I really want to start working
@thresholdofreality (119)
Philippines
June 27, 2012 12:49pm CST
Hey guys!
I know I haven't been active here for a few months now, but since I'm stuck at home with nothing to do, I thought I might as well give mylot another shot. Since I've been gone, I graduated from college, and I'm excited to start working as soon as I can. Upon talking with my parents, my mom told me to go ahead and start applying. I did just that, and a few days later, three companies made their interest of my application known. I was really excited - I know there was a high possibility that these companies wouldn't even hire me, but hey, the fact that my application was shortlisted is already a big thing right?
Anyway, the thing is my dad doesn't want me to work yet. He wants me to rest for a while, and to work on my health (I'm overweight, you see) so he made me cancel my scheduled interviews. That would be fine with me, but he doesn't give me money. Asking money from him is such a horrible prospect, because he doesn't really want to give me some to begin with. Now, I literally have no money, and I feel helpless like you can't imagine. Nowadays, I wake up, eat, blog, go to the gym, and the whole cycle repeats itself.
This might be a petty problem, but I just want to start working, and he won't let me. The only way he'll let me start working is if I shed some weight and that's 4 to 6 months away. Imagine having no money of your own for 6 months. Also, I'm scared that some opportunities are passing me by - I'm scared that there would be no job opportunities 6 months from now.
I guess I'm here to vent. I'm just scared, penniless, confused, and I feel like I have no freedom.
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10 responses
@suzzy3 (8341)
•
27 Jun 12
Get out there and start jogging ,show him you mean business.Go for interviews if you work you will be more active and lose wait quicker ,suggest this to him.I think it is a bit unfair he is stopping you from getting a possible job especially in this day and age.He loves you and wants the best ,so get jogging.dancing,walking fast swinging your arms.Prove to him you mean what you say.show him you mean business.Your father loves you so respect his wishes but being broke all the time is no fun.Talk to him gently and explain things from your point of view.
@thresholdofreality (119)
• Philippines
12 Jul 12
Thanks for the kind words. I've been working out and eating less, and I really hope that he sees I'm motivated.
@liweiwei0909 (403)
• China
28 Jun 12
Hi:
Same like you, I have not been here for a long time, but different with you, there is so busy in my job. My life is filled with bussiness, all of my time is killed in the boring things. For some time, I wanted to quit. Then to follow my dreams. But the reality don't allow!
I just want to say, everything has two sides, all the result depends what do you do...
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
28 Jun 12
Oh, why does your dad want you stay at home only and don't go to work?
You are overweight but you can do lose weight by working also...You have to talk with your dad about it once again. You need money and need working too, if he doesn't support money to you, then you have a right to go to work. You have a right to decided what should you do right? stay at home only is very boring..
@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
28 Jun 12
wow thresholdofreality, well how old are you that you can not
deside to go get a job on your own, without the ok from your
dad..I must be missing something...What are you suppose to do
for the next 6 months...If you have finished college you certainly
is old enough to get a job and fend for yourself...What are
you suppose to do for money the next 6 months...
U need to speak with someone who can help your situtation...try
with all your might not to get depressed...But I wish you all
the luck ,,,
@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
28 Jun 12
Hi friend, good to know that you finished your graduation and ready for job. As you mentioned your dad wish you to rest for some time. You can use mylot to pass your time, as you stated that you are going to gym to reduce your weight, hope you will get good results from it. Be active here and make lot of friends to get fun.
@airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
28 Jun 12
good day thresholdofreality,
with reference to your query, well, what you feel right now is just normal. since you are just a newly grad, and you are that eager to land into a new venture perhaps. in that instance, why not giving a try working on at online job. since your dad want you to have rest for a while. so why not use that opportunity to earn at home. aside from this site, for sure, you can have more. and for sure, you will gonna earn for the span of months doing it. although it will not as big as you expect but who knows, there are online millionaires who did not expect that they will become a millionaire and it just happen. as their income became a passive one. thus in this world, we can never really tell who will be the true millionaires but if you keep on striving and working hard, being a millionaire is surely coming on your way. just give it a try, if you have the internet plus your machine then this will equates to an income generated online.
@minnie0923 (136)
• United States
27 Jun 12
Please do not take this the wrong way, but your dad just wants to have control over you. You cannot lose weight if you can't really do anything. The gym is great, but when you get a job a lot of times you need to get up to make copies and then you can walk around the job site when you are on breaks. He wants to keep you as a child and sadly he is winning. Believe me I know what controlling dads are like. My dad was in the Marines for 21 years, talk about a man who can make you feel horrible with 2 words and a look. I think you need to tell him to either pay you an income so you can spend your time at the gym 24/7 or he can let you get a job. Scarey as hell I know, but its your life in the end.
@kingjay071 (96)
• United States
27 Jun 12
My thing with this situation is that you are at that age of making your own decisions and you are hurting yourself by not taking upon your own actions. You completed college on your own so why aren't you able to make the decision to make money and lose weight at the same time.
@Shazooo (296)
• Malaysia
27 Jun 12
Judging by how you've graduated, I presume you're pretty old already. If so, why are you still letting your dad running your life? You should create your own path. It's not that I'm asking to defy what ou father is telling you do, but I'm advising you to take his advise and consider if it's the best choose for you. And why do you have to shed some weight in order to start working? Unless you are looking into being a fitness coach, I don't see why you have to shed weight to get a job. You can do that WHILE you are already working.
