how would you feel? what would you do?

When I discovered that my husband secretly exting, chatting or sexting with other girls maybe I will cry and my heart will be broken in to small pieces. I dont even imagine how would I react on this betrayal situation but I figured out that these must be painful and hard for me.

Devastated! __

How would I feel? What would I do? First I would ask myself if he had done anything out of the bounds of our relationship. Have we talked about this? Is this taboo? For me it would be taboo in the relationship. I live by the Golden Rule and especially in any relationship I would have. I wouldn't do this if I was in a relationship and I would surely have made this clear to my partner. And only if he agreed that it wasn;t okay would I even be in a relationship with someone. So, that being said, I would probably leave the relationship. When these things happen they rarely stop. It is betrayal. A trust has been broken. You will never totally trust this person again. People who want to have these little adventures with others don't need to be in a manogemous relationship. They need to be single!

If I saw it that would certainly upset me. There was a norm in Africa I am told years ago that advised robbers that they could plunder and loot but not get caught!

If I catch my husband doing that all, I will get very angry. If he does that, that means he is tired of me and don't want me anymore. So, I will leave. hehehe

Hello the psychoartist Were I to discover that Mrs. Turner had been consistently involved in clandestine electronic communications with someone other than me, I would be shattered. Devastated. Such knowledge would break my heart into a gazillion pieces and would cause my world to collapse as if sucked into a black hole. I would feel that this is a betrayal of trust as Mrs. Turner and I have discussed this very thing. For some couples, I suppose it is nothing. But Mrs. Turner and I are wholly devoted to each other. Were I to find out that she had another life in the virtual world, I would be shaken to my very core. Peace

I'd be crushed, shocked, hurt and afraid. If it is not a betrayal of trust why is it being kept secret? If it is just my partner/significant other having fun, why not share with me? The way I see stuff like this, if you can't tell me about it then you know it's wrong.

If I'm married to him I would care less! If it were my boyfriend , I would set him free. Obviously he is not satified with me so he should find someone else.

To me,all of this is cheating! Big time! I would be so angry I would end the relationship right away! I would not even give the guy a chance to explain! It would be betrayal and I could not trust the person anymore! That kind of behavior is uncalled for!

This would definitely be something that would be a breach of trust in the relationship and if it was to happen in my relationship, I would suggest to my husband that it would probably be time that we seek some therapy for our relationship. The reason that I believe that therapy would be in line is because of the fact that if something like this happened in our relationship, there would clearly be something about our relationship that was broken.

I would feel betrayed and cheated on. With that said, texting or chatting maybe ok depending on the topic. My husband has friends that are female, and I have no issue with it. Of course he doesn't keep it a secret. If he did it would be an issue. I can read his texts, emails and Facebook anytime I choose to, as he can mine. Sexting is an absolute no, no matter who it is. I can only hope my husband understands how disastrous this would be to our marriage.

Is this relationship all in your/their mind? What kind of things do they text/sext/chat about? Anything that wouldn't be going through their minds anyway? If you see they were doing it during work or -some 'event' you two were sharing (night out or in together), you could get onto them for that. but better to show them 'what they are missing when they waste time like that.'