now I'm being selfish?
By 911Ricki
@911Ricki (13588)
Canada
June 26, 2012 7:21pm CST
My younger brother is graduating tomorrow. I have to work days and afternoon and I'm not calling In sick for him. With everything he has done and said to me I wouldn't lift a finger for him or even consider helping him. When I graduated he took a giant fit to go to my graduation from college, he stayed home and my parents agreed he didn't have to go if he didn't want too (to make him happy). Now the tables turned and I'm not willing to skip work which just skim the bills for him. I don't talk to my brother let alone go in the same room. I congradulated him that's all he's getting, he won't be getting a present and I'm not skipping work because noone pays my bills (I wouldn't expect and know he wouldn't for me). They have 4 tickets per family both my parents want to go, and my grandma, I assumed my sister was going but she has to work. His girlfriend got the last ticket (she isn't graduating as she failed). I just got yelled at for not even considering going (you have to pay for the tickets), I explained I have to work, and I have bills. I just find it funny when the tables are turned I'm being selfish.
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@911Ricki (13588)
• Canada
28 Jun 12
They asked why and said that was fine. When I asked why it was fine for her to go to work and not me they insist because she has debt to pay off, and I don't. My sister is a lot closer to my brother, I don't talk to him and avoid it like the black phlaige.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
28 Jun 12
well just let them know you have to do so many different jobs just to pay your bills and if it comes to eating or paying your rent or his graduation they don't have to ask which option any sane person will take.
@randylovesdar (4932)
• United States
27 Jun 12
I would go to work because you do need the money and I know that one of your jobs will be gone soon. If you and your brother were close I would say go, but I know that you and him are not close. I wonder if you had wanted to go if your parents would have paid for your ticket. I am sorry that your brother missed your graduation and that your parents allowed him to miss. It does not surprise me that your brother's girlfriend failed her classes. I just hope she either goes back to school or that your brother gets a job to support her.
@911Ricki (13588)
• Canada
28 Jun 12
I completely agree if I actually talked to him I would consider it. I haven't said a word to him in weeks, even when we do its usually move your car through a text message. Neither of them have a job and doubt they will lift a finger soon. I really don't know how long they will be dating since they sat there argueing and kept everyone up the other night. My younger brother was getting irritated it was actually funny, seeing him telling her off when she's being all rude and snotty.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
27 Jun 12
In my opinion, Ricki, you are not being selfish. You are just being practical. 
Since you will pay for your ticket , which you cannot afford because it would mean a cut on your budget for other bills, then it is understandable.
The presence of your parents and girlfriend would be enough. And besides, if he would change his attitude into a good one if ever you would come, then maybe you can consider going. 
Since you will pay for your ticket , which you cannot afford because it would mean a cut on your budget for other bills, then it is understandable.
The presence of your parents and girlfriend would be enough. And besides, if he would change his attitude into a good one if ever you would come, then maybe you can consider going.
@marthayunanda (16)
• Indonesia
17 Nov 12
Never Mind, selfish is basicly , part of soul human beeing. If you do not believe me try to ask to some psycology
@PageTurner (2825)
• United States
28 Jun 12
Hello 911Ricki
I am astonished that family has to buy tickets to attend their child's graduation! 
Is this a common practice in your culture?
Peace
Is this a common practice in your culture?
Peace
@kenshin2143 (1880)
• Philippines
27 Jun 12
Yeah, your being selfish dude. As what you have said, your brother did not go at your graduation. Considering that fact that he is younger, I can assume that it is just how young people act. And now, your brother will graduate and I do believe your more mature than him. If your not going to your brother's graduation day due to that lame reason, your just acting as a child considering your age gap between your brother now. So my suggestion would be for you to go on that graduation and support your little brother. Act as a mature person, not a childish one.
@911Ricki (13588)
• Canada
27 Jun 12
I'm not a dude for starters. Are youpaying for the ticket then my bills that won't be paid for the time I miss work? Didn't think so neither will anyone else. I don't talk to my brother let alone go in the same room together. I have to work since they told me less then 24 hours before and expect me to not go to work, not pay my bills, spend money on a ticket (which I don't have) then claim I'm being selfish. I think its fair since he took a fit I simple explin why I could attend and they go ripping my face off yet not one person would do that for me. I'm not going over my means of living for someone who doesn appreciate me to begin with after what my brother has said and done to me he has almost broke my nose because he didn't get his way.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
27 Jun 12
I don't blame you for not going. You have to work to pay your bills and can't just ask off or call in sick. If they had maybe asked you before hand, you could have considered it but it seems he asked you at the last minute anyway. Though I can't say I blame you for not going anyway for what I've read how he acts. I'm surprised he graduated with the way you said he skips. His gf obviously didn't and I wonder if she ever went to school then.
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
27 Jun 12
Don't mind whatever they say about you are selfish. I understood your feeling, and you don't have to be angry about it. Let them attend your brother's graduation ceremony, and let them celebrate for him. You have to make money, and you have to keep up your bill paying, that is enough excuse already. Who would help you if you got no money to pay for the bill right?
@marthayunanda (16)
• Indonesia
27 Jun 12
I think its Ok, some time we need to be selfish. basicly, its a human beeing soul to be selfish. but dont take it too much
