Pleasing everyone is an impossible thing
By pinkpiglet
@pinkpiglet (330)
Philippines
June 27, 2012 12:47pm CST
Everyone is different. The looks, the views, the lifestyles, the choices, the opinions, etc. The list just goes on. We meet new people everyday of our lives. We try to make a good impression, but forget to be who we really are. I guess it's just human nature that we want to please other people. We want them to like ourselves, even if it would have to mean putting up on a mask or a fake personality just to show them the "good side".
But no matter how we try to please other people, it's just impossible to please everyone. Why? It's in our nature to look for flaws, especially those of other people. When someone is really good at something, or when someone is really good-looking, we tend to look for their flaws, or anything that could emphasize their "imperfection".
Why can't we all just appreciate each other? Is it so hard to accept each other and just simply be pleased with whoever he or she is?
What now if he or she is better than you are? Or if he or she has got a huge house or a dozen of cars? What now? Why do we have to be better than the other all the time?
9 responses
@Rick1950 (1575)
• Lima, Peru
5 Jul 12
I think your discussion is very interesting. It is a fact that we can't please everyone. But I think we shouldn't always strive to please everyone, although we have need to be recognized. It's simply impossible, because people change frequently, like the wind.
I think it's not good to appreciate someone due the wealth he can have, although many people do this. A person should be appreciated for his inner values, which make from him a good human being. The fact is that in our 'civilized' world these inner values are not promoted, specially from the side of the media; thus money, youth, power, to have a brand new car, etc. are the things, which the people want to achieve, in order to be recognized by the society.
People is more tolerant with someone who has money. It doesn't matter the race, the skin colour or if he is a gangster. It's a pity but in many cases this is true.
@acey76 (1276)
• Philippines
28 Jun 12
As the saying goes " you can't please everybody" No matter how you try you can't ignore being judge by your actions good or bad. Everyone's entitled to it's own opinion, the best solution is just do the good things, If they say something against you just don't mind them.
@stanley777 (9402)
• Philippines
28 Jun 12
Yes, as you have said no two individual is same. Everyone of us have his/her own distinct qualities that differ us from anyone but each one may have certain qualities that may be the same with others. Pleasing everyone is a different thing. Some will do anything just to please someone maybe because he/she cares for that person. Others will do it, but with the intention of getting something in return. So I think it's a natural thing to most of us, to do something to please everyone even though we knew that it's not possible, because most of us don't know the real meaning of satisfaction.
@polaris77 (2039)
• Bacau, Romania
28 Jun 12
I agree completely with your opinions;personally,I consider that this diversity of the way we look,of lifestyles and of visions of life is great,I would find it really boring if people looked and acted the same,and I think every person in the world should have the right to express his or her personality,but unfortunately there are many restrictions in some cultures where freedom is extremely limited.Anyway,creating a good impression on all the people we get in touch with is unfortunately an utopia,because the selfish and mean nature of many people makes them search for our flaws at any cost.I guess that by trying to find fault at others those people somehow try to feel better with themselves,they try to justify their own flaws by thinking that others are worse than them.This is the kind of persons I dislike the most,and I try to ignore them.Anyway,it's indeed impossible to please everyone,so the best thing we can do is to be ourselves,because if we try to look and act fake,not as we feel inside,we'll be very,very unhappy.
@Goldenladyrege (104)
• Philippines
28 Jun 12
Maybe because of the crab mentality... Some people will bring you down especially if you have succeeded or had an accomplishment made. Another thing is envy, which also ruins ones personality. Because they are envious of what you have achieved others will find fault.
Well, you cannot do anything about it because God made us unique to each other. Although, He wants us to be perfect but He gave us the freedom to choose, on what we want to be, either to do good deeds or bad ones. Conscience dictates in us what is the best way but still because of the hardness of the heart, others tend to do bad things.
So, to sum it all up, do not bother yourself about the things that others does but concentrate on the good things that you can do to others. Maybe, if they will see that you only want to do good deeds you will be their light to begin with. Sometimes Golden Rule should apply, for which if you do good things to others they will do the same to you.
@CODYMAC (1356)
• San Diego, California
27 Jun 12
Hello, pinkpiglet. I think everyone in life wants to be noticed and they do many things to bee seen. it is not that they all are looking for recognition, but that we all have this need to be loved.
Sometimes pleasing others is just the way to make ourselves feel better. Sometimes it is out of love, or out of the need to "fix" something that is wrong with ourselves. It may be real or imagined.
I like to help others because it is Biblical, and once someone does something for another, you feel like you are walking on air. (I am speaking for myself, of course.)
We have an issue accepting one another, because it is that we think that we are just better than everyone else. This can be the opposite as well. Being an individual is how it is. We all think differently, even if we have the same values, or beliefs.
That is a good thing, for the most part. Anyway, I hope that this answered some of the questions that you asked.. Have a great day. 
@doroffee (4222)
• Hungary
27 Jun 12
I have this crazy urge to please everyone, or, well, I had. I don't know why, I think it's stemming from inside, I just wanna be on good terms with everybody. But I had to learn that there's no one EVERYONE likes, and it's impossible to live up to every single person's expectations, especially if they are opposing each other. I've had a really hard phase in high school, I lost self-confidence, I was tired, I only cared about studying etc., and I know it was because I wanted to prove to every single teacher and my parents who had expectations... and of course you can't live up to all of them.
@goharthegreat (51)
• India
27 Jun 12
yes, you are right that you cant please every one.
i have heard a proverb that
friend to all is friend to non.
it means that when someone is acting that he is friend to all and pleasing every one he/she is wrong because no one can.. but you can atleast please few one of them and for that you can make so many sacrifices..
just try to make every one happy..
take care
gohar
