Look at yourself...you might need some changes

hi jai, I just look at myself and thinking if my boobs are enough oh you are not referring to physical eh! just kidding Well it is really not easy to changed specially if you get used to it but for me I don't change because people want me to change I do this because I want to be a better person not Bitter person does it make sense . SOrry I don't have state of mind now a days bear with me miss yah

I totally agree Jaiho. Though people should accept us for what we are, we should analyze some not nice traits of ours that tend to shoo people away from us. Are we hypercritical of people, then probably you can learn how not to be. It's good to hear some positive criticisms, if you take criticisms as positive.

I will admit that I know that I need some work on my personality, but I would be one of many who are this way. I think that many of us, most of us, need to work on our personalities because often times we weren't taught how to behave, or we live off of our emotions. I am trying to better myself, but I will admit that it is not easy.

hi there jaiho2009, with reference to your post, i will not exclude myself in that. as i also need changes. not only some, but i do really need it. as i need to change for a much more better living. cheers.

For my physical looks, I'm contented with what I have, no change has been made. However, I need to change my outlook, I don't have self-confidence. I just wish I can have it but I guess that would not happen.

Hi jaiho, I believe most of people need some changes when they their age add up and status change. When I am single I have very low self-esteem and lack of confidence on talking other people. But when I got married I decided to change those attitudes not for the sake of my husband but for my own sake. My husband is very friendly and has a very good communication skill to his friends, employee and employer so asked his help on how to interact other people with full of confidence and lots of self-esteem. Now that I change those attitudes I am more confident to myself.

I always believe that as time passes by we all change.. and like you i also believe no one changed over night. I for one also believe that i too did change over time but not drastically, it happened gradually after all the trials i have been through, after all the problems.. i did change and is becoming a stronger and better person. And somehow along the way i know who i am and no other person can dictate me as to who i am, not eve my own husband he would often say how stubborn i am, how much i love to speak my mind and i know somehow he loves me for it because i am just me.

We all have different adverse personalities that need to be changed my dear bonita. But what I know, though we really know how bad it is, since it is already our habit or an attitude there's no way we could perfectly change it. Just like the stripe of the tiger..as what they said..that could not be scrape-off because its stripe pierce underneath their skin. That is what also our attitude but, what I know for sure is that we can minimize or lower it down (though) not constantly but at least we give a try for the good of ourselves. Nice topic bonita.. Mobhomeir here 062812 1001hrs

Hi di I have been told n number of times and by n number of people that I should not change (they believe I am honest, blunt to keep me honest). Personally, I do want to get rid of some things that I dont feel comfortable with but then these things wont leave me as they are not curable

No one is perfect and we have a good side and bad side...we can reduce bad side only, can't make it disappear all. I am pleasant with myself...even though i am not perfect ...however i am open mind and can get any advices/comments from the others...and try my best to prove myself better day by day...

Hi jai, Yes friend. i too always look for some changes, of course it takes some time but if we decide then everything can be practical.

While it is true that other people should also accept us for what we are, we still need to change for the better. This is what we called personal development. We should assess ourselves from time to time. This way we would be able to know the things we need to change within ourselves. Soliciting feedback from friends will also help us know our strength and weaknesses.

Oh you are sooo right! I absolutely HATE it when I hear people say "this is me accept me the way I am". How arrogant! Usually people who develop this kind of attitude already know that they need to change but either refuse, can't, don't want to make the effort or just like being miserable, so they adopt this as their defence. While it is true that we should accept people as they are, it is also true that we can and do make positive changes within ourselves. We are not doing it to please others but to develop and improve our own being and life. Change is a part of life. Change is constant. Nothing ever stays the same, including people. There are so many ways and changes that one can make to improve themselves. People who refuse to change and demand to be accepted as they are, are living in darkness. When will they realize that with that type of attitude they are only hurting themselves?

yes i completely agree with you that evryone need to change themselfs for their own and on same side i thing this change is only required if everybody is mantaining a distance from you because if you start changing yourself for evryone around you their will be a day when you be start getting frustrated and you will feel empty from inside...i am sharing this beacuse i have experineced it... i had changed myself completely and you know what i was never happy then, all others were beacuse i was the way they wanted me to be not the way i wanted to be....this can make you happy for a while but sooner or later you will deinately start missing yourself....this was till the time i found the one who actually made me meet myself and accepted me and changed me too...i would say i havent change till then but all that is changes were felt by me not by anyone else....:)

Hi jaiho: I completely noticed. Some people don't realized that the main reason why one should decide to change is for your own sake. In different moments of my life I have found that I was making a big mistake. It's difficult to accept this. We have pride but there are two options: to be the same. It's our own right but we won't evolve as humans or face it and try to change they after day to be better. I think I generally chose this last option. ALVARO

yes i completely agree with you that evryone need to change themselfs for their own and on same side i thing this change is only required if everybody is mantaining a distance from you because if you start changing yourself for evryone around you their will be a day when you be start getting frustrated and you will feel empty from inside...i am sharing this beacuse i have experineced it... i had changed myself completely and you know what i was never happy then, all others were beacuse i was the way they wanted me to be not the way i wanted to be....this can make you happy for a while but sooner or later you will deinately start missing yourself....this was till the time i found the one who actually made me meet myself and accepted me and changed me too...i would not say i havent change till then but all those required changes were felt by me not by anyone else....:)