Somebody hurt you badly would you hurt him/her too?

Depending on what kind of hurt, physical hurt or just mental hurt. It is hard to really say if you wants to follow her request of fixing things back. How do you feel actually? You have to ask yourself. If revenge is in your mind, if you ask me, it might gives you a temporary and small amount satisfaction but for me, that is just a waste of time. The best revenge will always be to level well beyond who you were when you are with her.

Hi, In my opinion you have every right to hurt back the person who did that to you. But though this might give you momentary satisfaction, it is not really worth it. I have understood this from my own experience. As you say you are in a relationship now. If you are happy now with your partner and your ex wants to make amends, there is no point in letting that person back into your life. In fact it might not go down to well with your beloved. It is best to talk to her and see what she says. You can be friends with your ex but still I don't think that works in practical life. There are bound to be some problems in your relationship due to her presence. I do not think you should trust her again but trying to hurt her back would not be the right thing to do, I feel. Rather if you show that you are happy and in peace, it will affect her and she will regret what a valuable person she has lost.

i do not think i would want to intentionally hurt someone. if that person has badly hurt me i would just pray for the person and think what i can

It happened to me too and you know what comes up to my mind that time? Revenge is sweet! I though it would be fair and all the hatred will end if I make revenge from him but it's not the hurt would doubled when you see him getting hurt and suffering from the pain you did just to take revenge. For me forgiving would be the sweetest part of bringing back the hurt he/she gave to you because even if he did hurt you again for the second time there would be no hatred anymore because you learned to forgive already before the hurt is done to you the second time around.

Sometimes it is hard to fully trust someone once again after a hurting experience but it all depends on how you feel about her and whether you are willing to forgive.

Hi, it's not right to hurt someone that hurt you , even a lot. True , nobody want that situation happen on them, and nobody like to be hurt, especially if its involves their heart feeling . But we have to thing about this , ask yourself, ' Do I like when my heart hurt by someone?' if u say no, thats a normal and sweet answer come from your proper heart .So, why we need to do something that we dont like it happen to ourself, it's does'nt make sense ,right ? i think what u should do is , find smethng , or do something that can make you happy , even happier !! :) Dont do something that could make matters worse. remember. something batter and happier mean something good and healthy for you . Someone that hurt us badly , made a very stupid dicision.They maybe dont realise how much they need you, but someday they will realise that .. just go on with your new life and try to be happy for it .

I think it's a natural inclination for us to want to get back at someone who hurt us. But we should do our best to avoid getting back at someone. That usually only makes things worse. You have to decide what you really want and what is best for you.

For me, Its better to forgive her and forget all the heartaches that she did to you before.. Everyone deserves a second chance. Lets make our life simple and Be happy!

Hi DenverLC, I am sorry to see people in situations like these because it really does put someone at a confused state of mind. You have my deepest sympathy. I was put in the same situation and you know what? It is very rare for a lepord to change its spotsif you know what I mean. Once upon a time I ruined a great relationship for my ex who filled my head with what I wanted to hear. As far as giving her another chance, think about the pros and cons and do the same with the one you're with now and look to see if the good outweighs the bad or vice versa. Maybe that will help you sort things out mentally before you do what I did and make a bad decision. Remember the hearache your ex caused you and how mad you are at her now that you want her to feel your pain? You already know what that road is like now and every relationship is a learning experience. I would just take it for what it was and move forwards, not backwards. I was once told that you can't drive a car while looking in the rear view mirror. You may forgive, but you will never forget. The mother of all revenge is karma :) Best of luck to you!

In my opinion, you should not hurt her, I mean. don't stood on her level, be a better person and in terms of trusting her again? well, it depends. trusting is a big thing and Im sure even though you've accepted her again. it will be hard for you to trust her, letting go of your pride and present relationship will be worth it if you love the girl you love before than your pride and present relationship. just choose, balance things which is will make you happy? you former or present love? your pride or her? Only you can answer that. :)