Have you ever been divorced?
@beautyoperater (1890)
United States
November 21, 2006 1:07pm CST
I was divorced after 3 and a half years from my first husband. He was very controlling and abusive mentally. We had 2 daughters together but I found happiness again and have been married for 18 years now. It was hard at first but you have to do what you have to do.
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@beautyoperater (1890)
• United States
30 Nov 06
that's why you get a good attorney that will write it up in the papers that your ex will have to pay. You may have to come up with a retainer fee but that can be paid back to you by your ex also
@beautyoperater (1890)
• United States
30 Nov 06
that's why you get a good attorney that will write it up in the papers that your ex will have to pay. You may have to come up with a retainer fee but that can be paid back to you by your ex also
@beautyoperater (1890)
• United States
30 Nov 06
that's why you get a good attorney that will write it up in the papers that your ex will have to pay. You may have to come up with a retainer fee but that can be paid back to you by your ex also
@mzbubblie (3839)
• United States
20 Jan 07
i agree, I wanted a divorce from my husband because he was VERY insecure and it really caused damage on our marriage....I dealt with it for a good year before I hit my breaking point...But get this..NOW we are the best of friends...lol
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@mzbubblie (3839)
• United States
20 Jan 07
WOw he seems to have been stressed or just going thru some stuff..I'm sorry to hear that, but happy that you and kids are happy..Happiness is really important...
@beautyoperater (1890)
• United States
30 Nov 06
Its a tough thing to go through but you can do it. There is happiness out there and you will find it.
@beautyoperater (1890)
• United States
30 Nov 06
I was married at 20 and separeted at 22 and divorced by 23. My ex was totally different to after we got married. It was real bad. Thanks for responding
@magikrose (5429)
• United States
22 Nov 06
That is awesom that you were able to find love again. I am currently married to my husband for 6yrs now. Both of our parents are divorced and also have moved on. We have our diffrences and issues but we are learning to work through them together. We also have 2 girls together, I have 2 older children from previous relations whom he totally adores.
@beautyoperater (1890)
• United States
30 Nov 06
I don't know where I would be right now if I hadn't met my current husband. He's the greatest. I'm glad you are working on your problems. I really hope every thing works out for you
@shalabi (63)
• Kuwait
2 Dec 06
No. I have never been married yet. I know many people who have been divorced and it is sad to see. The fighting also to have the divorce is sad. I wish children never have to see the parents go through these things.
I'm happy you found your true happiness after the suffering.
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@beautyoperater (1890)
• United States
4 Dec 06
thank you for that. I wish children wouldn't have to either but it happens all the time.
@leilani47 (780)
• United States
21 Nov 06
Yes, Ihave been divorced once. I remarried 3 years later.
@slybri (22)
• United States
20 Jan 07
Yes. I did get divorced. It was sad and difficult, but I was lucky. My Wife, (Ex-Wife), and I were still very friendly through it all. We lived close to each other so I had our Son for 4 nights a week and she had him 3. We made shure our son still had his "family". Sometimes we would all do something together, like a movie or dinner.
Almost 2 years after our divorce we got engaged to marry again. Seems like a happy ending, but sadly she god cancer and is now gone. I quit my work and took care of her until she passed away. It was sad and not fair and it took a long time for my Son and I to recover. The good thing was that my Ex-Wife and I got to say everything we needed to say to each other before she passed.
Sorry. I got a bit off of the subject. I know divorce can end up like a war between two people, but just remember that this person was the love of your life so it it at all possible try to at least end things in a friendly way.
@minerc (1373)
• United States
20 Jan 07
Been Married and Divorce 2 times, My first was my High School sweetheart, we married I was 18 divorced at 20, I went back to him never we never got married again, I went threw a very mentally and physically abusive relationship, I stayed for my son, when i finally let him he took my son, I remarried and had another child I was fortunate, my 1st ex let me have my son and visit with him he even came to live with me for a while. My 2nd Marriage lasted 5 years, he turned out to be a evil person, He was perfect he just had this sick thing and I couldnt deal with it. I left him and moved away started my life again, couldnt file for divorce until was seperated for a year, and 4 months after setting up my life again I met my Husband now, God threw out the Lucky stick for me this time, He is a wonderful, non abusive, non sick or evil man, I have my youngest son with me and he has 2 daughters, him and his ex has shared custody they don't get along but he gets to see his kids every weekend and has them all summer. It really is great, the 3 kids act just like real brothers and sisters. I thought Marriage was just a piece of paper that said a man could treat you like crap it's not and I didnt realize it till I was 33. Divorce isnt a good thing, and I never would have opted out of my marriages but somethings you just don't have to deal with. I have no regrets my life is Great. God has blessed me.