Jealousy, is it healthy?

I have this problem i get jealous so often, I am trying very hard to not do that anymore. I think it will ruin a relationship, we have gotten in fights over it.

I don't think jealousy is present in every relationship, but it's not uncommon. I think sometimes it can signify a lack of trust. However, other times it can be a good incentive for the two in the relationship to be faithful to one another and to treat the other how they would want to be treated. To me, jealousy usually carries with it a negative connotation, but like I said before, it can definitely be a good thing too! It depends on the individual and the relationship itself. When I met my husband, he was with another girl. I didn't care because we were friends. I'm a pretty easygoing person, and I wasn't looking for love anyway. However, this other girl was very insecure and extremely jealous. I think that's why I associate jealousy with her and view it as a bad thing. As a result, she was very rude to her then boyfriend and my now husband. Because she treated him so badly, he ended the relationship, and our friendship grew into more. I think whether or not the relationship lasts longer with or without jealousy depends on the people and the relationship.

Many are saying this as part of a healthy relationship that at times one party will get jealous with someone his or her partner met. I guess this is just a defense mechanism from both parties to watch over their partner and just trying to protect the relationship from being taken away from each other. But many times when jealousy is aroused in relationship it often ends uncontrollable anymore making more damaging than getting a healthy relationship and all. I guess when one party feels jealous that person should always weigh if it is justified to feel it or just a selfish emotion emanating from insecurity of oneself. If that comes from that then he should control it because it becomes damaging than helping the relationship last long.

Speaking from experience I've never been 'jealous' in a relationship. Even if I did it would just be part of a 'human nature' instinct to me I think. Thing's even like jealousy can be healthy in small doses (gotta learn to deal with it properly). However once it gets to the stage of checking up on a partner, following them, asking them 100 questions about who they were with, what they were doing and so on can most likely kill the relationship quicker than it took to get it started.

I think it is, to an extent. I do think that if somebody doesn't feel a tad bit of jealousy and bad inside when another girl/boy is acting promiscuous or too nice to their boyfriend/girlfriend at all and they don't genuineley care at all, they don't love that person that much. But overly heavy jealousy is not healthy at all, I mean, when someone wants to stop their partner to talk to anyone or smile at anyone from the other gender.

I would find jealousy disturbing in my relationships if it occurs even in the smallest of reasons. Like if my boyfriend gets jealous over me watching my favorite shows... It would depend on what the reasons are behind the jealousy, I'd say.

Jealousy can be a relationship killer. It doesn't show how much you love but how insecure you are!If you are with the one you love And they love you back, you should feel supported not jealousy. In a good relationship there Must be trust. If one partner is jealous , it shows they really don't trust their partner. It is so sad and it can be hard ,really hard to stop.

yep, jealousy may be existing in every relationships, but i believe it is not a must-have. first of all, before you get jealous, try to think on why you should be, and think of an immediate "solution" to prevent being one. jealousy never makes you healthy: it only adds wrinkles, it help your blood pressure rise, or it might even lead you to heart attack! if you trust each other, there is no need to be jealous. trust is the only and greatest thing that makes every relationships healthy.

Like somebody said, when anything exceeds the limit,can turn bad.. I think jealousy is important in a relationship as little of it can keep them together but too much is more irritating to be called their relationship love.. right?

I think jealousy is human nature but too much jealousy is quite bad especially if it will lead to violence.

Yes, I do think jealousy is healthy. It is a natural human emotion. The sad part is that it can drive folks to kill though. That is not a good side affect of it, but we all have to learn to control our emotions.

If there is a valid reason to get jealous there is nothing wrong with that. Why we should hide what we really feel inside and just endure the pain? It's not healthy in a relationship if you know something is wrong and you just don't try to talk things with your partner. I think both of you should clarify your expectations with each other. Having too much jealousy is not healthy too in a relationship. So everyone should have a balance view of it.