if its a way to have supplies for your future baby, and you need this event, then go for it. Just do not get stressed about the whole thing for it might harm your pregnancy.
