Motherhood Is 24/7 Job - No Day Off!

I'm a mom too and I know the hardships and reward of being one. But I suggest that you give yourself a break. We all need to pause even just for a while. You should also find time for your husband. When he ask for a date, go for it, or else he might ask another girl. I'm sure you don't want this to happen.

Hi Alicia, It's good to know that you are really devoted to your kids. I myself thinks that I'm not paying attention to myself anymore.. it's just kids, kids, kids. But you know what, that way of think isn't really the best for the family. Family involves husband and wife and their kids. And as mom's we need to know our obligations. (Hard to admit but we have the MOst responsibility than the rest of them.) as a Wife, we also need to take of our husbands too. Take care of the relationship in order to protect our bonds. As a mother, we also need to take care of our kids, guide them so they can grow as we want them to... you know, kind, god fearing.. etc. and as an individual, we need to take care of ourselves too. Imagine if we get sick due to our negligence. How are we going to go through all the job at home? BEing a mom is no easy job, just like you said it's 24/7 - NO DAY OFF - and NO SALARY even! But it is the most rewarding job ever. Being loved by the man who loves us, loved by those kids you adore, and seeing that you have a happy and healthy family is more than enough. Don't you think? ^__^

I know what you mean. Being a mother is a full time job. You don't only take care of the kids, you also have to clean the house, and cook food, and still find time with your kids and husband. Both my husband and I work, and we've hired a nanny to take care of our 3 year old while we're away. We both work the graveyard shift, so when we get home, we go to sleep while everyone is awake during the day. Sometimes, I sacrifice a little sleeping time so that I can hang out with my kid, and then I go to sleep a few hours before I need to get up and go to work again. But even with the lesser time to hang out with my kid, I still feel the need to get a break once in a while. The only break I usually take is going to bed early and getting a full 8 hours of sleep! That's probably the only indulgence I was able to give myself. We don't usually go to the mall or anything on Sundays because during Sundays we tend to spend the entire day at church attending service and doing church stuff. We both have shift on Saturdays, too. So no going out on Saturdays. The only day we really get to rest is during the weekdays. It's really tiring when you think about it, but on the whole, it's very rewarding. It's some sort of accomplishment. My only comfort is thinking that my parents used to do the same, and more. And they didn't even hire a nanny for me. My mom didn't work until I started going to school. She took care of me on her own, and even took in some kids to baby sit when I was still a kid.

Yes it is. I am almost done raising my son because he will be 18 not too long from now. It was one of the hardest accomplishments that I have had to go through. I would say spend as much time with your kids as possible though because time will pass on by. We mothers do deserve a break too.

be a mother is a full time job!! but it is a happy moment when a kid said "mom, thanks for everything" !!

I undestand completely. my son is one year and five months and now i need braek....but still breasfeed all nigth and he is hooked up to me... therefore we can't go out with my husband. sometimes I leave my son with my mother for an hour-two but only during the day, evening or night my son is always with me...

I am not a parent but have lots of friends who are and yes you need alone time and date nights! I can understand not wanting to depend on the hubbys family to watch the kids because when i have kids i would rather have my family watch them instead. I know them better and would just feel more comfortable. And I could ask them straight out am i being a burden leaving them with you or are you okay with watching them as i go out. Yes kids are priority but so is a life with you and your hubby once and awhile. It is a nice treat for both of you

alicia I think it hurts your husband that you refuse to go out on a dinner date because of the kids,he deserves to have your company he did come first before the kids.and make friends with his familyh and let grandmom sit your kids.I am sure she is not a child molestor and you can always phoneif you are worried.I think your husbandneed you as wife for a few hours and you deserve that break.my husbamd got my mom to baby sit every f riday night so we had a date for just us two. it was so lovely and my mom loved baby sitting too. all of us enjoyed this.Our kids got spoiled outof their gourds and we felt like just married sagain for awhile.

It is a 24/7 Job but you can always have a day off or even a longer vacation leave if you want. Give yourself a break. You deserve it. It's really hard to be a mother. You have to do just about everything to manage your household and to nurture your children nevertheless this does not mean you are no longer entitled to a day off. You are and you can do it tomorrow if you want.

Your first priority should be to take care of yourself. After you take care of yourself, then you should concentrate on your relationship with your husband. The two of you have to be healthy to be able to form a united front to take care of your children. I realize you made this post seven months ago, but I thought it important to "chime" in. I understand you wanting to put your children first, most mother's do, but in order to take care of those children, you have to take care of yourself first. It's like when you are in an airplane and they give you instructions on putting on your face mask. You always put your face mask on first and then worry about those around you. I hope you get some time with your hubby. Taking care of the marriage is important to stay together for the children.

All moms deserve to have a break. Also, you have to give you husband ample time to bond with him. We all are wives first before we became mothers and it is important that we balance the roles we play in our lives :)

I totally agree with you, being a mother is a full time job. Even if you do take a break, you're still "on call." However, even though you might feel guilty, a mother needs to have a break every once and a while. After having a break you will feel much better!

well that is true,so now I am doing Time management and multitasking.. in order to have time for myself. and going out with them is one my my pleasure.Just like what I am doing right now I am here in front of computer having a typing job surfing here in my lot and my daughter is reviewing her english book beside me. I am guiding her since she have periodical test today.. while zipping a hot coffee! I am a full time mother and have a work at home job to supplement her needs. I love,I am happy and I am proud what I am doing.from this i feel important and valuable to other, as they said to lived a life with others is worth living especially if it is your daughter.I make sure that I don't neglect my health and them too.I watched their diet I make sure I always give them balanced diet food and which is good for their health and not will cause them sickness. ( well sometimes there is exemption especially when we go out and eat in a fast food chain restaurant like KFC and jollibee)

so very sweet of you @alicia812,even my mom says the same.I think not only my mom,but all the moms in the world.They are just simply amazing and i can't even imagine one day without her.But unfortunately my missing her toooooo very much,from the past 2 years,because im out there for my graduation in another country.But a big salute to all the moms

yes your right...even though we are already a mother we need also a break ones in a while...

Not only do you need an occasional break from the children, you need to keep you relationship with your husband alive. Find a babysitter and go out with him when he asks.

I agree you should take some time for either yourself or to go out with you husband. I know at first it was hard for me to give my daughter to anyone outside of em and my husband. After a few months I relaxed more and more. There are certain people I feel okay leaving my daughter with so me and my husband can just have a few hours to ourselves.We go out every 3 months and normally it's family that offers we don't ask. The only time I ever ask them to watch our daughter is when I have a doctors appointment and my husband can't get off to help out with our daughter. It's important as a mom to have that relaxing time to just be free of no kids. I know now I feel more comfortable that after my second baby is born here in the next few weeks that I can just leave one or both of them and not feel bad about it. We don't like trying to take advance of our family and they tell us all of the time that both me and my husband work to hard so it's not that we are taking advantage of them they love spend that time with there great grandkids. Yesterday my husbands grandmother that we call Mamaw watched my daughter while I went to my ultrasound to check in on my other baby. She told me when I dropped off of my daughter if it was okay to keep her for the afternoon so I could just relax and have some mommy time to myself. I told her it was okay with me. They had a really good afternoon together playing, going shopping and looking at shoes.

Looking after kids can be very stressful so u need to go out to av a bit of break it really helps

I understand how its like to be a full time mother and be devoted to it. You definitely need a break and shouldn't be guilty about it. I am raising 2 boys of my own and found out that it is not healthy for me and my relationship with my husband if I don't give myself a break. It would take its toll on you and might affect the relationship you have with your husband. I know it is always the children first but you can still do little things for yourself and your husband. Some women tend to focus entirely on he kids that they forget about themselves and that they are married....