In Laws

I would kill myself..but not after killing them first!

hi greenmoo fourth time cop y and paste now. my inlaws lived in Walla Walla washington , we in California.,when we went to visit his mom I fell in love with her as she was so sweet. if she had come to visit us I would not have minded.But my hubby's sister Betty c me to visit us and she always made me feel like I was not measuring up.for one thing they all were upset that I was not a SeventH Day Adventist and I was sad as I am a Methodist instead. She was pretty critical of all I did and made me feel badly as she seemed to think I was not good enough for her brother. We were about the same age and at times she seemed to like me then she did something to make me feel really bad. 'I must say I was glad when she left.

I live alone and glad of it. Having in laws or any family to stay for a short period is a problem for me so having someone here fro a prolonged and unspecified period would be a real trial. I hope it goes well for you. You seem pretty OK with it so I'm sure things will be cool.

They'd have to find me first. Plus, they'd be ghosts.

Both my son in law's and my daughter in law are such lovely people that we have a wonderful relationship....I consider them my son's and daughter. Especially my DIL....I always tell her that if I could have picked another daughter....it would have been her!

My in laws have passed now.. but I did not get along with them too well when they were alive. They drove me absolutely bonkers, and were completely clueless as to what it was they did that was so annoying. My MIL was very extreme. She'd pop over unannounced, which drove me crazy, and we'd have talks with her about just calling first to make sure it was calm enough here for her to visit.. and instead she'd take that as we didn't want her to come over at all.

Personally, this is something I am not sure I would be able to handle as I am not one who really gets along with either of my Husbands parents, or Step Parents, so this would be an almost impossible choir to say the least. Problem is I am set in my ways and have my thoughts and opinions as do they, and so most of the time we clash. I would not wish this to happen in reality unless I knew it was not going to make me even more miserable for sure.

Hi there Green Moo! I am quite lucky when it comes to that department. i like my in-laws and even though I have never experienced having my mother-in-law over for a long time, my father-in-law have done that before and I really do not have any problems with that. In fact, they are welcome to come and visit anytime they want.

I love my inlaws, even though I'm no longer married to their son. We always got along very well, probably because they were very considerate. Father always said that visitors were like fish--they both began to stink after a couple of days! And Mother never criticized how I raised the kids or kept the house but she did know how to get things done without making me feel inadequate if she saw something that was neglected or I didn't have time to do. I'm still in contact with my inlaws and we exchange emails at least twice a month, send cards on birthdays and holidays. I hope you have a lovely visit with your MIL!

I have lived all my married life with my parents in law just a stone's throw away. It is partly gratifying sometimes because they help us raise our kids. But what i do not like is the way the meddle with our life. Since they gave us almost everything including the house, I think they think they can just blurt out anything they want to say without even thinking how much hurtful it would be. But you are lucky to have a wonderful mother in law. Try to know her more. I am sure you'll get along real fine and you will see your own mother in her.

Crossing the border reminds me of the fact that you were not born and bred in UK.You seem to come from Portugal ,if my memory serves me well.I understand how you felt at the moment when you got a call.You worried about if you can get along well with your mother in law.I don't know about you,I find out over here many of MIL and DIL are not on good terms together and their ideas invariably clash.I guess It is due to different blood relationship.If it is daughter,that is quite another story.Of course there are many that get along quite well.I think making allowances for each other is the precondition.I am sure you can certainly be on good terms with each other.

Hello GreenMoo Have you had any warning prior to this recent call, or is this something that you and your mother in law have been planning? It sounds like you are quite gracious about her coming and her long planned stay. I hope that the two of you get along grandly and have a marvelous time together. You are quite fortunate to have such a relationship with her. My mother in law is a pistol. She is funny and fun to be around. I would be happy to hear that she and/or my father in law were coming to spend the summer with us. It would be a wonderful time. I have been truly blessed with such wonderful in-laws. However, I must say that Mrs. Turner would not be able to say the same about my mother, as my mother is quite dreadful and I wouldn't be surprised if she was, in fact, the Devil (if I believed in such.) Mrs. Turner would be thrilled if my Dad was coming to visit, as he was a lot of fun and they got along wonderfully. Peace

Hi friend, good to hear that your MIL planned to stay with you, it clearly shows that you both have a good relationship, my mother is very strict person and my wife always keep a certain distance from her. My MIL is very kind and i move with her very smoothly like my own mum

My relationship with my mother in law is very bad, and since then, I would definitely crazy if I had to spend more than a week with her. We have incompatible personalities.

I haven't stayed with my wife's parents yet. I have seen them a couple of times and have talked to them for a while but was not able to spend much time with them. My father in law is a funny man and very easy to get along with. My mother in law and the rest of my wife's family seldom talk and would only talk to me to ask if I need something or if I am doing fine. If I tried to talk to them, they would smile and answer. I think they are just shy.